Zolakwa Zomwe Makolo A Ana A Nkhawa Amapanga

Kodi makolo angathandize bwanji? Choyamba, mvetsetsani zomwe simuyenera kuchita. Nkhawa za achinyamata zimaonekeranso chimodzimodzi, koma zimene makolo amachita zimasiyana malinga ndi mmene analeredwera m’banjamo. Nazi zolakwika 5 zofala pakulera.

1. Amathandizira achinyamata kukhala ndi nkhawa.

Makolowo anamumvera chisoni mwanayo. Amafuna kuthetsa nkhawa zake. Iwo akuyesera kuchita chirichonse chotheka pa izi.

• Ana amasiya kupita kusukulu n’kuyamba kuphunzira zakutali.
• Ana amaopa kugona okha. Makolo awo amawalola kugona nawo nthawi zonse.
• Ana amaopa kuyesa zinthu zatsopano. Makolo samawalimbikitsa kuti achoke m'malo awo otonthoza.

Thandizo kwa mwanayo liyenera kukhala loyenera. Osamukankha, komabe mulimbikitseni kuti ayese kuthetsa mantha ake ndi kumuthandiza pa izi. Thandizani mwana wanu kupeza njira zothetsera nkhawa, limbikitsani kulimbana kwake m'njira iliyonse.

2. Amakakamiza wachinyamata kuchita zomwe akuwopa posachedwa.

Cholakwika ichi ndi chosiyana ndendende ndi cham'mbuyomu. Makolo ena amayesa mwamphamvu kwambiri kuti athetse nkhawa za achinyamata. Zimakhala zovuta kwa iwo kuona mwanayo akuvutika, ndipo amayesa kumuchititsa mantha maso ndi maso. Zolinga zawo ndi zabwino kwambiri, koma amazichita molakwika.

Makolo otere samvetsa kuti kuda nkhawa n’chiyani. Amakhulupirira kuti ngati mukakamiza ana kuti ayang'ane ndi mantha, ndiye kuti zidzatha nthawi yomweyo. Kukakamiza wachinyamata kuchita chinachake chimene sanakonzekere, tingangowonjezera vutolo. Vutoli limafuna njira yabwino. Kugonjera ku mantha sikungathandize wachinyamata, koma kupanikizika kwambiri kungakhalenso ndi zotsatira zosayenera.

Phunzitsani mwana wanu kuti athane ndi zovuta zazing'ono. Zotsatira zazikulu zimabwera kuchokera ku zigonjetso zazing'ono.

3. Amaika chitsenderezo pa wachinyamata ndikuyesera kuthetsa mavuto ake kwa iye.

Makolo ena amamvetsetsa tanthauzo la kuda nkhawa. Amamvetsetsa bwino kwambiri kotero kuti amayesa kuthetsa vutolo kwa ana awo okha. Iwo amawerenga mabuku. Kuchita psychotherapy. Amayesa kutsogolera mwanayo ndi dzanja panjira yonse ya kulimbana.

Ndizosasangalatsa kuona kuti mwanayo sakuthetsa mavuto ake mwamsanga monga momwe mukufunira. Zimakhala zamanyazi mukamvetsetsa maluso ndi maluso omwe mwana amafunikira, koma sagwiritsa ntchito.

Simungathe "kumenyana" ndi mwana wanu. Ngati mukuyesera kumenyana kwambiri kuposa wachinyamata mwiniwakeyo, pali mavuto awiri. Choyamba, mwanayo amayamba kubisa nkhawa pamene zosiyana ziyenera kuchitika. Chachiwiri, amadzimva kuti ali ndi katundu wosapiririka. Ana ena amangotaya mtima chifukwa cha zimenezi.

Wachinyamata ayenera kuthetsa mavuto ake. Mutha kuthandiza.

4. Amaona ngati wachinyamata akuwasokoneza.

Ndakumana ndi makolo ambiri amene ankakhulupirira kuti ana amangokhalira kuda nkhawa kuti apeze zomwe akufuna. Amanena zinthu monga: "Iye ndi waulesi kwambiri kuti apite kusukulu" kapena "Sawopa kugona yekha, amangokonda kugona nafe."

Achinyamata ambiri amachita manyazi ndi nkhawa zawo ndipo amachita chilichonse kuti athetse vutoli.

Ngati mukuona kuti nkhaŵa ya achinyamata ndi njira ina yowakokera mtima, mudzakwiya ndi chilango, ndipo zonsezi zidzakulitsa mantha anu.

5. Samvetsetsa nkhawa

Nthawi zambiri ndimamva makolo akunena kuti: “Sindikumvetsa chifukwa chake amaopa zimenezi. Palibe choipa chimene chinamuchitikirapo.” Makolo amazunzidwa ndi kukayikira: "Mwina akuvutitsidwa kusukulu?", "Mwina akukumana ndi vuto lamalingaliro lomwe sitikudziwa?". Kawirikawiri, zonsezi sizichitika.

Zomwe zimayambitsa kuda nkhawa zimatsimikiziridwa ndi majini ndipo zimatengera kwa makolo. Ana oterowo amakhala ndi nkhaŵa kuyambira pamene anabadwa. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti sangathe kuphunzira kuthana ndi vutolo ndi kulithetsa. Zimangotanthauza kuti simuyenera kufufuza mosalekeza yankho la funso lakuti "Chifukwa chiyani?". Nkhawa za achinyamata nthawi zambiri zimakhala zopanda nzeru komanso sizigwirizana ndi zochitika zilizonse.

Momwe mungathandizire mwana? Nthawi zambiri, psychotherapist imafunika. Kodi makolo angachite chiyani?

Kuti muthandize wachinyamata amene ali ndi nkhawa, choyamba muyenera kutero

1. Zindikirani mutu wa nkhawa ndikupeza zomwe zikuyambitsa.
2. Phunzitsani mwana wanu kulimbana ndi khunyu (yoga, kusinkhasinkha, masewera).
3. Limbikitsani mwanayo kuti athetse zopinga ndi zovuta zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa, kuyambira mosavuta, pang'onopang'ono kupita ku zovuta kwambiri.

Za wolemba: Natasha Daniels ndi mwana wamaganizo komanso mayi wa ana atatu.