Kuyimilira ufulu wanu ndikudzifunira ulemu ndi khalidwe lomwe limalankhula za khalidwe lamphamvu. Koma ena amapita patali, kufuna kuchitiridwa zinthu mwapadera. Izi zimabala zipatso, koma osati kwa nthawi yayitali - m'kupita kwanthawi, anthu otere angakhale osasangalala.
Mwanjira ina, kanema wa zomwe zidachitika pabwalo la ndege adawonekera pa intaneti: wokwerayo akulamula mosabisa kuti ogwira ntchito pandege amulole kukwera ndi botolo lamadzi. Amenewa amatchula malamulo omwe amaletsa kunyamula zakumwa ndi inu. Wokwerayo sabwerera: “Koma pali madzi oyera. Mukunena kuti nditaye madzi oyerawo?” Mkanganowo umayima.
Wokwerayo ankadziwa kuti pempho lakelo linali losemphana ndi malamulo. Komabe, iye anali wotsimikiza kuti zinali kwa iye kuti antchitowo achite zosiyana.
Nthawi ndi nthawi, tonse timakumana ndi anthu omwe amafuna chithandizo chapadera. Amakhulupirira kuti nthawi yawo ndi yamtengo wapatali kuposa nthawi ya ena, mavuto awo ayenera kuthetsedwa choyamba, choonadi nthawi zonse chimakhala kumbali yawo. Ngakhale kuti khalidweli nthawi zambiri limawathandiza kupeza zomwe akufuna, zimatha kukhumudwitsa.
Kulakalaka mphamvu zonse
“Mukudziwa zonsezi, munaona kuti ndinaleredwa mwachifundo, kuti sindinapirire konse chimfine kapena njala, sindinadziwe chosowa, sindinali kudzipezera ndekha chakudya, ndipo mwambiri sindinkachita zonyansa. Ndiye munapeza bwanji mphamvu zondifanizira ndi ena? Kodi ndili ndi thanzi ngati awa «ena»? Ndingachite bwanji zonsezi ndi kupirira? - tirade yomwe Goncharovsky Oblomov akunena ndi chitsanzo chabwino cha momwe anthu omwe ali otsimikiza za kudzipereka kwawo amatsutsana.
Tikapanda kukwaniritsa zimene tikuyembekezera, timaipidwa kwambiri ndi okondedwa athu, anthu, ngakhalenso chilengedwe.
“Anthu oterowo kaŵirikaŵiri amakulira m’chiyanjano chogwirizana ndi amayi awo, atazingidwa ndi chisamaliro, ozoloŵera chenicheni chakuti zokhumba zawo ndi zofuna zawo zimakwaniritsidwa nthaŵi zonse,” akufotokoza motero katswiri wa zamaganizo Jean-Pierre Friedman.
Katswiri wa zamaganizo a ana Tatyana Bednik anati: “Tili akhanda, timaona kuti anthu ena ali ngati mbali yathu. - Pang'ono ndi pang'ono timadziwa bwino zakunja ndikumvetsetsa kuti tilibe mphamvu pa izo. Ngati tatetezedwa mopitirira muyeso, tikuyembekezera zomwezo kwa ena. "
Kulimbana ndi zenizeni
"Iye, mukudziwa, amayenda pang'onopang'ono. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri n’chakuti amadya tsiku lililonse.” Zomwe zimanenedwa mu mzimu wa anthu omwe ali m'modzi mwa anthu omwe ali mu "Underwood Solo" ya Dovlatov amatsutsana ndi mkazi wake ndizofanana ndi anthu omwe amasankha okha. Maubale samawabweretsera chisangalalo: zili bwanji, mnzakeyo samalingalira zokhumba zawo pang'onopang'ono! Osafuna kusiya zokhumba zake chifukwa cha iwo!
Zoyembekeza zosayembekezereka zikapanda kukwaniritsidwa, amaipidwa kwambiri ndi okondedwa awo, anthu onse, ngakhale chilengedwe chenichenicho. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti anthu achipembedzo amene amangodziona kuti ndi okhawo amene amadziona kuti ndi okhawo, angakwiyire Mulungu amene amakhulupirira kwambiri ngati iye, malinga ndi maganizo awo, sawapatsa zoyenera.1.
Chitetezo chomwe chimakulepheretsani kukula
Kukhumudwa kumatha kuwopseza ego, kuchititsa chidwi choyipa, komanso nthawi zambiri nkhawa yosazindikira: "Bwanji ngati sindine wapadera kwambiri."
Psyche imakonzedwa mwanjira yoti chitetezo champhamvu kwambiri chamalingaliro chimaponyedwa kuti chiteteze munthu. Pa nthawi yomweyi, munthu amapita kutali kwambiri ndi zenizeni: mwachitsanzo, amapeza chifukwa cha mavuto ake osati mwa iye yekha, koma mwa ena (momwemo ndi momwe kuwonetsera kumagwirira ntchito). Choncho, wogwira ntchito amene wachotsedwa anganene kuti bwanayo "anapulumuka" chifukwa cha nsanje ya luso lake.
N’zosavuta kuona mwa ena zizindikiro za kudzikuza mopambanitsa. Ndizovuta kuwapeza mwa inu nokha. Ambiri amakhulupirira mu chilungamo cha moyo - koma osati mwachisawawa, koma makamaka kwa iwo eni. Tidzapeza ntchito yabwino, luso lathu lidzayamikiridwa, tidzapatsidwa kuchotsera, ndife omwe tidzajambula tikiti yamwayi mu lottery. Koma palibe amene angatsimikizire kukwaniritsidwa kwa zilakolako zimenezi.
Tikamakhulupirira kuti dziko lapansi lilibe ngongole kwa ife, sitikankhira kutali, koma kuvomereza zomwe takumana nazo ndipo motero timakhala olimba mwa ife tokha.
1 J. Grubbs et al. "Kukhala ndi Khalidwe: Gwero Lachidziwitso-Munthu Wachiwopsezo cha Kuvutika Maganizo," Psychological Bulletin, Aug 8, 2016.