Zamkatimu
Titapatukana, timagonjetsedwa ndi chilakolako, chisoni, kusungulumwa ndi kudzipatula, kuzunzidwa ndi ululu wamaganizo. Tikuyesera kuti tipeze njira yoyiwala chikondi chakale ndikupita patsogolo. N’chiyani chimalepheretsa mtima wathu wosweka kuchira?
“Timafunikira mwachibadwa kupeŵa ululu, chotero kaŵirikaŵiri maganizo athu amakulitsa zikhulupiriro zina zotetezera,” akufotokoza motero mphunzitsi wa moyo Craig Nelson. "Amatha kuchepetsa kuvutika panthawi yovuta kwambiri, koma, mwatsoka, atha kusokoneza miyoyo yathu m'tsogolomu."
Ngati munakumanapo ndi chibwenzi posachedwa, chenjerani ndi malingaliro olakwika omwe angakuvulazeni kwambiri.
1. Kupewa
Mutha kukhala ndi malingaliro ngati "amuna / akazi onse ndi ofanana", "aliyense woyenera watengedwa kale", "onse amafunikira chinthu chimodzi chokha".
Zikhulupiriro zotere zimakupatsirani chifukwa chopewera kukhala pachibwenzi. Mukuyesa kudzipatula nokha pachiwopsezo cha ubale watsopano womwe mutha kukhalanso ndi mtima wosweka. Tsoka lake, zotsatira zake ndi kudzipatula komanso kusungulumwa.
2. Kudziimba mlandu
Kulakwitsa kwina koopsa ndikuyamba kudzikuza. Kuyesera kumvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe chibwenzicho chinatha, mumatenga udindo wanu wonse ndikuyamba kuyang'ana zolakwika mwa inu nokha zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mnzanuyo achoke kwa inu. Umu ndi momwe mumachepetsera kudzidalira kwanu komanso kudzidalira kwanu.
Ngati mutha kupewa kudziimba mlandu mopanda chilungamo, mudzakhala ndi mwayi wowunika ubale womwe watha ndikuphunziranso maphunziro ofunikira omwe angakhale maziko okulitsa kukula ndi chitukuko.
Nawa malangizo atatu okuthandizani kusiya zakale ndikupita patsogolo.
1. Musaiwale chifukwa chimene munasudzulana
Lembani zolakwa zonse za wakale wanu. Fotokozani zonse zomwe simunakonde pa iye: makhalidwe, zizolowezi, zosayenera kwa inu, ndi zina zotero.
Ganizirani mbali zoipa za ubale wanu. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti musagwere mumsampha ndikuyamba kumverera kuti ndi "chikondi chotayika".
2. Lembani mndandanda wa zomwe mumachita bwino
Ngati mukulimbanabe ndipo mukulimbanabe ndi chisudzulocho, funsani anzanu apamtima ndi achibale anu kuti alembe zomwe akuganiza kuti ndizo makhalidwe anu abwino kwambiri.
Musamaganize kuti angakunamizeni poyera ndi kukukomerani mtima poyembekezera kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa. Simungachite zimenezo, sichoncho? Choncho atengereni mozama.
3. Osanong'oneza bondo zomwe zidachitika
“Palibe zolakwa. Inde, mwamva bwino. Yang’anani motere: “cholakwa” ndicho chokumana nacho cha moyo wanu chimene chimakuthandizani kukumbukira chimene inu mulidi,” akutero Craig Nelson.
Tsopano, mutatha kupatukana, muli ndi mwayi wodzimvetsetsa nokha ndikulimbitsa kudzidalira kwanu. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yambiri mukudzikuza. Mwinamwake munadzitaya nokha muubwenzi, ndipo ndicho chifukwa chake chinatha.
"Kumbukirani kuti m'chikondi mumangoyenera zabwino zokhazokha. Pakali pano, ndi nthawi yoti muphunzire kudzikondadi. Inde, kuchira ndizovuta, koma zowawa zidzatha, ndipo mudzatha kuyambitsa ubale watsopano, wathanzi komanso wachimwemwe, "Nelson akutsimikiza.
Za wolemba: Craig Nelson ndi mphunzitsi wamoyo.