Anthu amakumana, anthu amakondana, amakwatirana. Khalani ndi ana, nyenga, kutaya okondedwa. Amawonekera pamaso pa wina ndi mnzake muzowopsa zawo zonse. Kukayika kuti anasankha bwino. Amatopana wina ndi mzake. Iwo asankha kusamuka. Iyi ndi Modern Love, mndandanda wa anthology ozikidwa pa nkhani zaumwini zochokera mugawo la Modern Love mu The New York Times.
Kodi loya wa eccentric yemwe ali ndi vuto la bipolar komanso wopanga mapulogalamu azibwenzi amafanana bwanji? A «bookworm» ndi mkazi woyembekezera wopanda pokhala? Bambo wachikulire amene anaika m’manda mkazi wake wokondedwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazo, ndi mtsikana amene akufunitsitsa kusisita ngati atate amene sanam’dziŵe?
Onsewa ndi okhala ku New York, okongola, osiyanasiyana, amitundumitundu. Ndipo aliyense wa iwo kamodzi anakhala ngwazi ya ndime "Modern Chikondi" mu nyuzipepala tsiku The New York Times. M'chaka cha 15 cha kukhalapo kwake, pogwiritsa ntchito makalata abwino omwe adalandira ndi akonzi, mndandanda unawombera.
Munthawi yoyamba, panali magawo asanu ndi atatu - onena za masiku omwe china chake chidalakwika (kapena zonse zidalakwika). Za kulephera kutsegulira wina chifukwa cha mantha kuti sitidzalandiridwa monga momwe tilili, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti taweruzidwa ku kusungulumwa kwamuyaya.
Mfundo yakuti kaŵirikaŵiri muuchikulire muubwenzi timayesa kupeza zimene sitinapeze muubwana, ndipo pamenepa kungakhale kopindulitsa kuvomereza moona mtima kwa ife eni.
Chikondi ndi chachikulu kuposa chikondi ndi kugonana komanso chotalika kuposa moyo
Za maukwati omwe akuwoneka kuti sangathe kupulumutsidwa. Za mwayi wophonya ndi zikondano zosakhala moyo. Kuti kumverera uku sadziwa malire a zaka, sikuzindikira magawano pakati pa amuna ndi akazi.
Chikondi ndi chachikulu kuposa chikondi ndi kugonana komanso chotalika kuposa moyo.
Ndipo mosasamala kanthu za zimene anthu amanena ponena za chenicheni chakuti ambiri lerolino amasankha kuyamba maunansi pambuyo pake kapena kukhala mbeta nkomwe, kapena kuti ziŵerengero za chisudzulo mwachisawawa zimakayikitsa chochitika chonga ukwati, n’kwachidziŵikire kuti tonsefe timafunikirabe chikondi.
Mwina mwanjira yosiyana pang'ono ndi kale. Mwina popanda kusinthanitsa malumbiro ndi chisoni «… mpaka imfa itakulekanitsani» (ndipo mwina nawo). Chikondi chamakono chosiyana, chosayembekezereka, chachilendo.