Zamkatimu
Ubwenzi wakhala ukuganiziridwa kwambiri ndi kukambidwa kuyambira kalekale. Koma kodi n’zotheka kutsogozedwa ndi mfundo zimene makolo akale anachita pankhani ya chikondi chenicheni ndi chifundo? Tiyeni tikambirane nthano zisanu zokhudza ubwenzi. Ndi ziti zomwe zidakali zoona, ndipo ndi ziti zomwe zakula pa tsankho lomwe lakhala lokalamba?
Ubale umenewu umamangidwa pa kumverana chisoni, pa zokonda ndi zokonda, pa chizoloŵezi chimene anthu akhala nacho kwa nthawi yaitali. Koma osati pa mgwirizano: pafupifupi sitikambirana konse ndi anzathu amene ife tiri kwa wina ndi mzake ndi zimene timayembekezera mu adiresi yathu. Ndipo sizokayikitsa kuti tikukonzekera tsogolo limodzi kupitilira ulendo wotsatira wopita kumalo ochitira zisudzo.
Tilibe malamulo a ubwenzi kupatula nzeru za anthu, zomwe zaphatikiza malingaliro ambiri ovomerezeka za momwe mabwenzi amachitira, nthawi zina modabwitsa («ubwenzi ndi ubwenzi, koma fodya padera»), nthawi zina mwachikondi («mulibe ma ruble zana, koma khalani ndi abwenzi zana.
Koma mungamukhulupirire bwanji? Katswiri wa Gestalt Andrey Yudin amatithandiza kutsimikizira zowona za nthano zisanu zodziwika bwino. Kaŵirikaŵiri, amakhulupirira kuti mawu aliwonse ali owona m’nkhani imene anawonekera, koma amangopotoza zenizeni ngati wokamba nkhaniyo apatuka pa tanthauzo lenileni. Ndipo tsopano zambiri…
Bwenzi lapamavuto ndibwenzidi
Zoona pang'ono
"Zowonadi, titha kuvomereza kuti tikakumana ndi zovuta, zopanikiza komanso zovuta kwambiri limodzi ndi anzathu, ife, monga lamulo, timapeza china chatsopano mwa anthu chomwe mwina sitinadziwe za iwo m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku.
Koma nthawi zina “vuto” lenilenilo limakhala logwirizana ndi mabwenzi omwewo kapena limakhudza zokonda zawo ndipo potero limawasonkhezera kuchita zinthu zosasangalatsa kwa ife. Mwachitsanzo, pakuwona kwa chidakwa, abwenzi omwe amakana kumubwereketsa ndalama panthawi yoledzera amawoneka ngati adani omwe amamusiya panthawi yovuta, koma kukana kwawo komanso kusokoneza kwakanthawi kolumikizana kungakhale chikondi. ndi chisamaliro.
Ndipo chitsanzo china pamene mwambi uwu sugwira ntchito: nthawi zina, kulowa mu tsoka wamba, anthu kuchita zinthu zopusa kapena ngakhale kusakhulupirika, amene pambuyo moona mtima chisoni. Choncho, kuwonjezera pa mwambi uwu, nkofunika kukumbukira wina: "Munthu ndi wofooka." Ndipo zatsala kwa ife kusankha kukhululukira mnzathu pa chofooka chake.
Bwenzi lakale liposa awiri atsopano
Zoona pang'ono
“Kuganiza bwino kumatiuza kuti ngati mnzathu apirira kukhalapo kwathu kwa zaka zambiri ndipo samatisiya, ndiye kuti iyeyo ndi wofunika kwambiri ndiponso wodalirika kuposa munthu wapaulendo wachisawawa amene ali ndi chikhalidwe chofanana ndi chathu. Komabe, pochita, chowonadichi chimagwira ntchito mwangwiro kwa iwo omwe akhazikika bwino mukukula kwawo.
M'malo mwake, ngati tili otanganidwa ndi kudzidziwitsa, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri timatha kusintha kapena kusintha mabwenzi athu zaka zingapo zilizonse. Zimakhala zosasangalatsa ndi abwenzi akale, chifukwa patapita zaka zambiri anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti ndi mochedwa kuti aphunzire chinachake chatsopano, kufufuza dziko lapansi, amadziwa kale zonse.
Pamenepa, kulankhulana nawo pang’onopang’ono kumaleka kutikhutitsa mwauzimu ndi mwaluntha ndipo kumasanduka mwambo – wachifundo monga wotopetsa.
Ndiuze kuti bwenzi lako ndi ndani ndipo ndikuuze kuti ndiwe ndani
cholakwika
"Mwambi uwu wakhala ukuwoneka kwa ine ngati apotheosis yazamba komanso kugulitsa anthu.
Ndikamva, ndimakumbukira zolemba za wolemba ndakatulo wa ku Canada (Kufotokozera kwa Wopempha Uyu), yemwe ankadwala matenda a schizophrenia, ankakhala mumsewu, nthawi ndi nthawi ankalowa m'mapolisi ndi m'malo obisalamo ndipo anabweretsa mavuto aakulu kwa banja lake - ndipo nthawi yomweyo. Nthawi inali bwenzi la woyimba komanso wolemba ndakatulo wanzeru Leonard Cohen, yemwe nthawi zina amamuthandiza kuti atuluke mumikhalidwe imeneyi.
Kodi tinganene chiyani za Leonard Cohen paubwenziwu? Kupatula kuti anali munthu wozama, wosatengeka ndi chithunzi chake cha nyenyezi. Ndife mabwenzi osati chifukwa chakuti ndife ofanana. Nthawi zina maubwenzi a anthu amadutsa malire onse odziwika ndipo amayamba pamlingo wopitirira malire.
Anzathu ndi anzathu
cholakwika
“Mwambi umenewu unandithandiza kukumbukira lamulo lodziŵikitsa chizindikiro cha manambala abwino ndi oipa m’giredi lachitatu, koma luntha lodziŵika mmenemo ndi lokha. Zimakhazikitsidwa ndi chikhumbo chamuyaya chogawa dziko lapansi kukhala loyera ndi lakuda, kukhala adani ndi abwenzi, komanso motsatira njira zosavuta. Kunena zoona, chikhumbo chimenechi sichinakwaniritsidwe.
Ubale waubwenzi umakula osati chifukwa cha kufanana kwa anthu, komanso zochitika, chifukwa cha zochitika za moyo wamba. Ndipo ngati, mwachitsanzo, pali anthu awiri m'moyo wanga, ndi aliyense wa iwo omwe ndimadya nawo mchere nthawi zosiyanasiyana, izi sizikutanthauza kuti, atakumana ndi kampani imodzi, sadzakhala ndi kunyansidwa kwakukulu kwa aliyense. zina. Mwina pazifukwa zomwe ine sindikanati ndiganizirepo pasadakhale.
Palibe ubwenzi wachikazi
cholakwika
"Mu 2020, ndizochititsa manyazi kunena zitsanzo zachitsanzo zakugonana. Ndi kupambana komweko, munthu akhoza kunena kuti palibe ubwenzi wa amuna, komanso ubwenzi pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, osatchula amuna omwe si amuna ndi akazi.
Ndithudi iyi ndi nthano chabe. Ndikukhulupirira kuti aliyense wa ife ndi wamkulu kwambiri komanso wovuta kwambiri kuposa jenda lathu. Choncho, kuchepetsa maonekedwe a chikhalidwe ndi maudindo a amuna ndi akazi kumatanthauza kusawona nkhalango ya mitengo. Ndawonapo milandu yambiri yaubwenzi wolimba wanthawi yayitali, kuphatikiza kudzipereka, kudzipereka komanso mgwirizano.
Zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti lingaliro ili likuchokera ku lingaliro lina, kuti maubwenzi a akazi nthawi zonse amayenera kusweka motsutsana ndi mpikisano, makamaka kwa amuna. Ndipo nthano yozama iyi, ikuwoneka kwa ine, ndi chiwonetsero cha dziko lapansi lopapatiza kwambiri komanso kulephera kuwona mwa mkazi munthu yemwe tanthauzo lake la kukhalapo ndilokulirapo kuposa kufuna kukhala wozizira kuposa abwenzi ake ndikumenya chibwenzi chawo.
Ndipo, ndithudi, kuya ndi kukhazikika kwa maubwenzi aamuna nthawi zambiri amakondedwa. Pakhala pali kusakhulupirika kochuluka m’moyo wanga ndi anzanga achimuna kuposa anzanga achikazi.”