Kodi nchifukwa ninji amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amaloŵa m’mabwenzi achikondi ndi akazi ndipo ali okonzeka ngakhale kuwakwatira? Ndipo mungamvetse bwanji kuti wokondedwa wanu amakonda kukhala ndi amuna ena kuposa anu? Mtolankhani Nicole Carrington-Sima adalankhula za chibwenzi chake ndi mwamuna wachiwerewere.
Mwamuna wanga wokongola ankakonda kupita kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku lililonse ndikukhazikitsa shelefu yosiyana m'bafa yathu yogawanamo zodzola zake. Ndi iye, mutha kuthera maola ambiri mukugula, kukambirana za mafashoni ndikuwunikanso mndandanda womwe mumakonda wa Sex ndi City. Ndipo pambuyo pake, kupita kugonana sikulinso pa zenera.
Anzanga ankakayikira mnzanga watsopanoyu. Ndipo ma gay odziwika bwino adanong'oneza m'makutu mwake mosangalala kuti: "iye ndi wathu." Onse amaganiza zongoyerekeza, ndipo ngakhale kaduka, ndimaganiza. Ndangokumana ndi metrosexual yamakono - mwamuna wamtundu watsopano, momwe makhalidwe ndi zizolowezi za amuna ndi akazi zimagwirizanitsidwa bwino. Masiku ano, mizere pakati pa amuna ndi akazi ikusokonekera, ndipo palibe cholakwika ndi zimenezo.
Amuna ena ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakwatirana mwadala chifukwa amalota banja ndi ana
Koma penapake mu kuya kwa moyo wanga ndinapeza mphutsi. Chomwe chinandikhazika mtima pansi chinali chakuti kugonana kwamatsenga: pambuyo pa zonse, ma gay sapanga chikondi ndi akazi eti? Koma kamodzi, pamene kalonga wanga anandipatsa ine chiwonongeko chonse cha sera ya thupi lake monga mphatso, sindinathe kudziletsa ndikuyankha funsolo mosabisa.
Chodetsa nkhaŵa changa, chibwenzi chamanyazi nthawi yomweyo chinapanga zosakonzekera (kapena zokonzekera kwanthaŵi yaitali) kutuluka. Pamapeto pake, tinaseka ndipo tinaganiza zosiya kukhala mabwenzi. Koma mafunso omwewa ankazungulira m’mutu mwanga kwakanthawi. Nanga bwanji za mausiku osaiŵalika pamodzi? Nanga bwanji za ubwenzi wathu wapamtima?..
Malinga ndi kunena kwa katswiri wodziŵa za kugonana wa ku Australia Michelle Mars, kugonana kwa pakati pa akazi ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chinthu chofala kwambiri. "Ndili wotsimikiza 100% kuti pakati pa omwe mumawadziwa pali amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ... ndipo simukudziwa za izi. Anthu amene amasangalala ndi kugonana ndi kukhala ndi moyo wochuluka wa kugonana amakhala omasuka ku kuyesa,” akutero Michelle Mars. Pamene malire a magulu okhudzana ndi kugonana akusokonekera, anthu akupeza maubwenzi osiyanasiyana ogonana.
Mu sexology, pali mawu apadera akuti "pansexuality", omwe amatanthauza kukopeka kapena kukopeka ndi anthu, mosasamala kanthu za jenda.
63% ya amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amakwatira mkazi samavomereza zomwe amakonda
“Nthaŵi zina anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakumana ndi akazi chifukwa chakuti sadziwa bwinobwino mmene amakhalira ndiponso amadana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ena amaloŵa m’maukwati amwambo dala chifukwa cholota banja ndi ana ndipo amakakamizika kukhala ndi moyo wachiphamaso chifukwa cha kudedwa kumene kulipobe m’chitaganya,” akufotokoza motero katswiri wa zachisembwere.
Kwa amayi, ubale woterewu wochokera pa mabodza umakhala ndi kuvutika maganizo kwakukulu, makamaka ngati epiphany sichibwera m'miyezi yoyamba ya chiyanjano, koma patatha zaka zambiri za moyo wa banja.
Wolemba wa "Fatal Suitors: Gay and Bisexual Husbands in Traditional Marriage"1 Katswiri wa zabanja wa ku America a Bonnie Kaye walemba mndandanda wa zizindikiro zomwe zimathandiza kuzindikira munthu amene amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha asanalowe m’banja. Zina mwa izo ndi kukana kugonana nthawi zonse, kuonera zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kugwiritsa ntchito zidole zina zogonana, ndemanga zosokoneza za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndi zina. Malinga ndi iye, 63% ya amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amakwatira mkazi sangavomereze zokonda zawo zenizeni zogonana.
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1 Bonnie Kaye "Akwati Otayika: Amuna Ogonana ndi Amuna Ogonana Amuna Omwe Amakhala M'maukwati Owongoka" (CCB Publishing, 2012).