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Mnzake wongoyerekeza, mnzako kuti akule
Clémentine atakhala patebulo, amayika mpando wa Lilo. Mpando umakhala wopanda kanthu? Ndi zachilendo: Clémentine yekha ndi amene angamuwone Lilo, akuluakulu sangamuone. Lilo ndi bwenzi lake lolingalira. |
"Mwana wazaka 4 kapena 5 akapanga mnzake wongoyerekeza, amawonetsa luso: sizodetsa nkhawa konse", akutsimikizira Andrée Sodjinou, katswiri wazamisala. Mnzake wongoyerekeza ndi mnzake amene amathandizira pakukula kwake, kudzikonda kosintha kumene mwanayo angasonyezere mavuto amene sangathane nawo payekha. Mwanayo ali ndi ubale wapadera ndi iye, monga momwe angathere ndi chidole chake kapena teddy bear, kupatulapo bwenzi longoyerekeza ndi mnzake, amene chotero anganene kuti mantha ake, malingaliro ake. Mnzake uyu ndi kwambiri maganizo padera : palibe funso lomuchitira njiru, ngakhale nthawi zina amakukwiyitsani. Kungakhale ngati kuswa chinthu chimene mwana wagwira.
Wosewera naye komanso wokhulupirira
Yendani kumbuyo. M'masewera ake onse, mwana wanu ali motsogozedwa ndi malingaliro ake. Kodi chofunda chake chomwe chimamutonthoza si bwenzi lenileni? Nthaŵi zina mungam’kumbutse kuti bwenzi lakelo “sali weniweni,” koma musayese kumukhutiritsa. Ndi mkangano wosabala. Mwana wamsinkhu uwu sasiyanitsa bwino pakati pa zenizeni ndi zongoyerekeza, ndipo mulimonse, malire awa alibe nkomwe mtengo wophiphiritsa wofanana ndi ife akuluakulu. Kwa mwanayo, ngakhale kuti kulibe "weniweni", amakhala mu mtima mwake, m'chilengedwe chake, ndipo ndicho chofunika kwambiri.
“Mnzake” amene amamuthandiza kukula
Ngati mwana wanu akukulimbikitsani kuti mulowe nawo masewerawa, tsatirani nzeru zanu ndi zofuna zanu. Zingakhale zosangalatsa kucheza ndi Lilo uyu, koma ngati zikukuvutani, nenani ayi. Mnzake wongoyerekezerayo sayenera kukayikira malamulo a moyo wabanja, a moyo wa mwana. Ngati zimakhala zamanyazi, zopinga, zomwe zimabweretsa vuto. Yambani ndi kuyankhula za izo ndi loulou wanu, kuti muwone mmene amaonera zinthu. Koma akhoza kungokupatsani zifukwa zomwe zilili kufika kwa mwana. “Mnzako wongoyerekezera amene amatenga malo ochuluka amabwera kudzalankhula za vuto limene silinganenedwe, koma limene limatenga malo ochuluka m’moyo wa mwanayo,” akufotokoza motero Andrée Sodjinou.
Ngati bwenzi ili likhala gwero la mikangano, funsani pang'ono kuti mupeze malangizo. Choyamba, pitani kukaonana ndi achikulire: “Vuto la mwana kaŵirikaŵiri limakhudza mbali zotuwa za makolo,” akukumbukira motero katswiri wa zamaganizo. Mwina mungapeze zomwe ziyenera kunenedwa kapena kuchitidwa kuti zinthu zibwerere mwakale. Mnzake wongoyerekezera alipo thandizani mwanayo kukula, osati mosiyana.