Zamkatimu
Zikachitika kuti ana amachitiridwa nkhanza kusukulu, n’chifukwa chakuti ena amachitiridwa nkhanza ziwawa zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala aukali kwa anzawo. Kodi zili choncho ndi mwana wanu? Timayang'ana momwe mungasamalire bwino zachiwawa zanu ndi katswiri wama psychosociologist Edith Tartar Goddet.
Chiwawa kusukulu, ndi ana ati omwe ali pachiwopsezo?
Ana "ankhanza" nthawi zambiri amachita gulu, amatchula katswiri wa zamaganizo Edith Tartar Goddet. Kumbali imodzi, timapeza anthu ovutitsa, ndipo ena, owonera, omwe amabweretsa a chitsimikizo cha makhalidwe abwino kuchita. “Pagulu, munthu samadzimva kuti ali ndi udindo ndipo amalolera kuchita chilichonse. Ndipo mwana aliyense, nthawi ina, akhoza kufuna yesani mphamvu zake pa ena,” akutero katswiriyo.
"Kuonjezera apo, mwana yemwe ali bwino, wodekha, wochokera ku chikhalidwe chamwayi, koma amadya zithunzi zambiri zachiwawa, adzafuna kukumana nazo tsiku lina," akuwonjezera Edith Tartar Goddet. “M’pofunika kuti musasiye mwana mmodzi yekha pamaso panu, ndi kuika mawu pa zimene waona kuti aganize. “
Nkhanza zakusukulu: kuvomereza kulakwa kwa mwana waukali
Makolo ayenera kuvomereza khalidwe la chiwawa la mwana wawo ndi kutsagana naye. Mabanja ena ovulala amakonda kukana zoona zake, koma khalidweli limaika "wolakwayo" mumkhalidwe wovuta, zomwe zingamupangitse kuti ayambenso. Kuphatikiza apo, ndikofunikira kuti kugwirizana ndi aphunzitsi.
Kodi sukulu iyenera kuchita chiyani ndi mwana wankhanzayo?
Sukulu, kumbali yake, iyenera kutenga udindo wake, popanda kukhala nawo mawonekedwe ochititsa manyazi, pokhazikitsa kuyang'anira achinyamata omwe akuukira. Ndikoyenera kupangitsa wophunzirayo kukhala ndi udindo kuti adziwe zomwe akuchita, ndiyeno agwiritse ntchito chilango. “Kupereka chilango popanda kuwachititsa kukhala ndi udindo kungapangitse wolembayo kukhala wolakwa, zomwe zingam’chititse kulakwanso,” akufotokoza motero katswiri wa zamaganizo Edith Tartar Goddet.
Kodi mungatani ndi mwana wachiwawa?
Ngati ndi nthawi yoyamba, "zoyesera", zimakwanira kuti mwana wanu amvetsetse kuti wachita zoipa. Edith Tartar Goddet akufotokoza kuti: “Tikachita zinthu moyenera, sadzachitanso.
Kodi timafunikira kutsata m'maganizo kwa mwana wachiwawa?
Komano, pamene ndi funso la kubwezeretsedwa, chithandizo chingakhale chofunikira. “Ana ena, ovutika, osati opotoka kwenikweni, amalankhula mwachiwawa. Munthu akamangika, angachite zachiwawa pofuna kuthetsa kusasangalala kwake. Ana ena amakhala nthawi yomweyo. Amachita zinthu mongolakalaka, ngakhale atakhala ndi khalidwe labwino kwambiri. Kutsatira zamaganizo kungakhale kofunikira. “