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Makolo athu zaka mazana ambiri zapitazo adazindikira kuti zakudya zamasamba, masamba, ngakhale mkaka ndizokwanira. Atayambitsidwa ndi malamulo obisika a chilengedwe, adadziwa za kuipa kwa kudya nyama. Iwo amene ali ndi kukoma kwa nyama, ndithudi, adzatsutsa mawu awa ndi kubweretsa mikangano ina. Inde, panali mafuko akale amene ankakhala m'dera la European Russia ndi mayiko a Kum'mawa kwa Ulaya zaka mazana ambiri zapitazo, miyambo ndi miyambo, kuphatikizapo nyama chakudya, koma ankagwiritsidwa ntchito mwapadera.
Nthawi zina chimbalangondo chinali kuphedwa kuti apambane pankhondo yolimbana ndi oipa. Koma ndiye ankhondo anachita kwambiri kuyeretsa austerities. Sizimene tikukamba tsopano. Tsopano ndikufuna kupereka nkhani yomwe imakamba za njira zakale, zanzeru zophika. Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito malamulowa muzochitika zamakono. Anthu a ku Rus amene ankadziwa choonadi ankadziwa za malamulowa. Dziwani kuti nyama sikutchulidwa nkomwe ngati chakudya chopindulitsa. Nyama ingawononge mgwirizano uliwonse wa fuko, banja ndi maubale, ndipo sipakanakhala chifukwa chokambirana chilichonse mwa zotsatirazi.
Nkhaniyi ikukamba za masakramenti a amayi ophika, momwe kuphika kumakhudzira malingaliro a amuna ndi chikhalidwe cha maubwenzi a m'banja. Mkazi ndiye woyang'anira nyumba, chitonthozo ndi bata m'nyumba. Mwamuna amapereka nyumba ndi banja zinthu zofunikira, amapanga chitetezo chakunja, ndipo mkazi amalamulira pakati pa malo otetezedwa ku zovuta. Ndipotu mkazi sangokonza chakudya, koma amakonzekeretsa tsogolo lake. Ndipo tastier amaphika, m'pamenenso tsogolo lidzamudikirira mosangalala.
Ndipo tidzayamba ndi mkate, umene uli mutu wa chirichonse.
Kukanda mtandawo kuli ndi tanthauzo lakuya lopatulika. Poyamba, Bolshukha yekha, mkazi wamkulu m'nyumba, ankaphika mkate m'banja. Chifukwa chiyani? Ufa, madzi, mchere ndi zonunkhira ndi ubale wa okwatirana, achibale ndi ana awo. Mukawakanda motalika komanso bwino, m'pamenenso banja lanu limakhala lolimba komanso mgwirizano umakhala wogwirizana. Ngati kukanda kulibe khalidwe labwino, ndiye kuti sipadzakhala kugwirizana kwakukulu, ndipo mamembala adzakhala aliyense payekha.
Mkazi ayenera kuika chikondi chake chonse ndi chisamaliro chake pokanda mtanda. Kotero iye amapanga malo achimwemwe kwa banja lake. Ufa umaimira nyenyezi, mchere umaimira dzuŵa, zokometsera zimaimira makhalidwe abwino a mapulaneti, ndipo mbale yomalizidwa imaimira njira ya nyenyezi ya banja.
Moto umene amaphikira chakudya umaimira tsoka. Musamawotche chakudyacho. Ngati izi zidachitika, ndiye kuti moto umafuna kuti mkaziyo abwerezenso njira yosinkhasinkha yokonzekera. Zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri mkazi akayitana mwamuna wake kukhitchini kuti akakotse moto. Izi zimabweretsa mlengalenga wopatulika pakuphika. Moto woyaka ndi mwamuna udzathandiza mkazi kuphika ndi kumuteteza ku tsoka.
Ndikofunikira munjira yomwe mkazi amaphika. Ngati mkazi amaphika chakudya pang'onopang'ono, ndiye kuti mwamuna adzafuna ubale wautali ndi iye. Koma, ngati ali wofulumira kapena ngakhale kunyalanyaza udindo umenewu, ndiye kuti mwamunayo sadzakhalanso ndi malingaliro okhalitsa. Akazi, kumbukirani: ngati mulibe chakudya kukhitchini, ndiye kuti mwamunayo posachedwapa adzasiya kuganizira za inu, ndipo ubale wanu udzasanduka maubwenzi ofulumira.
Zakudya zosiyanasiyana zimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wosangalatsa. Koma ngati chakudyacho chili chonyozeka, ndiye kuti ubalewo umakhala wouma komanso wotopetsa. Chakudya chilichonse chowonjezera ndi mphatso kwa mwamuna, zomwe zimapangitsa m'maganizo mwake kukhala ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukupatsani mphatso. Chakudyacho chidzakhala chokoma bwanji, mphatso yomwe mnzanuyo angafune kukupatsani. Chiŵerengero cha khama ndi: Chakudya chamadzulo chokonzedwa bwino cha mwamuna kasanu ndi kaŵiri chimadzutsa m’maganizo mwake chikhumbo cha kupereka mphatso imodzi. Choncho, mkazi ayenera kuyembekezera kudzikundikira kwa maganizo abwino m'maganizo mwa mwamuna ndi kunena za zokhumba zake.
Samalani mwapadera pa tebulo lanu lodyera. Gome ndi chikhatho cha Mulungu chomwe timadyera nacho. Moyo wanu udzawoneka ngati tebulo lanu lodyera. Kongoletsani momwe mungathere, ndipo moyo wanu udzakhalanso wokoma komanso wokongola. Pakakhala malo opanda kanthu patebulo, m'pamenenso simudzakhala opanda kanthu. Mpando wopanda kanthu umasonyeza kuti simunakonzekere kupereka mtima wanu wonse ku banja. Lembani tebulo kwathunthu kotero kuti mu mtima mwanu mulibe chopanda kanthu komanso malo amalingaliro achisoni ndi zilakolako zowawa.
Kukongola kwenikweni kwa mkazi kumasonyezedwanso mu kukongola kwa luso lake lophikira. Ichi ndi umunthu wake wamkati, kotero inu mukhoza kumvetsa chikhalidwe chake. Kuchokera pa chakudya chamadzulo m'nyumba ya mkazi wamtsogolo, munthu akhoza kulingalira mosavuta zomwe zimawopseza mwamuna kwa moyo wake wonse.
Kodi izi kapena mbaleyo zimakhudza bwanji moyo wathu?
Chakudya chamasana chodzaza ndi mafuta zimapangitsa moyo kukhala wodekha ndi wodekha, mwamuna kuchita bwino ndi kutchera khutu, mkazi wokongola ndi wokhutiritsa, ndi ana ololera ndi omvera.
Zakudya zokometsera kumayambitsa chisokonezo ndi kusintha kosalekeza; moyo uli wodzaza ndi malingaliro ndi zokumana nazo.
Chakudya chamasana ndi chamchere komanso chonyowa kumabweretsa kulolera ndi kudziimira kokwanira.
Kuchuluka kwa ufa mankhwala amapanga moyo kutetezedwa ku mavuto ndi kulephera.
Ngati chilichonse chophikidwa chili chokongola komanso chokongola, ndiye kuti moyo wabanja umakhala wamitundumitundu ndipo ungakwaniritse zosowa za aliyense m'banjamo.
Koma nyama, ngakhale yophikidwa bwanji, imatsogolera ku ulesi ndi mkwiyo, kukangana pakati pa achibale, kulephera kukwaniritsa ntchito zawo, kukalamba msanga ndi matenda ambiri. Ngakhale nsomba zomwe zidatha patebulo kapena kudyedwa zimabweretsa kukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwa, umphawi m'nyumba komanso kusamvetsetsana pakati pa anthu apamtima.
Mayi akamakonza chakudya chamadzulo chokhala ndi ghee, masamba atsopano, zonunkhira ndi mkaka, chuma ndi chitukuko zimayembekezera banja loterolo. Amakhulupirira kuti mulungu wamkazi wa chikondi ndi chitukuko amadya chakudya pamodzi ndi mamembala a banja ili patebulo limodzi.
Mkazi ayenera kukumbukira kuti pamene akusakaniza chakudya, ayenera kukhumba chisangalalo kwa mamembala onse a m'banja ndi kusinkhasinkha za maubwenzi olimba. Mwa kusonkhezera chakudya molunjika ndi kuwonjezera mchere, shuga ndi zonunkhira, mkazi amayika chithunzi cha zilakolako zake, mwamuna wake ndi ana ake. Kulimbikitsa chakudya motsatana ndi koloko ndikowopsa, monga m'zochita za esoteric izi zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kusokoneza maubale. Koma ngati izi zili zabwino kwa mwamuna (ndipo izi zimachitika kawirikawiri), ndiye mukhoza kuyesa, koma osatengeka nazo, ndi bwino kukhala pansi ndi kukambirana ndi mwamuna wanu za mavuto omwe alipo.
Chakudya chimakhala chokoma kwa iwo omwe ali ndi njala kwambiri. Choncho, mkazi sayenera kulowa mu chizolowezi zokhwasula-khwasula pafupipafupi. Zakudya zosawerengeka, koma zodzaza bwino zidzathandiza kusunga kukoma kwa moyo wa banja kwa nthawi yaitali. Apo ayi, kukoma kwa chakudya kumachepa pang'onopang'ono, ndipo ubale wanu, chifukwa chake, udzakhumudwa pang'onopang'ono. Aliyense adzakhala akufunafuna kukoma kwatsopano kumbali.
Kukoma kwa chakudya kuli mu malingaliro athu pa izo. Mutha kudya zakudya zokoma, koma ngati takwiyitsidwa ndikudandaula, ndiye kuti ngakhale zakudya zokoma kwambiri zidzawoneka ngati zopanda pake, komanso, zidzakhala poizoni. Kudya kuyenera kuchitidwa modekha m'maganizo.Izi ndi zomwe mkazi ayenera kusamalira. Zochita zonse panthawi ya nkhomaliro ziyenera kuthetsedwa.
Ma TV, mafoni, makompyuta azimitsidwa. Manyuzipepala amaikidwa pambali, mabuku amatsekedwa, bizinesi imayimitsidwa kotero kuti kwa ola limodzi sakanatha kukumbukiridwa. Kukhazikika koteroko pakudya kudzatsogolera kuwongolera kwa thupi ndi malingaliro a mamembala onse abanja. Pankhaniyi, mkaziyo amachita ngati dokotala, ndipo thanzi la okondedwa ake lidzadalira kutsimikiza mtima kwake. Ngati sasamalira izi, matenda osachiritsika amawonekera pang'onopang'ono m'banjamo, ndipo iyeyo amamva kuti alibe bwino.
Kafukufuku wamakono wamaganizo atsimikizira kuti chakudya chokoma, nyimbo zosangalatsa komanso malingaliro achikondi zimakhudza madera omwewo a ubongo. Kodi mukufuna chikondi m'nyumba? Pamenepo mulole nyimbo zabwino ziziyimbamo nthawi zonse, ndipo chakudya chonunkhira ndi chosangalatsa chikonzekere. Kuonjezera apo, kuyang'ana kwa mkazi wokongola komanso wokonzekera bwino kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi likulu la ubongo lomwe liri ndi udindo mwa mwamuna chifukwa chofuna kupeza ndalama. Ndichifukwa chake Mkazi nthawi zonse amafunika kuoneka wokongola. Izi ndi mphamvu zake, ndipo ichi ndi chitetezo cha banja lake ku chiwonongeko. Palibe chomwe chingathane ndi ulesi wachimuna kupatula kukongola kwachilengedwe kwa mkazi. Mukatsatira malamulowa, achibale ndi mabwenzi adzasangalala ndi chikondi komanso ubwenzi.
Ndi chimbudzi cham'mimba, chomwe tsopano chimapezeka pafupifupi anthu onse, ndi bwino kuphika zomwe mukufuna komanso kunyumba. Ndikoyenera kukana zinthu zomwe zatha pang'onopang'ono komanso zakudya zopangidwa kale. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa n’kofunika kwambiri kuchigayidwe kuti chakudya chizikondedwa ndi kukonzedwa mwachikondi. Kukoma kwathu kumatsimikiziridwa ndi momwe thupi lathu limapangidwira. Ndipo pamene dziko la thupi silikuyenda bwino, ndiye kuti kukoma kumasintha kotero kuti kuwongolera kusokonezeka kwa mphamvu.
Izi ndi zomwe mkazi-mbuye ayenera kusamalira, yemwe akufuna kubweretsa chisangalalo ndi thanzi kwa mamembala onse a m'banja lake. Simungathe kuyembekezera chisangalalo kuchokera ku mbale yomweyo kwa mwezi umodzi kapena nthawi zina moyo wonse.
Mkaka umayambitsa kutsekemera kwa maubwenzi. Mkhalidwe woipa umayerekezedwa ndi kachitidwe kakusandutsa mkaka kukhala mkaka wosakanizika. Ndiye mkaziyo amakhala "wowawasa", ndipo ubale ndi iye umakhala bizinesi chabe. Azimayi, kumbukirani: mkaka ukhoza kusandulika kukhala mkaka wosakanizika, ndipo ngakhale ma yoga ndi amatsenga sangathe kusandutsa mkaka wopindika kukhala mkaka. Payenera kukhala mkaka wambiri m'nyumba, chifukwa mkaka ndi chisangalalo chamadzimadzi.
Zobiriwira ndizotonthoza komanso zokondweretsa m'maso. Kukhalapo kwa zobiriwira mu chakudya kumapangitsa aliyense kukhala wosangalala komanso wokhutira. Kuphatikiza apo, zobiriwira zimabisala zolakwika pakuphika ndi wokhala ndi alendo osadziwa, ndipo ndi wodziwa zambiri, zimatsindika kukongola kwa mbale.
Zakudya za mkate ndi tirigu kuchepetsa kuvutika maganizo kwa achibale, makamaka m'nyengo yozizira. Zakudya zophikidwa bwino komanso mwachikondi zidzathetsa kupsinjika maganizo, kupsinjika maganizo ndi khalidwe losakhazikika. Ichi ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yopewera kusokonezeka kwamanjenje. M’banja limene ma pie amaphikidwa nthaŵi zonse, simumawona okwatirana akukalipirana. Amadziyitanira okha, kukhala ndi maonekedwe okongola, mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kukoma ndi fungo.
Masamba ndi zipatso amafuna kusintha malo awo okhala, ndipo munthuyo amafuna kusangalala ndi kukoma kwapamwamba, ndipo onse amapeza zomwe akufuna. Chakudya choterocho chimakhala mphatso yeniyeni ndipo ndi yoyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito motetezeka.
Zakudya zoyera zimalankhula za chiyero cha chidziwitso cha mkazi. Mkazi akatsuka mbale zapakhomo, amatsuka mtima wake ku zilakolako zonse zoipa. Iyi ndiyo njira yotsimikizirika yopezera chimwemwe m’moyo wabanja. Koma m’banja la masiku ano, palibe amene amafuna kutsuka mbale. Zakudya zomwe sizimatsukidwa usiku ndizofanana ndi khomo lakumaso lomwe silimatsekedwa usiku. Chimwemwe ndi chuma zidzachoka m’banjali. Mkazi wabwino wapakhomo sangalekerere mbale zonyansa ngakhale panthawi yophika - ichi ndi chothandizira chake pa moyo wa banja. Zakudya zimakhala ndi kukopa kwapadera. Waukhondo amakopa mwayi kunyumba, ndipo wauve amabweretsa tsoka. Chifukwa chake mutha kudziwa mosavuta ngati chimwemwe chimakhala mnyumba muno.
Mkazi akagula golosale, amapeza masiku achisangalalo kwa banja lake mtsogolo. Zamasamba kapena zipatso zilizonse zatsopano, zokongola, zakupsa komanso zonunkhira bwino ndi tsiku la moyo wachimwemwe ndi wamtendere. Mwamuna nayenso ayenera kupatsa mkazi ndalama kuti azitha kusankha zinthu zabwino pamsika. Banja lomwe limasunga zogulira limakhala losauka komanso losasangalala, chifukwa kusunga zinthu kumatanthauza kusunga chimwemwe chanu. Komabe, ndalama zazikulu zopanda chifukwa zingawonongenso chinthu chonsecho. Kuwononga ndalama zambiri kumabweretsa ulesi. Ana ndi mwamuna sangafune kugwira ntchito zopindulitsa wamba. Kotero mu nkhani iyi, gwiritsitsani ku tanthauzo la golide.
Ngati cholembedwacho sichinayeretsedwe ndi mawu okoma a pemphero, chidzakhala mdima ndikupangitsa kuti malingaliro asokonezeke. Monga momwe munthu amapunthwa ndi kugwa mumdima, momwemonso a m’banja, atadya chakudya chosayeretsedwa, amachita zopusa nthaŵi zonse ndi kupanga zosankha zolakwika. Mwamuna adzasokoneza akazi ena ndi mkazi wake ndipo amawononga ndalama pa ntchito zopupuluma. Ana adzasokera. Yatsani njira ya banja lanu pakuyeretsa chakudya chanu ndi kuunika kwa mtima wanu ndi mawu okoma. Mwa njira, kupatulira chakudya cha nyama sikuthandiza. Kuwala ndi mphamvu zachifundo sizidzamamatira kwa iye. Sipadzakhala chisomo mmenemo.
Mkazi wabwino alibe chakudya. Ngati izi zichitika, ndiye kuti palibe vuto. Malinga ndi zikhulupiriro zakale, yemwe amataya chakudya chotsalira, amataya mwayi wake. Ndikofunikira kuphika ndi kudya kuti chakudya chisawonongeke. Osadya zonse nthawi imodzi, koma sungani kuti mudzazigwiritsenso ntchito m’tsogolo. Maso ndi awiri ndipo mimba ndi imodzi, choncho ikani momwe maso anu amafunira ndikulekanitsa ndendende theka. Ndi kuchuluka koyenera kwa mimba yanu. Ndipo ngati simuthabe kudya, dyetsani munthu aliyense kapena nyama.
Titha kufotokoza chiyembekezo kuti zinsinsi zazing'ono zachikazi izi zidzakuthandizani kupanga njira yophika, ndikukhala moyo wanu wosangalala.