"Palibe amene adandithandiza nanu - ndipo sindidzatero," amayi akutero mwadzidzidzi poyankha pempho lothandizira mwanayo. Zikumveka zowawa, koma agogowa ali ndi ufulu wonse wokana kulera mdzukulu wawo.
Agogo amakono salinso momwe analiri zaka 15-20 zapitazo. Kenako adzukuluwo adakhala nawo kumapeto kwa sabata kuti asangalale: ma pie, masewera a board, maulendo ophatikizana opita ku zokopa. Ambiri anali okondwa kusunga adzukulu awo. Tsopano pali agogo otere nawonso, koma alipo ochepa. Wina amakonda kwambiri moyo wake, wina ndi ntchito, ndipo wina ndi mpumulo woyenera. Wowerenga wathu Zhanna, mayi wachichepere, nayenso anakumana ndi izi:
“Zinachitika kuti ndiyenera kupita kuntchito msanga kuposa momwe ndimakonzekera nditapita kutchuthi choyembekezera. Mayi anga akadali aang’ono, ndipo ndinkaganiza kuti sangadandaule kundithandiza ndi mwana wawo. Koma kenako ananena kuti anali wamng’ono kwambiri, ndipo anaiwala mmene angasamalire ana otere. Ndinalemba ganyu, ndipo posakhalitsa ndinakwanitsa kutenga Yegorka ku nazale. Tsopano mwana wanga ali ndi zaka 4, koma amayi amakanabe kucheza naye. Nthaŵi zina amathandizira, amapita naye kwa maola angapo Loweruka ndi Lamlungu, koma kenaka amadandaula nthaŵi zonse kuti ali wotopa kwambiri, kuthamanga kwake kwa magazi kwakwera, ndipo tsopano ayenera kuchira kwa mlungu wathunthu. Komabe, sizigwira ntchito. Amakhala panyumba tsiku lonse, amawonerera TV, amakumana ndi zibwenzi, ndi zopempha zanga kuti mwanjira inayake andithandize ndi mwana wanga, pamene mlungu wanga wa ntchito usanduka mlungu wa masiku asanu ndi aŵiri, iye akunena motsimikiza kuti: “Palibe amene anandithandiza ndi inu, ndatulukamo ine ndekha, nanu mukuyesa monga ine ndikuchitira. " Ichi n'chiyani? Kubwezera? Udani wobisika kwa ine? Mwayi wobwezera unyamata wanu wakale? “
"M'dziko lamakono, agogo ambiri amasankha chomaliza posankha pakati pa zidzukulu ndi moyo wawo. Ndipo m’maiko akunja, mchitidwe umenewu wakhala ukuwonedwa ngati wamba. Agogo amakhala moyo wathunthu, amachita zomwe amakonda, kuyenda, ndipo zilibe kanthu kuti agogo awa ali ndi zaka zingati, 40 kapena 80.
Zoonadi, udindo wa Jeanne ndi womveka komanso womveka: mayi aliyense amafuna thandizo ndi chithandizo chilichonse ndi ana ndi chamtengo wapatali. Koma musaiwale kuti posankha kukhala ndi ana, timadzichitira tokha. Kupatula apo, ichi ndi chisankho chathu ndi chikhumbo chathu. Kuthandiza agogo si udindo wake, koma ntchito! Makolo, komabe, alera kale ana awo. “
Komabe, n’zothekabe kusonkhezera maganizo a amayi anga. Ndendende, mungayesere.
1. Choyamba muyenera kusankha nokha chomwe, nthawi ndi nthawi yomwe mukufuna thandizo. Ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, ndi chithandizo chamtundu wanji chomwe inu nokha mungalole kulandira kuchokera kwa amayi anu.
2. Yesetsani kukhala paubwenzi ndi amayi anu. Chochita chilichonse kapena kusachita kwa munthu kumakhala ndi kufotokozera, zomwe zimamulimbikitsa. Khalani pansi pa tebulo lokambirana, funsani momasuka: agogo anu akukonzekera kukuthandizani, ndi chithandizo chotani chomwe angapereke komanso kuchuluka kwake.
3. Lankhulani momasuka, popanda kunamizira. Tiuzeni zakukhosi kwanu, momwe mukumvera, momwe mulibe chithandizo komanso momwe zingakhalire zabwino ngati wina wakuthandizani pang'ono.
4. Dziwani zomwe mungawachitire amayi anu. Mwina ichi ndichinthu chosafunikira kwenikweni kwa inu, koma chofunikira kwambiri kwa iye.
5. Konzani mtundu wa mgwirizano ndi ndandanda. Ngakhale mutaona kuti amayi anu satanganidwa ndi chilichonse, kwenikweni zingakhale zosiyana. Dziwani zomwe amachita tsiku ndi tsiku, sabata, nthawi yomwe amatha kutenga mdzukulu wake kwa iye. Gwirizanani pa nthawi yeniyeni.
6. Khalani, oyamikira chithandizo chilichonse kuchokera kwa iye, chifukwa ngakhale chithandizo chaching'ono ndi chofunikira kwa inu. Zingawonekere kuti palibe chauzimu, koma nthawi zambiri timayiwala za zinthu zosavuta zotere, kulandira thandizo kuchokera kunja mopepuka.
7. Lankhulani ndi achibale ndi mabwenzi, fotokozani zakukhosi kwanu, ndipo inunso khalani okonzekera kuwamvetsera. Kaonedwe kathu ka mkhalidwewo ndi kawonedwe ka ena kangakhale kosiyana kwambiri, ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri kumakhala kosavuta kupeza kulolerana ngati tingolankhula.
8. Yesetsani amayi anu ndi zodabwitsa pang'ono: akhoza kukhala bokosi la maswiti omwe amakonda, kapena kupita ku cafe.
9. Perekani nthawi yochuluka kwa amayi anu, koma osati mkati mwa makoma a nyumba yanu kapena nyumba yanu, pamene mumamupatsa ntchito kwa tsiku limodzi kapena sabata. Muitanireni kuti mudzayende mozungulira tawuni, filimu, kapena chionetsero. Amayi adzayamikira.
Kucheza
Mukuganiza kuti agogo amayenera kusamalira adzukulu ake?
Inde, ndithudi. Aliyense adzapindula ndi izi: agogo, ana, ndi makolo.
Izo siziyenera kutero. Ichi chiyenera kukhala chikhumbo chake chenicheni, osati ntchito yoperekedwa kuchokera kunja.
Sindikukhudzidwa ndi nkhaniyi. Ngati mukufuna kupeza malo amwana, nditha kulemba ganyu wosamalira mwana kapena kufunsa mnzanga. Kulumikizana ndi amayi ndikokwera mtengo kwa inu nokha. Kenako mwanayo amakhala wosalamulirika pambuyo pa chithandizo choterocho.
Zimachitika m’njira zosiyanasiyana. Nthawi zina sangathe kupirira popanda thandizo loterolo ndipo ndikuganiza kuti agogo ayenera kumvetsetsa ntchito yawo yofunika.