"Oblomov Syndrome": momwe mungagonjetsere passivity

Mwinamwake chitsenderezo cha mikhalidwe chinali champhamvu kwambiri. Mwina pa nthawi ina munaona kuti dziko lonse likupandukirani. Simupeza mphamvu zomenyera nkhondo ndikusankha kuti musalumphenso pamwamba pa mutu wanu. Zakale zimapweteka, zam'tsogolo zimawopsya. Mukuyesera kuchedwetsa patsogolo pake. Chabwino, musachite chilichonse kuti zisaipire.

Pakapita nthawi, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti muchite zinthu wamba. Ena amaika zolinga, zokonda, ndipo pamapeto pake moyo. Koma moyo wanu umadutsa, ndipo mumayamba kudzitsimikizira nokha: mwinamwake izi sizoyipa. Koma palibe chisangalalo ndi zododometsa.

Mukakhala amphamvu komanso odzidalira, mumachita zinthu mosiyana. Ndinu wamphamvu, wokongola komanso wanzeru. Passivity ndi khalidwe lophunziridwa ndipo lingagwiritsidwe ntchito. Nawa malingaliro ofunikira kuti athandizire kusintha.

1. Fufuzani mantha anu

Tikapewa kuchita zinthu, nthawi zambiri mantha amakhala kumbuyo kwawo - kuopa kulephera, kusakwaniritsa zomwe tikufuna komanso zomwe ena akuyembekezera, kudzipanga kukhala opusa. Mantha akayamba kukhala nkhawa, zimakhala zovuta kuti tithane nazo.

Yesani kuzindikira mikhalidwe yeniyeni imene mantha anu amawonekera. Chikugwirizana ndi chiyani? Kodi zimachitika nthawi yanji? Kulemba zomwe mwawona mu diary kudzakuthandizani kudziwa bwino zomwe mwakumana nazo komanso kukhala ndi chidwi chowongolera mkhalidwe wanu.

2. Sinthani zizolowezi zanu

Chizoloŵezi chopewa nthawi zonse kupanga zisankho zofunika pakapita nthawi chimakhazikika kwambiri pazochitika zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku, zochita zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku, masomphenya athu a dziko lapansi, kotero kuti kupatukana nalo kumakhala ngati kusamukira kudziko lina.

Zingakhale zovuta kusintha ndondomeko yonse nthawi imodzi. Choncho, ndi bwino kuyambitsa kusintha pang'onopang'ono. Konzekerani kupita ku nkhani yapoyera kumapeto kwa sabata ino, yendani mu paki musanagwire ntchito, cheza ndi mnansi wanu. Zochepa "zolowera" kudziko lakunja zidzakupangitsani kukhala pafupi ndi chitetezo kwa inu.

3. Lembani Mphamvu Zanu

M'malo opanda chidwi, timagonja mosavuta: tsiku lililonse lomwe tikukhalamo zimangowonjezera zifukwa zodzidzudzula tokha. M’malo monyozetsa, yesani kuika maganizo pa zimene mumachita bwino. Zingawonekere kwa inu kuti zonse zomwe mwakwaniritsa ndi zopusa ndipo ena adzakuwululani mwachangu.

Funsani abwenzi ndi anzanu kuti akufotokozereni ndi kunena zomwe amayamikira pa inu - kotero mutha kudzipenda nokha moyenera. Mukangopanga mndandanda wanu, ganizirani momwe mungawongolere. Chitani zinthu motengera zolinga zamkati, osati potengera zomwe munthu wina akuyembekezera komanso "malingaliro a anthu".

4. Phunzirani kunena kuti "ayi"

Oddly mokwanira, ndi mawu awa pamene kuzindikira kumayamba. Passivity ndi kupewa zomverera zosasangalatsa ndi zochita zomwe zingawapangitse iwo. Nthawi zambiri, kusasamala kumakhala chifukwa chakuchulukirachulukira, pomwe zomwe zidapangidwa zimalemera kwambiri ndipo timazithawa. Mwa kuphunzira kukana, muli panjira yoti mukhale oona mtima kwa inu nokha ndi ena ndikuwongolera zosankha zanu.

5. Dziwitsani zoopsa zomwe mungathe kuzikwanitsa m'moyo wanu

Chifukwa chofala cha kulephera kwa awo amene akuyesera kulimbana ndi mphwayi ndicho kupeputsa maluso awo. Tikatuluka mu «malo” athu timakhala pachiwopsezo. Kuyesera kuthana ndi milandu yonse yomwe yasonkhanitsidwa mosasamala kapena kutenga udindo wapadziko lonse lapansi kungayambitse kudzitsitsa kwatsopano komanso kukhumudwa kwambiri m'tsogolomu.

Njira yabwino ndikukankhira pang'onopang'ono malire a malo anu otonthoza. Kufunitsitsa kumaphunzitsidwa, koma mofanana ndi minofu, ndikofunikira kusinthana pakati pa kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi kupuma.

6. Konzani zochita zanu

Kumva bwino ndikulimbikitsa. Makamaka ngati kupambana kumeneko kungayesedwe kapena kuimiridwa ndi maso. Choncho, ndi bwino kudziikira cholinga chimodzi ndikuchikwaniritsa mosalekeza kusiyana ndi kukhala obalalika pa ntchito zingapo.

Lembani magawo onse, agawanitseni kukhala tinthu tating'onoting'ono tomwe titha kuchitidwa kamodzi. Dzipezereni ndandanda ndikuwonetsa momwe mukupitira patsogolo. Chotsatira chilichonse chowoneka chidzakupatsani mphamvu ndikukupatsani mphamvu yolamulira moyo wanu.

Kumbukirani kuti kusasamala ndi khalidwe lophunzira. Koma kusintha kumakhala kovuta ngati muzolowera mpaka kukhala njira ya moyo wanu. Mukayang'ana kwambiri kuphompho komwe mumaganizira kuti ndinu wopanda pake komanso wopanda pake, m'pamenenso kuti phompholi lidzayamba kuyang'ana mwa inu (ndi kukulandani).