Zamkatimu
Heroine wathu amavomereza kuti kusintha zomwe sakonda mothandizidwa ndi pulasitiki kunakhala kothandiza kwambiri kuposa kuyesera kukonda zolakwika za maonekedwe ake kwa zaka zambiri. Amakhulupirira kuti tikuwononga nthawi ndi mphamvu zathu polimbana ndi kudzikonda. Nkhaniyi idayankhulidwa ndi katswiri wa Gestalt Daria Petrovskaya.
"Ndikufuna kudzimva kuti ndine wokongola"
Elena, wopanga, wazaka 37: “Ndili wachinyamata, ndinapita ku maphunziro a zamaganizo omwe ankaimba zachibadwa komanso kufunika kodzikonda ngati wina aliyense. Ndendende momwe sanafotokozedwe. Koma iwo anaumirira mokangalika.
Panthawi ina, ndinazindikira kuti kuti ndivomereze kupanda ungwiro kwanga, ndinayenera kudutsa m’njira ya kulimbana kwa mkati, kuti ndidziswe. Koma ndizopindulitsa kwambiri kuti ndisamenyane ndi ine ndekha, koma kukonza chinachake tsopano ndikusangalala ndi zotsatira zake. Ndizowoneka bwino komanso zenizeni. Kupatula apo, kuyesa kuthana ndi zofooka za mawonekedwe kumatha zaka zambiri, ndikuyambitsa mikangano yosatha yamkati.
Sindinadandaulepo kuti ndinapita kuzinthu zina ndi nkhope ndi thupi. Mpikisano wachinyengo "kuvomera ndikudzikonda nokha ndi zolakwika" umaonongedwa mwachangu ndi ndemanga za anthu ena ndi kutsutsa. Timawononga nthawi yamtengo wapatali pazokumana nazo. Ndipo nthawi ndi gwero lomwe silingabwezedwe.
Chilichonse chomwe ndachita chimachokera ku chilimbikitso chamkati, osati chifukwa chofuna kukhala mumayendedwe
Kuti mumvetse momwe mwakhutidwira ndi maonekedwe anu, ndikwanira kujambula nokha pa kamera. Mudzadabwa kuti mphamvu zanu zingatengedwe bwanji ndi malingaliro chifukwa cha chithunzi chakunja, chikhumbo chofuna kupeza ngodya yopambana.
Ndimachita masemina pa intaneti, ndimakonda kugwira ntchito ndi kamera. Ndipo ndimapambana mayeso odalirika awa. Tsopano sindiyenera kuda nkhawa ndi maonekedwe anga. Sindidetsa nkhawa konse ndipo ndimatha kukhazikika pa ntchito zanga.
Ndine wotsimikiza: nthawi zonse pali zolimbikitsa zamkati ndi zakunja zosinthira mawonekedwe. Ndimachita zinthu mogwirizana ndi zosowa zanga, osati chifukwa cha mafashoni.
Palibe "chithunzi" chimodzi chokha pa nkhope yanga: mphuno yaying'ono, cheekbones yapamwamba, chibwano chophwanyika ndi milomo yokhala ndi uta. Sindimayesetsa kukhala ndi mawonekedwe ogwirizana. Sindimatsindika za chithunzicho ndi zovala, ndipo koposa zonse sindimadziwonetsa pamasamba ochezera.
Nthawi yomweyo, sindimabisa kuti ndidachita opaleshoni yapulasitiki. Ndipo anthu nthawi zambiri samamvetsa chifukwa ndiye ndinapita kwa izo. Yankho ndi losavuta: zonse zomwe ndachita zimachokera ku zolimbikitsa zamkati, osati chifukwa chofuna kukhala muzochitika kapena chifukwa chonditsutsa. Ndikufuna kudzimva kuti ndine wokongola. Ndipo palibe chifukwa chowonetsera izo kwa aliyense mwachindunji. Sindimayembekezera kuyesedwa ndi kutamandidwa. Ndimadzipangira ndekha. ”
"Chifukwa chiyani heroine akuyesera kufulumizitsa zinthu?"
Daria Petrovskaya, dokotala wa Gestalt: "Ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa pakati pa malo olamulira akunja ndi amkati. Pachiyambi choyamba, zothandizira, zothandizira ndi zomwe zapindula zimachokera ku mphamvu ya zinthu zakunja: "Ena ngati ine, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti zonse zili bwino ndi ine" kapena "Ndinathandizidwa kupirira ntchitoyi, sindikanatha kutero. ndekha.”
The mkati locus ulamuliro kwambiri anatembenukira kwa chuma chawo ndi njira: munthu amatha kudalira luso lake. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, zonsezi ndizofunikira pazochitika zilizonse. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, zonse "zopingasa" ndi "zoyang'ana" ndizofunikira: Ine ndekha ndi ine timalumikizana ndi ena, ndi chilengedwe.
Mwachiwonekere, heroine ali ndi malo abwino kwambiri olamulira mkati.
Kuphatikiza apo, chilichonse mwazochita zathu chimatanthauza njira kapena zotsatira. M'nkhaniyi, ndikuwona kukonza m'malo mwake pazotsatira. Ngati ndondomekoyo yokha ndi yofunika, zimakhala zotheka kusangalala nazo, ngakhale zotsatira zake sizili bwino.
Kodi kusintha kumeneku kumabwera chifukwa chofuna kukonza nthawi zonse "zopanda ungwiro" kapena chikondi ndi ulemu kwa inu nokha?
Ngati munthu angoyang'ana pazotsatira zake, ndiye kuti njira yopitako imakhala yosamvetsetsana mwatsoka yomwe iyenera kupirira. Chifukwa chake pangakhale chikhumbo chofulumizitsa ndondomekoyi, kudandaula za nthawi yomwe idagwiritsidwa ntchito, kumverera kowawa kukhala pakali pano.
Funso limadzuka: chifukwa chiyani heroine akuyesera kufulumizitsa zinthu ndipo ngakhale mawonekedwe atsopano amakhala njira yopezera zotsatira zomwe zakhala zikuyembekezeredwa kwa nthawi yayitali? Zolankhula zake, ndithudi, zimamveka zolimba mtima, amawona mobwerezabwereza kuti amadzipangira yekha, osati chifukwa chofuna kukondweretsa ena. Kuganiza mozama kumawonekera bwino m'nkhani yake. Mwachiwonekere, iye sanapange zosankha zake, pokhala pa nsonga ya neurosis. Kunalidi kusankha koyenera.
Koma chidziwitso chamankhwala chimandikakamiza kuti ndifunse zambiri za gawo lomwe heroine amawona kuti ndi lopanda ungwiro ndipo akufuna kuyambiranso posachedwa. Chosapiririka ndi chiyani mu zofooka za maonekedwe? Kodi kusintha kumeneku kumabwera chifukwa chofuna kukonza nthawi zonse "zopanda ungwiro" kapena chikondi ndi ulemu kwa inu nokha?
Funso limeneli ndi lotsegukabe kwa ine.”