«kuganiza mopitilira muyeso: Kwenikweni, kuganiza mochuluka. Wofufuza waku America pama psychology, a Susan Nolen-Hoeksema afotokoza zoyipa izi kwambiri, ndi njira zothetsera izi: amawafotokozera mu ntchito yake ya mutu Nchifukwa chiyani amai amatsogolera? Chifukwa, kuganizira mopitirira muyeso kumakhudza makamaka azimayi. Susan Nolen-Hoesksema amatanthauzira, kukhala wopitilira muyeso ngati "chizoloŵezi chobwezeretsa mwakuya malingaliro kapena malingaliro ena olakwika“. Nawa maupangiri ochepa oti musagwere mumaketani ake ... Kapena mutha kuthawa maukonde ake!

«Ambiri a ife nthawi zina timadzazidwa ndi nkhawa, malingaliro kapena malingaliro omwe, mwa kuwongolera kwathu, amathetsa malingaliro athu ndi mphamvu zathu.. ”Ndi chifukwa chake, mwa mawu awa pomwe katswiri wazamisala Susan Nolen-Hoeksema akufotokozera kuyenera koganiza mopitirira muyeso:mitsinje yamavuto ndi malingaliro osalimbikitsa omwe amafooketsa moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku komanso moyo wabwino".

Anthu omwe amakonda kuthekera koteroko amayamba kutsatira chidziwitso chilichonse, kulingalira kwa maola ambiri ... Zotsatira? Kuvutikako kumangokula. Malingaliro amayenda malinga ndi momwe amasangalalira, popanda iwo kupeza mayankho.

Amayi amakonda kutengeka mopitirira muyeso kuposa amuna. Ndipo amatha kuzichita pachilichonse ndi china chilichonse, kuyambira mawonekedwe awo kapena kulemera kwawo mopitilira banja lawo, ntchito yawo kapena thanzi lawo. "Kuthawa kuganiza mopitirira muyeso, akutero a Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, kuli ngati kuyesa kutuluka mumchenga. Kuti mupeze ufulu, chinthu choyamba ndikumasula nsinga za malingaliro omwe akukulemetsani.. "

Kafukufuku wambiri paubongo amafotokoza kuti ena (kapena ena) aife timakonda kuchita mphekesera kuposa ena. Umu ndi momwe katswiri wama psychology waku America Richard Davidson adatanthauzira, kudzera pa zomwe amachitcha kuti "affective neuroscience", njira zingapo zomwe ubongo ungathetsere kutengeka. Ukadaulo woganiza zamankhwala wapangitsa kuti zitheke kuwonetsa "malingaliro olakwika adatsegula mbali yakumanja ya ubongo, yotchedwa preortal cortex, kuposa mbali yakumanzere“. Cortex woyambirira ndi dera laubongo lolola kuwongolera momwe akumvera, ndiye kuti kuthekera kosefa ndi kuwongolera.

Kulephera kwa kotekisi yoyambilira kumatha kuyambitsa kusakhazikika kwamalingaliro, komwe kumatha kubweretsa kulingalira mopitilira muyeso, kapena chizolowezi chokhumudwa. Kuphatikiza apo, magawo ena awiri aubongo amathanso kutenga nawo mbali: amygdala ndi hippocampus, omwe ndi malo ophunzirira komanso kukumbukira momwe zimakhalira. Nthawi zina zimasokonekera mwa anthu omwe amakonda kupsinjika ndi mphekesera. Chifukwa chake, ma amygdala opitilira muyeso amatha kutengera kukhala "okhudzidwa kwambiri", kuti atenge mosavuta mitundu yonse yazosokoneza.

Susan Nolen-Hoeksema analemba kuti: “Kumasula ku kuganiza mopitirira muyeso sikophweka. Zimafunikira kupezanso kudzidalira, kudzitchinjiriza ku malingaliro osalamulirika. ”Gawo loyamba lomwe ndilofunika… Pali njira zingapo zothetsera izi. Kafukufuku wambiri wokhudza kukhumudwa, makamaka, motsogozedwa pakati pa akatswiri azamisala aku America a Peter Lewinsohn, awonetsa kuti "kuti muchiritse, ndikofunikira kuthana ndi vuto loyerekeza mopitirira muyeso komanso kungokhala chete". 

Mayendedwe angapo amakulolani kuti muzimasule nokha: pakati pawo, yopuma pang'ono. Dzipatseni chododometsa. "Kupyolera mu kafukufuku, ndapeza kuti zimangotenga mphindi zisanu ndi zitatu zokha kuti musangalale ndikubwezeretsanso malingaliro abodza.", Akutero Susan Nolen-Hoeksema. Njira zake ndizosiyanasiyana, kuyambira pakuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, makamaka zomwe zimafunikira chidwi chokwanira monga badminton kapena kukwera, kupita ku ntchito zamanja, kapena ngakhale ndi ndalama zongodzipereka.

Anthu ena amathawira kuzinthu zopanda thanzi, monga bulimia kapena kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa. Ndizachinyengo: "Ngakhale kudya nthawi yomweyo kumakhazika mtima pansi, zotsatira za boomerang zimangokhala nthawi yomweyo. Timadziimba mlandu tokha chifukwa chopereka mapaketi a makeke, timakhumudwa chifukwa chosowa mphamvu. Zomwezo zimapanganso mowa", Alemba Susan Nolen-Hoeksema. Ndani pamapeto pake amalangiza kufunafuna chisangalalo ndikukhala momwemo…

Nthawi zosangalatsa, kufunafuna chisangalalo, zimapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuthana ndi zisoni zosiyanasiyana, kapena chisoni. Kukwanitsa kukhala achimwemwe kumakhudzanso luso loganiza. Kutengeka mtima kumachepetsa zovuta zoyipa zakukhumudwa kwakanthawi m'thupi lathu. Kafukufuku wochititsa chidwi wochitidwa ndi akatswiri amisala ku Kentucky akuwonetsa kuti nthawi zokhala ndi malingaliro abwino zimachulukitsa kutalika kwa moyo: ofufuzawa awonetsadi, kwa masisitere, kuti iwo omwe amadziwa momwe angakhalire osangalatsidwa amakhala zaka pafupifupi khumi zakubadwa !

Kusinkhasinkha ndichofala: pafupifupi 40% ya omwe anafunsidwa ndi a Susan Nolen-Hoeksema ati amatembenukira kupemphero kapena kusinkhasinkha kuti athetse chisokonezo chawo komanso kuganizira mopitirira muyeso. "Ngakhale kuti nthawi zathu zatha malingaliro ena achikhristu, ambiri amakhulupirira Mgwirizano Wapamwamba, Mtsogoleri Wapamwamba", Akuwonetsa katswiri wama psychology waku America.

Kusinkhasinkha mozama, komwe kumapangika kwambiri pakadali pano, pa chiganizo kapena chithunzi, komanso kusinkhasinkha koyenera, komwe kumalimbikitsa kuzindikira bwino lingaliro lililonse, chithunzi, lingaliro, kutengeka kwakanthawi atangofika, onse atha kukhala njira yabwino yotsitsira katundu wathu… Tidzatchulanso, kulemba, kapenanso kuchita zosangalatsa zazing'ono tsiku ndi tsiku, monga kuwonera kanema wazoseketsa, kuyenda pamalo osangalatsa, kapena kusewera ndi ana ang'onoang'ono…

Kuphatikiza apo, thandizo la wothandizira kapena la mlangizi waukwati wosankhidwa mwanzeru atha, pakafunika kutero, kuti athe kukonza zinthu zomwe zingapangitse kuganiza mopitilira muyeso, monga, mwa awiriwa.

Ndipo ngati, pamapeto pake, kutsatira wafilosofi Maurice Bellet, tsopano tifunikira "pangani njira yatsopano yakukhalira mdziko lapansi“? Wokhoza, modzichepetsa konse, "kukhala chiyambi chatsopano“? Likawomba wotheratu ! Tiyeni tigwiritse ntchito mwayi wapano…