Zamkatimu
Kodi choyamba n’chiyani kwa ife? Yankho la funso limeneli limatithandiza kukhala ndi maganizo abwino, limatithandiza kukhala ndi ndandanda yosavuta, komanso kuti tisunge nthawi ndi mphamvu. Zimatipatsa mwayi wochita zinthu zofunika kwambiri kwa ife.
Tatyana ali ndi zaka 38. Ali ndi mwamuna, ana awiri komanso ndondomeko yomveka bwino kuyambira pa wotchi ya m'mawa mpaka maphunziro amadzulo. “Ndilibe chodandaula nacho,” iye akudabwa motero, “koma kaŵirikaŵiri ndimadzimva kutopa, kuipidwa ndipo mwanjira ina iliyonse ndimadziona kuti ndilibe kanthu. Zikuoneka kuti chinachake chofunika chikusowa, koma sindikumvetsa kuti ndi chiyani.”
Amuna ndi akazi ambiri amakhala motsutsana ndi chifuniro chawo pa autopilot, yokhazikitsidwa ndi ena kuwakonzera iwo. Nthawi zina ndi chifukwa ananena “ayi” kwa iwo eni, koma nthawi zambiri ndi chifukwa sanayerekeze kunena “inde”.
Moyo wathu waumwini ndi wosiyana: m'kupita kwa nthawi, zomwe tinalowa muubwenzi zimasinthidwa ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku - ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku ndi mikangano yaying'ono, kotero timayang'anizana ndi kufunikira kosintha chinachake mu ubale ndi okondedwa athu. Ngati sitichita izi ndikupitiriza kusuntha "pa chala chachikulu", ndiye kuti timataya mphamvu ndi chidwi pa moyo. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mkhalidwe umenewu ukhoza kusanduka kuvutika maganizo.
Nthawi yoti mukhale amateur
“Makasitomala amene ali ndi vuto lofananalo amabwera kwa ine kaŵirikaŵiri,” akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Sergey Malyukov. - Kenako, poyambira, ndikufunsani kusankha: zomwe zimakusangalatsani kwenikweni? Kenako fufuzani momwe kumverera uku kukuwonekera, chifukwa chake pakadali pano. Mwina uku ndikuzindikira zina mwazochita zanu. Ndipo iwo akhoza kukhala ulusi umene ungabweretse kukoma kwa moyo. Zingakhale bwino kukumbukira nthawi imeneyo pamene zonse zinali mu dongosolo, ndi kumvetsa ntchito, ndi maubwenzi otani pa moyo wanga. Dzifunseni kuti n’chifukwa chiyani zinali zofunika.”
Mutha kupita mosiyana: kudzipatula ku zochitika ndi maubwenzi omwe amayambitsa kukhumudwa, kunyong'onyeka, kusakhutira, ndikuyesera kupeza chomwe chiri cholakwika ndi iwo. Koma njira iyi, malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, ndizovuta kwambiri.
Tatiana anatembenukira kwa psychotherapist, ndipo anamupempha kuti akumbukire zomwe ankakonda ali mwana. "Poyamba, palibe chomwe chinabwera m'maganizo mwanga, koma kenako ndinazindikira: ndinapita ku studio ya zojambulajambula! Ndinkakonda kujambula, koma panalibe nthawi yokwanira, ndinasiya ntchitoyi ndikuyiwalatu. Atakambirana, anaganiza zoyambiranso. Atapeza nthawi yopita ku sukulu ya zaluso kwa akuluakulu, Tatiana amadabwa kumva kuti nthawi yonseyi analibe luso.
Tikadziwa malamulo ndi malamulo bwino lomwe ndikugwira ntchito pa autopilot, timasiya kuzindikira zachilendo, zodabwitsa, komanso chisangalalo.
Nthawi zina timanyalanyaza zosowa zathu kwa zaka zambiri. Zokonda nthawi zina zimaoneka ngati zazing'ono poyerekeza ndi ntchito kapena udindo wa banja. Palinso zifukwa zina zimene zimatichititsa kusiya ntchito zimene poyamba zinali zofunika kwa ife.
"Iwo amasiya kukondweretsa akakhala chizolowezi ndipo lingaliro loyambirira silimveka, chifukwa chake tinayamba kuchita izi," akufotokoza Sergey Malyukov. - Ngati tilankhula za zosangalatsa kapena ntchito, ndiye kuti izi zikhoza kukhala pamene tikukakamizidwa ndi malingaliro ambiri okhudza momwe tingachitire bwino. Mwachitsanzo, malingaliro omwe mukufunikira kuti mukwaniritse bwino pofika tsiku linalake, gwiritsani ntchito njira zenizeni, yerekezerani nokha ndi ena. Kuyika "zakunja" kotereku pakapita nthawi kumalepheretsa bizinesi yathu.
Ukadaulo wopitilira muyeso ungayambitsenso izi: tikamadziwa bwino malamulo ndi zikhalidwe ndikuchita pa autopilot, timataya chidziwitso chazatsopano, kudabwa komanso chisangalalo. Kodi chidwi ndi chisangalalo zimachokera kuti? Njira yotulukira ndiyo kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano, kuyesa kuchita china kapena mwanjira ina. Kumbukirani zomwe zimatanthauza kukhala amateur. Ndipo lolani kuti mulakwe kachiwiri.
Sikuti zonse zili pansi pa ulamuliro
“Sindikudziwa chimene ndikufuna, sindikuona kuti zili bwino kwa ine” … Mkhalidwe wotero ukhoza kukhala chifukwa cha kutopa kwambiri, kutopa. Kenako timafunika kupuma moganizira komanso kotheratu. Koma nthawi zina kusadziwa zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala zofunika kwambiri ndikukanidwa, kumbuyo komwe kumakhala kuopa kulephera. Mizu yake imabwerera ku ubwana, pamene makolo okhwima ankafuna yankho lachangu la ntchito zomwe zakhazikitsidwa kwa asanu apamwamba.
Mtundu wokhawo wothekera wotsutsa malingaliro osanyengerera a makolo ndiwo kusankha kusasankha kapena kusankha. Kuonjezera apo, pokana kutsindika, timasunga chinyengo cha mphamvu zonse ndikulamulira zinthu. Ngati sitisankha, ndiye kuti sitingagonjetsedwe.
Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti tili ndi ufulu wochita zolakwa ndi kukhala opanda ungwiro. Pamenepo kulephera sikudzakhalanso chizindikiro chowopsa cha kulephera.
Koma kusazindikira kotereku kumalumikizidwa ndi kukakamira mu zovuta za unyamata wamuyaya (puer aeternus) ndipo zimadzaza ndi kuyimitsidwa panjira yachitukuko chamunthu. Monga Jung adalembera, ngati sitidziwa zomwe zili mkati mwa psyche yathu, zimayamba kutikopa kuchokera kunja ndikukhala tsogolo lathu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, moyo mobwerezabwereza "udzatiponya" ndi zochitika zobwerezabwereza zomwe zimafuna luso losankha - mpaka titatenga udindo.
Kuti zimenezi zitheke, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti ndife olakwa komanso opanda ungwiro. Ndiye kulephera kudzatha kukhala chizindikiro chowopsya cha kulephera ndipo kudzakhala gawo lokha la kayendetsedwe ka njira yomwe yasankhidwa kwa ife osati ndi anthu, osati ndi zamakono, komanso ngakhale oyandikana nawo, koma mwa ife tokha.
"Titha kudziwa zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa ife mwa kuyang'ana kuchuluka kwa zomwe tachita pa izi kapena ntchitozo zimapereka mphamvu ndi zinthu," akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Elena Arie. "Ndipo zotsirizirazi, zimakulolani kuti muzitha kukonza bwino nkhawa, manyazi, kudziimba mlandu ndi malingaliro ena omwe amalepheretsa kukhazikika pakukwaniritsa zolinga." Podziwa zomwe zili zofunika kwa ife, tidzazindikira mphamvu zathu.
Chofunikira kwambiri kwa iwo ...
“Khalani nawo m’moyo wanu. Nthawi zambiri ndimadzifulumira ndikuthamangitsa ena, ndimayesetsa kulosera zam'tsogolo. Posachedwapa ndaganiza zosintha izi. Ndimayesetsa kuyima, kudzifunsa chomwe chikundichitikira panthawi yomweyi. Ndakwiya? sangalalani? Ndine wachisoni? Mphindi iliyonse ili ndi tanthauzo lake. Kenako ndinayamba kuzindikira kuti kukhala ndi moyo n’kwabwino.” (Svetlana, wazaka 32, wojambula wa nyumba yosindikizira ya ana)
“Chotsani mopambanitsa. Izi sizikugwira ntchito kuzinthu zokha, komanso malingaliro. Ndinataya wotchi yochenjeza: Sindiyenera kudzuka pa ola linalake; ndinagulitsa galimoto, ndimayenda. Ndinapereka TV kwa mnansi: Ndikhoza kukhala bwino popanda nkhani. Ndinkafuna kutaya foni, koma mkazi wanga amakhala wodekha akamandiimbira. Ngakhale kuti tsopano timathera nthawi yambiri pamodzi.” (Gennady, wazaka 63, wopuma pantchito, Wachiwiri kwa Director of Sales Director)
“Kukhala pakati pa mabwenzi. Kumanani ndi anthu atsopano, adziweni ndikutsegula, phunzirani za inu nokha zomwe simunadziwe kale. Ndinapeza kampani yaying'ono pa intaneti yomwe imapanga ma T-shirts osindikizidwa, ndinawakonda. Posachedwapa, iwo anafalitsa uthenga wonena za mavuto azachuma. Ine ndi anzanga tinagula ma T-shirts angapo komanso ngati mphatso. Anatitumizira kalata yothokoza. Sindikuwadziwa anyamata a kampaniyi, koma ndinasangalala kuti ndinathandiza anthu abwino.” (Anton, wazaka 29, katswiri wogula zinthu)
“Chitani zomwe mukufuna. Ndinagwira ntchito ngati loya m'makampani osiyanasiyana kwa zaka zoposa makumi awiri, ndipo ndinazindikira kuti: Sindimakonda. Mwanayo ndi wachikulire ndipo amadzipezera yekha ndalama, ndipo sindiyeneranso kupsinjika chifukwa cha malipiro. Ndipo ndinaganiza zosiya kampaniyo. Nthaŵi zonse ndinkakonda kusoka, choncho ndinagula makina osokera ndi kumaliza maphunzirowo. Ndinadzipangira zinthu zingapo. Ndiye kwa abwenzi. Tsopano ndili ndi makasitomala opitilira makumi asanu, ndipo ndikuganiza zokulitsa bizinesi. (Vera, wazaka 45, wopanga zovala)