Wozunza, Wozunzidwa, Wopulumutsa: 5 Zopeka Zokhudza Triangle ya Karpman

Chochititsa chidwi makona atatu a Karmpan (ndicho chomwe chimatchedwa) chadziwika kwambiri ku Russia m'zaka 10-15 zapitazi. Wozunzidwa, Wopulumutsa, Wozunza - mayina odziwika kwa iwo omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi psychology. Mu Sewero la Triangle, maudindo onse atatu si enieni, ndiko kuti, amaleredwa, ndipo sanapatsidwe chibadwire. Pokhala m'modzi mwa maudindo, anthu amachitapo kanthu potengera zakale, osati zenizeni za "pano ndi pano." Panthawi imodzimodziyo, njira zakale za zochitika zimagwiritsidwa ntchito.

Kumanzere ngodya ya Drama Triangle chithunzi ndi Chaser. Amalankhula kuchokera ku "Ndili bwino - simuli bwino". Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, iye amanyoza ndi kuchititsa manyazi anthu, kuwapangitsa kudzimva kukhala olakwa. Wozunzayo amanyalanyaza kufunika ndi ulemu wa ena, muzochitika zovuta kwambiri amanyalanyaza ufulu wa munthu wokhala ndi moyo ndi thanzi.

Pakona yakumanja kwa chithunzicho ndi Wopulumutsa. Amalankhulana ndi malo omwewo "Ndili bwino - simuli bwino", koma samachititsa manyazi, koma amangonyoza winayo. Amagwiritsa ntchito udindo wake wapamwamba kapena udindo wake wamphamvu kuti athandize anthu ena, kuwaganizira ndi kuthetsa mavuto awo.

Pansipa pali Wozunzidwayo. Iye mwini amamva kuti ali wonyozeka ndipo amalankhula kuchokera pamalopo: "Sindili bwino - muli bwino." Wozunzidwayo amatsitsa luso lake.

“Nthawi zina iye mwini amafunafuna Wozunzayo kuti amunyozetse ndi kumuika m’malo mwake. Pankhaniyi, Wozunzidwayo amapeza mwayi wotsimikizira chikhulupiriro chake cha script: "Sindili bwino. Anthu ena samandikonda.” Nthawi zambiri Wozunzidwayo akuyang'ana Wopulumutsa kuti amuthandize ndikutsimikizira chikhulupiriro cha script: "Sindingathe kuthetsa mavuto ndekha." Makona atatu ayenera kukokedwa isosceles, "akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Lyudmila Shekholm.

Nthano nambala 1. Kodi udindo - umunthu wotere

Stephen Karpman, mbadwa ya ku Russia, anayambitsa dziko la Drama Triangle mu 1968. Iye anapanga tchati chimene chingagwiritsidwe ntchito kupenda masewera a maganizo, zochitika za moyo wa munthu mmodzi ndi banja kapena chikhalidwe china.

"Nthawi zambiri udindo wa Wopulumutsa, Wozunzidwa, Wozunza amanenedwa molakwika ndi umunthu wonse. Koma izi si zoona, - ndemanga Lyudmila Shekholm. - Makona atatu amangowonetsa gawo lomwe munthu amachita pamasewera ena amalingaliro. Chodabwitsa cha masewerawa ndikupangitsa kuti anthu adziwike. The masewera ndi structuring nthawi, kusinthana kwa zikwapu (m'chinenero transaction kusanthula, ichi ndi gawo la kuzindikira. - Pafupifupi. Mkonzi.), Kukhalabe moyo udindo «Sindili bwino - muli bwino». , «Ndili bwino — simuli bwino» kay», «Sindili bwino — inu simuli bwino» ndi kukwezedwa kwa script.

Nthano nambala 2. Makona atatu akuloza mmwamba

Makona atatu a Karpman nthawi zonse amakhala ndi isosceles. "Ku Russia, amakonda kumutembenuza ndi pamwamba pa Wozunzidwayo, ndipo Wozunza amatchedwa wankhanza, wolusa, wogwirira, wankhanza, ngakhale fascist. Koma izi si zoona, - akufotokoza za maganizo. - Makona atatu apamwamba amakhala ndi maziko ake: kumanzere kuli pamwamba pa Otsatira, kumanja ndi Wopulumutsa, pamwamba pa Wozunzidwa amayang'ana pansi. Maudindowa ndi a anthu osiyanasiyana. Pali mtundu umodzi wokha wa katatu, pamene pamwamba sitiwona maziko, koma pamwamba - ichi ndi chomwe chimatchedwa Iceberg. Ndiko kuti, munthu mmodzi amasewera udindo wa Wozunzidwa, koma kwenikweni, mosadziwa, akhoza kukhala Wopulumutsa ndi Wozunza. Ndipo izi ndi zofunika kudziwa kuti timvetse mfundo za «kuchita» wa makona atatu.

Nthano #3. Pali makona atatu okha a Karpman.

Pakhoza kukhala zosiyana zambiri za kusintha kwa ntchito mu makona atatu. Makona atatu amathandiza kupenda masewera amaganizo a m'banja kapena ngakhale dongosolo lonse la banja m'mibadwo yosiyana. Ndipo zina (monga momwe zilili ndi Iceberg) zikuwonetsa momwe munthu yemweyo angasunthire kuchoka ku gawo kupita ku gawo.

"Mwachitsanzo, Barmaley wokongola yemwe amadziwika kwa aliyense: mwina ndi Wozunza, ndiye kuti mwadzidzidzi amalowa m'mimba ndikukhala Wozunzidwa. Kapena nthano ina yodziwika bwino - ya Little Red Riding Hood. Munthu wamkulu amachita ngati Wopulumutsa akapita kwa agogo ake odwala. Koma amasinthira mwachangu kwa Wozunzidwayo. Mmbulu poyamba ndi Wotsatira, ndiye iye mwiniyo amakhala Wozunzidwa ndi Otsatira - osaka. Ndipo amakhala Opulumutsa mtsikanayo ndi agogo ake.

Kusintha kwa maudindo nthawi zina kumachitika mwachangu kwambiri ndipo, monga lamulo, mosazindikira. Wozunzidwayo amangodabwa kuti: “Ndikanambwerekanso bwanji kachisanu, chifukwa sangabwezenso!

Bodza #4: Triangle ya Karpman Imagwira Ntchito Popanda Kusewera

Izi sizowona. Makona atatu a Karpman ndi ofunika pamasewera amisala. Koma mumadziwa bwanji zomwe zikuchitika mumasewerawa?

"Pokhapokha pamene masewerawa amachitika pamene pali chinyengo, kusintha maudindo ndi chilango chosayenera. Malinga ndi chilinganizo cha Eric Berne, ma aligorivimu amapangidwa mumasewera am'maganizo: mbedza + kuluma = kuchita - kusintha - manyazi - kubwezera," akufotokoza Lyudmila Sjokholm.

Tinene kuti mwamuna adaitanira mtsikana ku chakudya chamadzulo (mbedza). Anavomera napitakuluma ndi kuchita). Koma “monga ngati” sanamvetse cholinga chimene anamuyitanira, ndipo iye sanalankhule poyera, koma ankafuna kupitiriza pambuyo pa lesitilantiyo. Onse amadzinamiza kuti zonse zikuyenda molingana ndi dongosolo.

Pa chakudya chamadzulo, mtsikanayo, atatha kukambirana mkati, adaganiza kuti sipadzakhala kupitiriza kwa chakudya chamadzulo. Atagwirizana, mtsikanayo anali ngati Wopulumutsa, ndipo mwamunayo anali Wozunzidwa. Ndiye izo zinachitika kusintha: adakhala Wozunzidwayo ndipo adakhala Wozunza.

Mwamunayo anawerengera kupitiriza - chifukwa cha izi, adakonza tsiku. Kukana kupita kwa iye kunamudabwitsa (manyazi). Monga ngati pakati pa mizere, onse amamvetsetsa izi, koma musatchule, kuyankhulana ndi malingaliro atheka. Ndipo kotero iye akulengeza kuti ndi nthawi yoti apite kunyumba, ndipo amalipira pokwera yekha taxi. Kunyumba, atasanthula zomwe zidachitika, adazindikira kuti madzulo adalepheranso ndipo adapusanso.

Chitsanzo china cha masewera omwe amawakonda kwambiri “Bwanji…? “Inde, koma…”

mbedza: kasitomala (Wozunzidwa) amabwera kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi kunena kuti: "Ndili ndi vuto, sindingathe kupeza ntchito."

+ Yambani (zofooka). Katswiri wa zamaganizo (Wopulumutsa): "Ndingathandize bwanji?"

= anachita. Katswiri wa zamaganizo: "Bwanji osalowa nawo ntchito yosinthana?"

Makasitomala: "Inde, koma ... manyazi."

Katswiri wa zamaganizo: "Kodi mwayesa kufunsa anzanu?"

Wothandizira: "Inde, koma""

Kusintha: Katswiri wa zamaganizo: “Chabwino, sindikudziwa chinanso choti ndikulangizeni.”

Makasitomala: "Komabe, zikomo poyesera."

Kusokonezeka: Onse asokonezeka.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo (Wozunzidwa): "Ndine mthandizi woyipa."

Perekani: Client (Stalker): "Ndinadziwa kuti sangathandize."

Nthano No. 5. Palibe njira yotulukira mu makona atatu a Karpman.

The «ngozi» ya masewera a maganizo ndi kuti amadzibwereza okha malinga ndi zochitika zomwezo. Nthawi zambiri izi ndi zomwe olemba ena amafalitsa nkhani: amati, palibe njira yotulukira pamakona atatu a Karpman. Mwina iyi ndi nthano yofunika kwambiri komanso yobisika kwambiri.

Kalelo mu 1990, ku Russia, kumasulira kwa nkhani ya katswiri wofufuza zochitika ku Australia Acey Choi, yomwe idapereka "mankhwala". Adafotokozanso zotsutsana ndi chithunzi cha Karpman, Winner's Triangle. Imathetsa kutsika kwamtengo ndipo imalola "ngodya" iliyonse kuchita zinthu mopanda malire.

“M’malo mokhala Wozunzidwa, munthu amaphunzira kukhala Wosatetezeka. Osatetezeka amadziwa kuti akuvutika, kuti ali ndi mavuto. Koma amamvetsetsanso kuti ali ndi chifundo chokwanira, kuti iwo eni angathe kuthetsa mavuto awo. Iwo ali okonzeka kupempha thandizo popanda kuyamba masewera a maganizo, "anatero Lyudmila Shekholm.

Mu Sewero la Triangle, Wopulumutsa nthawi zambiri "amachita zabwino ndikuchita zabwino" kuwononga zofuna zake ndi zosowa zake, amathandiza ndi kuthetsa mavuto a anthu ena popanda kufunsa, kuyika masomphenya ake. Mu Triangle Yopambana, Mpulumutsi amakhala Wosamala, kulemekeza luso la Ovutika kuganiza, kuchita, ndi kufunsa zomwe akufuna.

Ndipo potsiriza, Wozunza amagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu kuti akwaniritse zosowa zake ndi kuteteza ufulu wake.

"Wodzidalira amamvetsetsa kuti kusintha kwachangu kumatha kukhumudwitsa anthu ndipo amawona kukambirana ngati njira yothetsera mavuto. Cholinga chachikulu si chizunzo ndi chilango cha wina, koma kusintha komwe kumaganizira zofuna zake ndi zosowa zake, "adatero katswiri wa zamaganizo.