Chilimbikitso chimakhala ndi gawo lalikulu m'miyoyo yathu, koma tikudziwa chiyani za izi? Kodi timamvetsetsa momwe zimachitikira? Kaŵirikaŵiri zimaganiziridwa kuti timasonkhezeredwa ndi mwayi wolandira mtundu wina wa mphotho yakunja kapena kupindulitsa ena. Ndipotu, chirichonse chiri chochepa kwambiri komanso chovuta kwambiri. Pa Tsiku la Ntchito, timapeza zomwe zimapangitsa ntchito zathu kukhala ndi tanthauzo.
Kodi n’chiyani chimatilimbikitsa kukhala ndi zolinga zovuta, zoopsa, ndiponso zopweteka kwambiri kuzikwaniritsa? Tikhoza kusangalala ndi moyo kukhala pagombe ndi kumwa mojitos, ndipo ngati titha kukhala tsiku lililonse motere, tidzakhala osangalala nthawi zonse. Koma ngakhale nthawi zina zabwino kupereka masiku angapo hedonism, Ine sindingakhoze kuganiza inu kukhutitsidwa ndi moyo wanu kuthera masiku, masabata, miyezi, zaka, kapena ngakhale moyo wanu wonse motere. Kusatha hedonism sikudzatibweretsera chikhutiro.
Kafukufuku amene aphunzira za mavuto achimwemwe ndi tanthauzo la moyo wasonyeza kuti chimene chimapangitsa moyo wathu kukhala watanthauzo sichimatipatsa chimwemwe nthaŵi zonse. Anthu amene amati ali ndi cholinga pamoyo wawo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kuthandiza ena kusiyana ndi kufunafuna zosangalatsa.
Koma amene amadzisamalira poyamba kaŵirikaŵiri amakhala osangalala mwachiphamaso.
Kumene, tanthawuzo ndi lingaliro losamveka, koma mbali zake zazikulu zikhoza kusiyanitsa: kumverera kuti mumakhalira chinachake, moyo wanu uli ndi phindu ndipo umasintha dziko kukhala labwino. Zonse zimatengera kudzimva ngati ndinu gawo la chinthu chachikulu kuposa inuyo.
Friedrich Nietzsche adanena kuti zinthu zonse zamtengo wapatali komanso zofunika kwambiri m'moyo timapeza kuchokera pakulimbana ndi zovuta komanso kuthana ndi zopinga. Tonsefe timadziwa anthu amene amapeza cholinga cha moyo, ngakhale zinthu zitavuta kwambiri. Mnzanga wina wodzipereka ku hospice ndipo wakhala akuthandiza anthu kumapeto kwa moyo wawo kwa zaka zambiri. “Izi ndi zosiyana ndi kubadwa. Ndine wokondwa kuti ndinali ndi mwayi wowathandiza kuti alowe pakhomopo,” akutero.
Odzipereka ena amatsuka chomatacho ku mbalame mafuta akatha. Anthu ambiri amathera gawo lina la moyo wawo m’madera oopsa ankhondo, kuyesa kupulumutsa anthu wamba ku matenda ndi imfa, kapena kuphunzitsa ana amasiye kuŵerenga.
Amakhaladi ndi nthawi yovuta, koma nthawi yomweyo amawona tanthauzo lakuya la zomwe amachita.
Mwa chitsanzo chawo, akusonyeza mmene kufunikira kwathu kwakukulu kokhulupirira kuti cholinga cha zochita zathu sichimangokhala ndi malire a moyo wathu kungatichititse kugwira ntchito molimbika, ngakhale kutaya chitonthozo chathu ndi moyo wabwino.
Malingaliro owoneka ngati achilendo komanso opanda nzeru otere amatilimbikitsa kuchita ntchito zovuta komanso zosasangalatsa. Sikuti ndi kuthandiza okhawo amene akufunika thandizo. Chilimbikitso ichi chimapezeka m'mbali zonse za moyo wathu: mu ubale ndi ena, ntchito, zomwe timakonda komanso zomwe timakonda.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti chilimbikitso chimagwira ntchito kwa nthawi yayitali, nthawi zina kuposa moyo wathu. Pansi pamtima, n’kofunika kwambiri kwa ife kuti moyo ndi zochita zathu zikhale ndi tanthauzo. Izi zimakhala zofunikira makamaka tikazindikira za kufa kwathu, ndipo ngakhale pofunafuna tanthauzo tiyenera kudutsa mabwalo onse a gehena, tidzadutsamo ndipo m'kati mwake timakhala okhutira ndi moyo.
Za wolemba: Dan Ariely ndi pulofesa wa psychology ku Duke University komanso wolemba wogulitsa kwambiri wa Predictable Irrationality, Behavioral Economics, ndi The Whole Truth About Lies.