Nanga bwanji ngati, m'miyoyo yathu, tisiya kuwona galasi lopanda kanthu? Kuwona moyo mu pinki, kungakhale kosavuta kuposa momwe mukuganizira! Onetsani kuyamikira chifukwa chokhala ndi moyo, pokumbukira kuti tikukhala m'nthawi yabwino kuposa kale lonse, kuphunzira kuchokera kuzochitika zovuta kuzipanga chuma. Nanga bwanji ngati, kuyambira lero, tisiya zing'onozing'ono kumbuyo kwathu, onse omwe ali pachiwopsezo chowononga miyoyo yathu popanda chifukwa, ndipo tikuyamba kuyamikira, mophweka, chisangalalo cha kukhala?

«Chisangalalo, pambuyo pa zonse, ndi ntchito yoyambirira lero, analemba motero Albert Camus. Umboni ndi wakuti timakonda kubisala kuti tichite zimenezo. Kwa chimwemwe lerolino ndi mlandu wa malamulo wamba: osavomereza konse.Ndipo tikadadziwa, potsiriza, momwe tingagwirire chimwemwe pamene chiripo, ndipo ngakhale kuvomereza kwa ife tokha? Chifukwa tisaiwale: monga Camus adanenanso: "Muyenera kukhala amphamvu ndi osangalala kuthandiza anthu amene ali m’mavuto"...

Kujambula zosangalatsa zosavuta, mwachitsanzo, kusangalala ndi mphindi yogawana ndi mwana wanu. Muzimva kukhala ndi moyo paulendo, nokha kapena ndi banja, kuyang'ana zabwino zake zonse pamalingaliro athu, kukhala maso ndi fungo ndi mitundu, kulira mofatsa kwa mbalame ndi kumveka kwa mphepo kapena dzuwa pakhungu ... Sangalalani kuwerenga buku lolembedwa bwino. Kukhala wokondwa ndi mphindi yokhala ndi abwenzi ake. Chitani nawo masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe ali ndi minofu yambiri… Sangalalani kwambiri ndi kumvetsera nyimbo. Zosangalatsa zonse zing'onozing'ono zatsiku ndi tsiku, tikamaphunzira kuziyamikira pamtengo wake weniweni, tikakwanitsa kutenga mphindi ndikukhalamo, tipanga moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku kukhala chakudya chokoma kuti tilawe!

Kukhala wotsimikiza ndikonso kuthokoza zomwe muli nazo. Kuwona zinthu zabwino za moyo wathu, mwachidule, kudziwa chuma chathu, kuwona m'njira yomwe galasi ili ndi theka, osati galasi lopanda kanthu ... "Kuphunzira kukhala osangalala ndi ntchito ya tsiku ndi tsiku!", akutero Tal Ben-Shahar, yemwe adaphunzitsa psychology yabwino ku Harvard.

Ndipo anandiuza kuti: “Kungotenga mphindi imodzi kapena ziwiri patsiku kudzinenera wekha 'ndine wokondwa kukhala ndi moyo'ali ndi zotsatira zosayembekezereka“. Akapendanso zifukwa zawo zokhalira oyamikira, anthu samangokhala osangalala, komanso otsimikiza mtima, amphamvu ndi a chiyembekezo. Tal Ben-Shahar akuti:Amakhalanso owolowa manja komanso ofulumira kuthandiza ena.Titha ngakhale, mkati mwa banja, nthawi zonse kukumbutsana zomwe zimatilimbikitsa kuzindikira mu ubale wathu ngati banja.

Ndipo kotero, kuyamikira kukakhala chizolowezi, sitifunikiranso chochitika china kuti tikondwerere… Oprah Winfrey, wopanga wailesi yakanema wa ku America anati: “Ngati muyang'ana pa chinachake, chinthucho chimakulitsa; tikamaganizira zinthu zabwino m’moyo, padzakhala zinthu zabwino zambiri. Kuyambira pamene ndinadziŵa mmene ndingakhalire woyamikira mosasamala kanthu za zimene zinali kuchitika m’moyo wanga, zinthu zabwino zinandichitikira.«

«Munthu sangathe kupeza chisangalalo chenicheni popanda gawo linalake la kusapeza bwino kwamalingaliro ndi magawo opweteka", Amaganiziranso Tal Ben-Shahar. Mawu otchuka a Frédéric Nietzche, obwerezedwa m'nyimbo zambiri, m'nkhani yake. Madzulo a Mafano lofalitsidwa mu 1888, lili m'chifanizo ichi cholondola: "Zomwe sizimakupha zimakupanga kukhala wamphamvu.Chimwemwe chimaimira kugonjetsa mayesero ndi zopinga.

Pomaliza, kwa Tal Ben Shahar, "magawo ovuta amawonjezera mphamvu yoyamikira zosangalatsa; Ndithu, amatiletsa kuziona ngati zoyenera, ndikutikumbutsa kuti tiyenera kuyamika zokondweretsa zazing'ono monga zosangalatsa zazikulu.“. Tsopano, monga momwe Marcel Proust adalembera moyenera, "mutha kuchiza ululu ngati mukumva bwino“. Tiyeni tiwone mbali zabwino za zolephera zathu, mazunzo athu akale, ndi zowawa zathu, tiyeni tizindikire zomwe zidatibweretsera… Tiyeni tiphunzire kuchiritsa, popanga mabala athu kukhala mphamvu!

Inde, zabwino: chifukwa chake, pulofesa wa psychology ku Harvard komanso wolemba nkhani wopambana, Steven Pinker, akuti mu 2017, zinali zoyenera "kukhala bwino lero kuposa nthawi ina iliyonse m'mbuyomu ”. Anati: "Pali mbiri yaposachedwa kwambiri, yomwe imaphatikizapo kufotokoza kuti chifukwa ndi zamakono zidatipatsa nkhondo ziwiri zapadziko lonse, Shoah, utsogoleri wankhanza, ndi kuti mphamvu zomwezi zikuwononga. chilengedwe ndikutsogolera anthu kuchiwonongeko chake".

Wolemba nkhaniyo wasankha kuchita zosiyana kwambiri ndi nkhani yakudayi, ponena kuti dziko lapansi liri bwino lerolino kuposa kale lonse, ziribe kanthu zomwe tingatenge. Ndipo kotero, masiku ano, simungafe munkhondo kapena chiwawa. Kaya ndinu mkazi kapena mwana, kugwiriridwa, komanso kuzunzidwa, sizofala kwambiri.

Ndipo Steven Pinker ndiye akulemba mndandanda wautali wa mikangano yochirikiza lingaliro lake: "Chiyembekezo cha moyo chawonjezeka, matenda amachiritsidwa bwino kwambiri. Mwana wakhanda ali ndi mwayi wabwinoko wopitilira chaka chawo choyamba."Ndipo katswiri wa zamaganizoyu akutsimikizira kuti, kuwonjezera apo, lero taphunzitsidwa bwino, kuti tili ndi chidziwitso chochuluka, makamaka pa intaneti. Kuphatikiza apo, amayi nawonso amatha kuphunzira ndipo sakhalanso pansi pa chala chachikulu cha amuna, kapena mulimonse momwe zingakhalire zochepa. Tilinso ndi mwayi woyenda, ndipo chuma chathu sichinakhalepo chokwera kwambiri.

Steven Pinker pamapeto pake amakhulupirira kuti, "mwachidule, pulogalamu ya Chidziwitso chachitika“. Tili ndi chilichonse choti tisangalale. Katswiri wazachuma Jacques Attali akutsimikiziranso kuti: ngati tichita chilichonse kuti tipewe mavuto otsatirawa, kuyambira ndi chiwopsezo chazovuta zanyengo, dziko lapansi likhoza kukhamukira ndi chisangalalo! Timangofunika, mwina, kusankha duwa, kusankha tsiku, kutenga mphindi zachisomo ndi chisangalalo zomwe moyo watsiku ndi tsiku umatipatsa. Carpe diem… Tiyeni tisangalale ndi mphindi ino, tisangalale ndi chisangalalo ikafika!