Zamkatimu
Ndife okondwa kukulandirani, owerenga okondedwa! Kodi mukudziwa kuti eristic ndi chiyani? Ichi ndi luso lonse lomwe limagwira ntchito pa mikangano, yomwe imakhalapo m'moyo wa munthu aliyense, makamaka ngati ali ndi moyo wokangalika ndipo akunena kuti akwaniritsa zolinga zake. Kotero, pali chotchedwa piramidi ya Graham. Zimakuthandizani kumvetsetsa zomwe interlocutor ndi zolinga zake kuti athe kuthetsa mkanganowo.
Zina zambiri
Mwa njira, eristic imagawidwa mu dialectic ndi sophistry. Dialectics idapangidwa ndi Socrates, ndipo mutha kudziwa zambiri za izi powerenga nkhaniyi. Ndipo sophistry idachokera ku Greece Yakale, ndipo idachita bwino kwambiri chifukwa cha Protagoras, Critias, Prodicus, ndi zina zambiri, ndipo imayimira zidule zomveka ndi zidule kuti apambane mkanganowo. Paul Graham, wamasiku athu ano, adaganiza zoyang'anira kugawika kwa mikangano kuti amvetsetse zomwe angasankhe ndikuthetsa mkanganowo mogwira mtima.
Paul mwiniyo ndi wolemba mapulogalamu komanso wazamalonda, adadziwika atalemba zolemba zodziwika bwino monga "Momwe mungayambitsire oyambitsa" ndi "Momwe mungatsutse bwino." Mu 2008, adadziwika kuti ndi m'modzi mwa anthu otchuka kwambiri pa intaneti. Chiwerengero chonse cha anthu otere ndi anthu 25. Osachepera ndi zomwe Bloomberg Businessweekk adabwera nazo.
Chinsinsi cha piramidi
Poyamba, malangizo a Paulo okhudza mmene tingathanirane ndi mikangano anali okhudza kulemberana makalata pa intaneti. Koma iwo anayamba kugwiritsidwa ntchito mwakhama kulankhulana wamba moyo. Chosiyana ndi chakuti polemba uthenga, munthu amakhala ndi mwayi woganiza ndi kufotokoza maganizo ake momveka bwino, mwachidule komanso mwachidule. Koma pokambirana, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu nthawi yomweyo kuti musalowe m’mavuto.
Mwa njira, kutengera nkhani ya Graham, mutha kudziwa kuti ndi munthu wotani yemwe ali patsogolo panu. Ndiko kuti, mwadzidzidzi munthu wopondereza wopondereza adapeza yemwe alibe chidwi ndi chowonadi, chomanga, ndi zina zotero, ndikofunikira kuti akwaniritse cholinga chake ndikukuvutitsani. Kapena woyambitsa mkangano yemwe amangofuna kukonza ndewu. Kapena, mwadzidzidzi muli ndi mwayi, ndipo munthuyo amayang'ana kwambiri kusunga ubale waumunthu, waubwenzi ndipo akufuna kupeza njira yothetsera vutoli pamodzi.
Pankhani yoyamba ndi yachiwiri, monga mukumvetsetsa, palibe chifukwa chotetezera chowonadi chanu, sichimakondweretsa wina aliyense koma inu. Piramidiyo imakhala ndi mfundo zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zambiri ndi omwe akutsutsana. Ndipo zimaperekedwa mwa mawonekedwe a masitepe oterowo, kusuntha kuchokera pansi kupita pamwamba pomwe ndizotheka kukwaniritsa kumvetsetsa ndikuchepetsa kupsinjika.
gulu
Pansipa pali tebulo, gulu lotere la zotsutsa ndi olemba ndemanga, ndipo tidzasanthula gawo lililonse mwatsatanetsatane.
Choyamba
Zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri, makamaka pamene palibe choyankha, ndiye kutukwana wamba kumabwera kudzapulumutsa. Monga momwe mwadziwira kale, cholinga cha munthu amene wakhumudwitsa ndi kuputa kwa interlocutor. Kufuna kuti akwiye, kupsa mtima ndiyeno kuda nkhawa ndi khalidwe lake komanso kudziona kuti ndi wofunika. Chifukwa chake, ngati muchita mwanjira ina iliyonse, mudzamupatsa chifukwa chopitilira kuyang'ana zofooka zanu.
Njira yabwino ndiyo kunyalanyaza, mwinanso kumwetulira pang’ono pankhope panu. Dzilamulireni, kuzimitsa m'maganizo, ngati «kutsekereza» provocateur ndi kusalandira zambiri kuchokera kwa iye. Atazungulira pang'ono ndikuzindikira kuti kukuchititsani manyazi ndi chinthu chachabechabe, adzasiya kuukira kwake, ndikusankha wozunzidwa "woyamikira".
Pokuthandizirani, ndikufuna kunena kuti anthu osangalala omwe akuchita bwino komanso okwaniritsidwa samabwera ndi lingaliro lopangitsa ena kukhala osasangalala. Kotero, ziribe kanthu momwe interlocutor angawonekere bwino, sungani kudzidalira kwanu, musayatse. Amachita izi chifukwa akuyesera kudzinenera mopanda nzeru, osati chifukwa chakuti mukulakwitsa kwenikweni.
Chachiwiri ndi kusintha kwa umunthu
Ndiko kuti, adzayesa kuyang'ana pa zolakwa zanu, zolakwa, chikhalidwe cha anthu, khalidwe, dziko, zomwe mumaika patsogolo, ngakhalenso momwe mulili m'banja. Chabwino, mwachitsanzo, kodi inu mtsikana mukudziwa chiyani za maubwenzi ngati inuyo simunakwatirane? Cholinga cha kusintha kwa munthu ndi kuyesa "kuponya fumbi" m'maso ndikuchoka pamutu womwewo wa mkanganowo, mwina chifukwa chakuti palibenso mikangano yoyenera.
Mothandizidwa ndi devaluation, wotsutsa amayesa kusonyeza kupambana kwake pamutu umene akuwonetsa mwachangu, ngati kuti: "Chabwino, ndi chiyani choti mupitirize kukambirana ndi inu ngati ...?". Ndipo ngati chinyengo ichi chikuyenda bwino, ndiye kuti cholingacho chikwaniritsidwa, mumakwiya, kukwiya ndikusiya "kuchiritsa" mabala.
Chifukwa chake muyenera kuchita ngati poyamba, kapena kunyalanyaza mawu oterowo, kapena kuvomereza ngati pali chowonadi mwa iwo, ndikukukumbutsani za nkhani ya mkanganowo ndikubwerera mosamalitsa. Tinene motere: "Inde, ndikuvomereza, sindinakwatirebe, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndilibe chidziwitso chaubwenzi waukulu, kotero tiyeni tikambirane bwino za nkhani yomwe tidayamba nayo."
Chachitatu - amati kamvekedwe
Ngati palibe chomwe mungadandaule nazo, kapena simukuyankha pazomwe zili pamwambapa, wofunsayo anganene kuti sakonda mawu omwe mwamulola. Iyi ndi siteji yomwe imapereka chiyembekezo pang'ono kuti kulolerana kungafikidwe, makamaka ngati mwakwezadi mawu anu.
Yesetsani kupepesa ndikuchepetsa, izi zidzakhazika mtima pansi wotsutsayo, mpaka kuti azindikire kuti izi ndi sitepe yoyamba yopita ku chiyanjanitso, zomwe zidzachititsa kuti kusamvana kuthe ndipo "masabers adzabisika".
Chachinayi - nitpicking
Zomwe zinawuka, mwina, chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsana kapena kuti ndondomeko yokha ndi yosangalatsa, kukoka, kunena kwake. Inde, ndipo izi zimachitikanso, kotero kuti munthu, mwinamwake, amalandira chidwi kwa munthu wake, ndipo amawaza mafunso monga: "Ndiye chiyani?", "Zopanda pake zamtundu wanji?" Ndi zina zotero.
Yesetsani kuzilambalala, muzochitika zovuta kwambiri, nenani kuti ndizosatheka kuyankha chifukwa chakuti sizomanga komanso zimasokoneza ndende. Muloleni ayese kupanga mosiyana komanso momveka bwino, ngati alidi ndi chidwi chomvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika masiku ano zosamvetsetseka. Apo ayi, simungagwirizane.
Chachisanu - zotsutsana
Sitepe iyi imatifikitsa pafupi ndi kutsirizitsa bwino kwa mkangano, chifukwa ikuwonekera momveka bwino momwe interlocutor alili, ndipo ichi chiri kale maziko omanga. Koma pali nthawi zina pomwe zotsutsana zimagwiritsidwanso ntchito poputa, apa muyenera kusamala. Yesetsani kumvetsera maganizo ake mosamala, ndiyeno kunena kuti mumamulemekeza, koma pamenepa simukugwirizana pang'ono, chifukwa ...
Nthawi zina zimakhala zomveka bwino, mutha kulengezanso izi. Ndiye mudzakhala m'malo a munthu amene amatha kumva ndi kuzindikira winayo, ndipo izi ndizopanda zida, chifukwa zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosatheka kuteteza malo anu mwaukali.
Chachisanu ndi chimodzi - kutsutsa kwenikweni
Izi zili kale zonena za zokambirana zokongola komanso zogwira mtima, popeza oyankhulana amalankhula chinenero chomwe chimapezeka kwa wina ndi mzake. Amafuna kuti anthu azimveka bwino, choncho amapereka mpata woti alankhule ndi kupanga yankho lomveka bwino.
Kuti izi zitheke, ndikofunikira kuzindikira mdaniyo, kunena kuti mwanjira ina alidi wolondola, koma mukufuna kumveketsa bwino pomwe pali kusiyana ...
Chachisanu ndi chiwiri - kristalo bwino rebuttal
Pamwamba, yomwe siili yofala kwambiri ndipo imasonyeza kukula kwapamwamba, nzeru ndi zauzimu, makhalidwe abwino. Ndikofunikira, kuwonjezera pa kufotokoza tanthauzo la zigamulo zanu, perekani zitsanzo, ponena za mfundo zomwe zingatsimikizire mlandu wanu.
Magwero ayenera kukhala odalirika komanso osayambitsa kukayikira, ndiye kuti malo anu sadzakhala okayikitsa, koma adzayambitsa ulemu. Ngati mungalembe, ndiye kuti zingakhale zothandiza kuyikanso ulalo ku gwero loyambira kutsimikizira kulondola kwa malo anu. Pamenepa, kuyesa kupeza chowonadi kudzakhala kothandiza kwa onse awiri, kulimbikitsa ndi kukulitsa.
Kutsiliza
Ndipo ndizo zonse lero, owerenga okondedwa! Kuti ndilimbikitse ndikuwonjezera chidziwitso, ndikupangira kuyang'ana nkhani yakuti "Kusiyana kwakukulu ndi njira zothetsera mikangano yowononga ndi yomanga." Dzisamalireni nokha ndi okondedwa anu, komanso kupambana pamikangano!