Kodi mukuganiza kuti simuli ngati wina aliyense, mulibe anzanu ndipo mwauzidwa kangapo kuti mukuchita zinthu zachilendo? Kodi ichi chingakhale chizindikiro cha kusokonezeka maganizo? Ekaterina Mikhailova, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso katswiri wa magazini ya Psychologies, akuyankha.
Ekaterina Mikhailova
Chifukwa chake, Wokondedwa Anonymous: kapena muli ndi funso lomwe silinatchulidwe momveka bwino, kapena simungathe kuwerenganso. Kalata iliyonse imakhala yofanana ndi wolemba, komanso yanunso: malingaliro amalumpha, ndiye chinthu chimodzi chimakumbukiridwa, kenako china ... Zimawoneka zowopsa kuti zina sizili choncho, palibe abwenzi, simukonda makolo anu, simukonda makolo anu. 'ntchito, koma inu mupite - Ndikufuna mayesero atsopano, ndipo ndithudi "za umunthu". Ndipo zonse pofuna kuyankha funso lakuti "Kodi ndine wopenga"?
Inde sichoncho. Mukupempha chinthu china: ndiuzeni kuti ndine ndani, chifukwa sindikumvetsa izi. Izi zimachitika pa zaka 16-17, koma muli ndi zaka 24. Ndipo mwachiwonekere, mumakhala ngati wachinyamata ...
Zingakhale zabwino kuti mudziwe zomwe mungachite bwino, ndi luso lotani lomwe silinapangidwe mu chisokonezo cholankhulidwa chomwe mumayimitsa alamu.
Ndipo ndikuwuzani izi: simuli "wopenga", koma munthu wonyozedwa kwambiri, wosungulumwa, wosakhazikika, komanso wosokonezeka m'mutu mwanga. Mwinamwake makolo anu sanakulereni bwino, koma sadzakulanso. Choncho njira yokhayo ndiyo kudziphunzitsa nokha.
Ndipo sindimayamba ndi anzanga, koma ndi chidwi, kuganiza ndi kulankhula. Ngati muli ndi chidwi ndi mayeso - chabwino, pezani njira yoyesera chidwi chanu ndikuthana ndi zovuta zamalingaliro. Ngati ndi kotheka, pezani masewera olimbitsa thupi, ngakhale kwa ana, palibe amene angadziwe. Kusweka kudzakhala koyipa: kotopetsa, kotopetsa, ndipo ndinu "wozizira kwambiri", eya. Koma mpaka mutadziphunzitsa nokha kudziletsa ndi kuleza mtima, palibe china chomwe chingagwire ntchito, chidzapitirira kuponya kuchokera ku "zowopsa" kuti "musasamalire" ndi mosemphanitsa, ndipo moyo umadutsa.
Pali mphamvu zambiri, koma popanda cholinga imayendetsa mozungulira, osalumikizidwa ku kanthu. Zingakhale bwino kuti mudziwe zomwe mungachite bwino, ndi luso lotani lomwe silinayambike mu chisokonezo choyankhulana chomwe mumayimitsa alamu. Zodabwitsa zanu zilibe chidwi ndi aliyense, chifukwa chake lekani kuziwonetsa, koma mukufunika thandizo. Ndinu nokha amene simudziwa kuzipeza, ndipo palibe amene ali nazo. Kotero chiyembekezo chonse chiri mwa inu nokha - monga momwe ziliri.