Ndife okondwa kukulandirani, owerenga okondedwa a tsambali! Lero tiwona zomwe zimapanga mtundu wosangalatsa wa umunthu kuchokera pagulu la ma accentuation amunthu malinga ndi Leonhard.
Timaphunziranso mphamvu zake ndi zofooka zake kuti timvetse bwino momwe tingagwirizanitse naye ndi kumanga maubwenzi kuti akwaniritse mbali zonse ziwiri.
Khalidwe lalikulu
Mtundu wosangalatsa wa umunthu ndi wopupuluma, wosakhoza kulamulira khalidwe lawo ndi machitidwe awo.
Iye amasankha zochita nthawi yomweyo, popanda kuyesa kuona ubwino ndi kuipa kwake, kuti aganizire mozama za zotsatirapo za zosankha zake. Ndiko kuti, amachita ndi kukhala ndi moyo, akudalira chibadwa chokha.
Chifukwa chopupuluma, munthu woteroyo sadziwa kupirira, kuyanjana ndi chinachake, kukhala woyembekezera. Ngati mukufuna chinachake, ndiye kuti chilakolakocho chiyenera kukwaniritsidwa mwamsanga, mosasamala kanthu za mikhalidwe.
Mwachitsanzo, pakati pa usiku, iye amamasuka kufunafuna sitolo kumene mungagule mtundu wina wa ayisikilimu.
Kuganiza kumachedwa kuposa mitundu ina. Ndiye kuti, ngati munthu m'modzi atha kutengera chidziwitso mwachangu, ndiye kuti mtundu uwu uyenera kufotokozera kangapo, ndikusankha zodziwikiratu.
Amayang'anitsitsa maonekedwe awo, amapita ku masewera ndipo nthawi zambiri amakula bwino. Otsimikiza, otsimikiza, ndichifukwa chake pafupifupi nthawi zonse amakwaniritsa zolinga zawo, pokhapokha ngati amalakwitsa mwangozi mwa kutsatira zilakolako zawo.
paubwenzi
Mwachibadwa, kusadziletsa koteroko ndiko chifukwa cha mikangano ndi anthu ena. Pokhala ndi maubwenzi apamtima, amatha kuyambitsa zowawa zambiri ndi kuzunzika, kutulutsa mawu opweteka pamaganizo. Amanena zomwe zimabwera m’maganizo, n’chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri amachita manyazi komanso amadziimba mlandu chifukwa cha khalidwe lake.
Kuntchito, pang'ono, amathamanga kulemba kalata yosiya ntchito. Oyang'anira omwe nthawi zambiri amasaina, zomwe zimawakakamiza kuti achire pofunafuna kampani yatsopano, bizinesi yomwe imavomereza kuti amulembe ntchito.
Anzake samamukonda kwenikweni, zomwe ndizomveka. Kupatula apo, amayenera kupirira kuphulika kwaukali, ndipo chifukwa cha izi samalipidwa owonjezera.
Kanthu kakang'ono kalikonse kangayambitse mkwiyo, ndiye kuti sanamuyang'ane motero, ndiye mwadzidzidzi adazindikira kuti malipirowo sanamugwirizane ndi iye, kapena akuluakulu adakhala kuti alibe chilungamo monga momwe timafunira.
M’banja, kusadziletsa kaŵirikaŵiri kumayambitsa kumenyedwa, mosasamala kanthu za jenda. Ngakhale mkazi akhoza kuponya nkhonya kwa mwamuna wake akapsa mtima.
Osazindikira kuti ali ndi thanzi labwino, ndipo amaika moyo wake pachiswe, komanso thanzi lake ngati iye, potsatira chitsanzo chake, amagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu.
Komanso, asanalowe m’banja, n’kofunika kuti okwatiranawo aganizire mozama ngati ali okonzeka kupirira ndi kukhululuka kusakhulupirika. Kupatula apo, monga mukukumbukira, umunthu wosangalatsa umakhala wosadziletsa pamalingaliro awo, chifukwa chake, atamva chikhumbo chakugonana, amayesa kuzindikira nthawi yomweyo.
Ndipo chifukwa cha moyo wachiwerewere, matenda osiyanasiyana opatsirana amapezeka, ana apathengo amawonekera.
Ubwana
Ana osangalala nthawi zambiri amalira kwa nthawi yaitali, zomwe zimalepheretsa makolo kukhala oleza mtima. Amatha kukhala osasamala kwa maola ambiri, ndipo ngakhale achikulire angayese bwanji kuwatonthoza, kuwakhazika mtima pansi kapena kuwakakamiza, zoyesayesa zonse sizingachitike.
Pokhala ndi anzawo, amalimbikira kukhala ndi mphamvu, amakonda kumva kuti ena amaopa ndikumvera malangizo awo. Amachitira nkhanza anthu ofooka, kuzunza nyama ndi kuchita zauve mwachisawawa.
Mwana woteroyo sakhala wachisoni mwachibwana, nthawi zambiri samawoneka akusewera ndi kuseka mosasamala.
Amayamikira ndi kuteteza zinthu zake zaumwini kotero kuti salola ena ngakhale kuzitenga m'manja mwawo kuti aziwoneka.
Kuyesa kulikonse kotenga chidole kapena chinthu china chilichonse osafunsa kudzatengedwa ndi chidani. Ndiko kuti, nthawi yomweyo adzawombera ndikuukira "wolakwirayo" ndi kulumbira ndi nkhonya, pofuna kuteteza katundu wake.
Achinyamata kawirikawiri amathawa kunyumba, amakana kupita kusukulu, kudumpha makalasi. Amatha kulowa m'nyumba ya wina, kumenya munthu, koma nthawi zambiri amafunidwa chifukwa amapita ku mzinda wina kukafunafuna ulendo.
Ndikokwanira kungokhulupirira nkhaniyo momwe ilili yokongola ndipo padzakhala chikhumbo chosatsutsika kuti muwone chirichonse ndi maso anu. Ndipo, monga mukukumbukira, anthu okondwa sangathe kuyankha zochita zawo, komanso kuyembekezera zochitika.
Chifukwa chake, ana amathamangira popanda ndalama kupita ku mzinda wamaloto awo, osamvetsetsa zomwe ulendo woterewu ungatsogolere.
kuipa
Impulsivity imabweretsa mtundu wamtunduwu wamakhalidwe kuti apange zizolowezi, ndiko kuti, kudalira. Kwenikweni, anthu oterowo «amagwa» mu uchidakwa.
Mwachitsanzo, mkangano wabuka, ndipo mkwiyo wafika pachimake, zomwe zimakupangitsani kufuna kukhazika mtima pansi ndikuchira mwamsanga.
Ndiye pali chikhumbo chofuna kumwa mwamsanga chinthu champhamvu kuti muledzere ndikupumula. Ndipo, chifukwa chakuti kuphulika kwaukali kumachitika kawirikawiri, ndiye kuti dzanja limafika pa botolo nthawi zonse.
Chikumbumtima sichimakula bwino chifukwa chakuti malingaliro ndi zilakolako zimatengera. Chifukwa chiyani komanso kuchuluka kwaupandu pakati pa oimira amtundu uwu. Iwo amachita zinthu zopusa. Tiyerekeze kuti anaona chinthu china n’kuchifuna, koma ngati palibe ndalama zogulira, mosazengereza amangoba.
Ma minuses onse omwe ali pamwambawa ndi zotsatira za kulephera kuletsa zilakolako za munthu. Mumkhalidwe wodekha, anthu otere sachita zolakwa, samayendayenda ndipo amatha kusamalira okondedwa awo.
Ndiko kuti, sitinganene kuti ndi ankhanza komanso achiwerewere, samvetsetsa zomwe zochita zina zingayambitse. Choncho, amanong'oneza bondo moona mtima zochita zawo, ngati anthu amawatsutsa ndi kuwalanga.
Ndi iko komwe, pa nthawi yoteroyo sanakhutire zoipa kwa ena, mosiyana ndi zigawenga zenizeni, zolandidwa chifundo ndi kukoma mtima.
malangizo
- Poganizira za chibadwa ndi zokhumba, muyenera kuphunzira kudzichepetsera nokha, kumvetsera zomwe maganizo "amalimbikitsa". Dzipatseni nthawi yochulukirapo kuposa nthawi zonse kuti mupange chisankho. Kumbukirani mzere wa Scarlett O'Hara, "Sindingaganize lero. Ndiganiza mawa"? Choncho, mutengereni chitsanzo ndipo muchepetse nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna kuchitapo kanthu popanda kukhala ndi nthawi yoganizira zotsatira zake.
- Onani nkhani ya momwe mungapangire kuganiza kwa analytical. Izi zidzakuthandizani pazovuta kuti mugwirizane ndi mutu wanu, osati maganizo anu okha.
- Yesetsani kusinkhasinkha ndi njira zopumira kuti muthandizire kuthana ndi kupsinjika. Munthawi yomwe muli ndi nkhawa, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito njira, chifukwa chake kudekha kudzabwera mwachangu kuposa momwe munazolowera. Ndipo izi zidzakupulumutsani kuzinthu zambiri zosakonzekera komanso zochitika zosasangalatsa.
akamaliza
Ndipo ndizo zonse lero, owerenga okondedwa! Tikukulimbikitsani kuti mudziwe zambiri zamakhalidwe omwe alipo, izi zidzakuthandizani pa ntchito yanu komanso m'moyo wabanja. Mukhoza kuyamba, mwachitsanzo, ndi nkhani yokhudza umunthu wowonetsera. Ndipo lembetsani zosintha zamasamba, kuti muzindikire zofalitsa zatsopano.
Kuti muwone ngati ndinu woimira mtundu wowonetsera, tengani mayeso a pa intaneti, omwe ali pa ulalo uwu.
Dzisamalireni nokha ndikukhala osangalala!
Nkhaniyi inakonzedwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, Gestalt Therapist, Zhuravina Alina