Moni, owerenga okondedwa a tsambali! Lero tiwona zomwe zimapanga umunthu wokwezeka malinga ndi Leonhard. Timaphunziranso mphamvu zake ndi zofooka zake kuti timvetse zomwe ziyenera kuperekedwa pa chitukuko, ndipo, mosiyana, zomwe zingadalire.
Khalidwe lalikulu
Mtundu uwu wa kupsa mtima umatchedwanso affective, chifukwa munthu akuwoneka kuti akukhazikika pamphepete mwa chimwemwe ndi nkhawa zonse. Mtima wake umasinthasintha nthaŵi zonse, ndipo ngakhale zochitika zazing’ono zingam’gwetse ponse paŵiri m’kutaya mtima ndi chisoni chachikulu, ndi m’chimwemwe chosalamulirika.
Amakondana kwambiri ndi okondedwa ake, odzipereka kwa iwo ndipo amagawana nawo moona mtima zachisoni ndi mphindi zosangalatsa.
Nthawi zambiri amakonda zojambulajambula, masewera, nyimbo. Nthawi zambiri, chilichonse chomwe chingasangalatse, gwira mzimu. Pachifukwa chimenechi, si zachilendo kuti anthu okwezeka agwere m’mipatuko, n’kukhala achipembedzo mopambanitsa, ndiko kuti, anthu otengeka maganizo.
Zovuta zimadza chifukwa cholephera. Ngati ali m’njira akakumana ndi anthu kapena nyama zimene zikufunika thandizo, amadandaula kwa nthawi yaitali mpaka atatsimikiza kuti zonse zili m’dongosolo. Mwinanso angagwere mphwayi, n’kukhala wokhumudwa chifukwa cha kupanda chilungamo ndi nkhanza za m’dzikoli.
Mwachibadwa, kuchita koteroko kwa chinthu chilichonse chokwiyitsa kumakhala ndi zotsatira zoipa kwambiri pa moyo wonse. Pachifukwa ichi, anthu omwe ali ndi khalidwe lodzikweza nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi thanzi labwino.
Dongosolo lawo lamanjenje latha, chifukwa pafupifupi mphindi iliyonse amayenera kuthana ndi nkhawa. Thupi lilibe nthawi yobwezeretsa zinthu zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pamaganizo, kupsinjika maganizo, ndiyeno ziwalo zonse ndi machitidwe amalephera.
Iwo sangathe kupirira ntchito za moyo, amafuna otchedwa alonda, anthu amene angawathandize, komanso kugawana udindo wa chinachake.
Zida ndi malire
Ubwino wake ndikuti anthu otere ndi osavuta kusangalatsa komanso kusangalatsa, ngakhale mphindi imodzi yapitayo adakhala mdima kuposa mitambo.
Izi zimapangitsa moyo kukhala wosalira zambiri, chifukwa mwinamwake iwo "adzagwa" mu kuvutika maganizo, akugwera muchisoni, ngati kuti ali m'dambo, lomwe silingathe kutulukamo.
Kaŵirikaŵiri amalankhula mokweza ndi mokweza, kukopa chidwi kwa iwo eni. Amakonda nyama ndipo amakhudzidwa ndi chamoyo chilichonse padziko lapansi chomwe adakumana nacho panjira.
Ndi aubwenzi, okonda zinthu, koma pali ena m’miyoyo yawo amene amadana nawo moona mtima ndi mtima wonse. Sangathe kukhumudwitsa wina, koma nthawi yomweyo amatha kusonyeza nkhanza mopambanitsa kwa adani.
Mwachitsanzo, amangodutsa mosasamala, ngakhale atapempha thandizo. Ngakhale mlendo amene amadzipeza kuti ali mu zovuta za moyo akhoza kupereka chomaliza.
Ntchito zamaluso
Anthu okwezeka ndi aluso kwambiri, chifukwa chake amapeza bwino pantchito zopanga. Mwachitsanzo, amapanga zisudzo, oimba, ojambula, okonza mapulani, olemba ndakatulo, ndi zina zotero.
Iwo amakopa anthu ndi kulabadira kwawo, kuwona mtima ndi kusabisa, titero kunena kwake, ndi dongosolo labwino lamalingaliro. Kupatula apo, kumakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri kukhala ndi munthu wosavuta kumusangalatsa kuposa kukhala ndi munthu pafupi ndi yemwe simukumvetsetsa momwe muyenera kukhalira. Sichoncho?
Amakhalanso ndi kukoma kwakukulu, mwachiwonekere, chilakolako cha chirichonse chokongola chimakhudza. Pokhapokha pamene akutha kusiya zinthu popanda kuzimaliza, kokha chifukwa chakuti china chake chinawasangalatsa kwambiri, kapena anakhumudwa ndipo tsopano sakuwona chifukwa chopitirizira.
Gululo limayesetsa kupeŵa mikangano, osati kukwiyitsa. Sangapirire mwano, kotero kuti sakhala nthawi yayitali pomwe pali atsogoleri opondereza komanso okhwima.
Amafuna malo oti adziwonetsere okha, osati malire omveka bwino omwe sayenera kupitirira. Pokhapokha pokhala omasuka ndi kuvomerezedwa, amatha kuchita zinthu zazikulu. Zowonadi, pakati pa anthu okwezeka, anzeru komanso aluso nthawi zambiri amapezeka.
Kusangalala kukakhala bwino, amagwira ntchito ngati njuchi, mosatopa. Koma mukakhumudwa ngakhale pang’ono, munthu woteroyo amalephera kuika maganizo anu pa ntchito zimene akugwira. Chilichonse chidzagwa m'manja mwake, ndipo kawirikawiri, chidzalephera.
Chifukwa cha izi, bizinesi imavutika ngati ali mtsogoleri, mwiniwake. Kupanga mapangano ndi kukambirana motengera momwe akumvera si njira yabwino yopezera chipambano.
Nthawi zina zomveka komanso njira yosagwirizana ndi bizinesi ndizofunikira. Chomwe, mwatsoka, ndi chikhalidwe chosatheka kuchipeza kwa iye.
paubwenzi
Monga tanenera kale, mawu awa ndi ovuta kwambiri, chifukwa chake okondedwa nthawi zambiri sakhala otopa muubwenzi.
Anthu otere ndi okondana, okondana komanso okondana. Pumulani ndikukhala mwamtendere, kukhutira pokumana nawo kumalepheretsedwa ndi kusinthasintha kwamalingaliro pafupipafupi. Zomwe sizingatheke kulosera, komanso, mwanjira ina kusunga kapena kuwongolera.
Koma zowona mtima zowoneka bwino zolunjika kwa wokondedwa, zimapangitsa kuti zitheke kunyalanyaza zophophonya zonse zomwe zili pamwambapa.
Omwe alibe chidwi ndi chisamaliro, amalengeza mokweza za chikondi. Amene amayesetsa maubwenzi ochititsa chidwi, mikangano yachiwawa ndi kuyanjanitsa, mtundu wokhudzidwa-wotukuka ndi wangwiro.
Ngati mnzanuyo waganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho, angakhale wokwiya. Kukhulupirira kuti mutha kubweza chilichonse pamalo ake ndikukondanso nokha. Pamafunika khama kwambiri kuti tichite zimenezi.
Nthawi zambiri, si aliyense amene amatha kupirira kusinthasintha pafupipafupi, kotero anthu okwezeka amakhala osungulumwa, makamaka akakalamba.
Nthawi yaunyamata ndi yovuta, chifukwa atsikana ndi anyamata pa msinkhu uwu amavutika ndi chikondi chosayenerera.
Iwo angakane ngakhale kudya, kutaya chilakolako chawo mkati mwa zokumana nazo. Amalira mu pilo usiku ndipo safuna kulankhulana ndi wina aliyense, akulimbana kwambiri ndi zoyesayesa zilizonse zowathandiza.
malangizo
- Yesetsani kusinkhasinkha kuti mudziwe momwe mungapezere mtendere ndi bata. Dongosolo lanu lamanjenje liyenera kukhala lodekha nthawi zina. Apo ayi, pali chiopsezo chachikulu chokhala ndi vuto lililonse la maganizo. Nthawi zambiri, ma phobias amawuka omwe amabweretsa zovuta ndi zovuta zambiri pamoyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Inde, ndipo kusowa tulo chifukwa cha zokumana nazo zamphamvu ndizowopsa kwambiri ku thanzi.
- Yesetsani kupewa kuyanjana ndi anthu aulamuliro, opondereza. Poganizira kukhudzika kwanu komanso kusatetezeka kwanu, kulumikizana koteroko sikungapindule konse.
- Phunzirani kudziletsa nokha pamene mukumva ngati mukulephera kudziletsa. Kapena kani, pamalingaliro awo. Gwiritsani ntchito njira zopumira zomwe zili m'nkhaniyi kuti mukhazikike mtima pansi. Ndipo pamene nkhawa, nkhawa, kapena ngakhale chimwemwe chopambanitsa chiwuka, pumirani mkati ndi kunja kuwerengera. Ndipo mukamakhazikitsa boma, ndiye pangani zisankho kuti musalakwitse chifukwa cha kutengeka.
akamaliza
Ndipo ndizo zonse lero, owerenga okondedwa! Lembetsani ku zosintha zamasamba kuti mudziwe zamtundu uliwonse womwe ulipo wa katchulidwe kamunthu, malinga ndi Leonhard ndi Lichko. Mukhoza kuyamba, mwachitsanzo, ndi mtundu wosangalatsa.
Dzisamalireni nokha ndikukhala osangalala!
Nkhaniyi inakonzedwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, Gestalt Therapist, Zhuravina Alina