Akatswiri a zamaganizo apanga chisankho chosayembekezereka: nthawi zina zimakhala zothandiza kuganizira zoipa. Tiyerekeze kuti posachedwapa mutaya chinthu chabwino, chamtengo wapatali, chimene mumachikonda kwambiri. Kutaya koganiziridwa kudzakuthandizani kuyamikira zomwe muli nazo ndikukhala osangalala.
Chigawo chomaliza, chaputala chomaliza, msonkhano womaliza, kupsompsona komaliza - chilichonse m'moyo chimatha tsiku lina. Kutsanzikana ndi zachisoni, koma nthawi zambiri ndikusiyana komwe kumabweretsa kumveka bwino m'moyo wathu ndikugogomezera zabwino zomwe zili mmenemo.
Gulu la akatswiri a zamaganizo motsogoleredwa ndi Christine Leiaus wa pa yunivesite ya California linachita kafukufuku. Phunzirolo linatha mwezi wathunthu. Maphunziro, ophunzira a chaka choyamba, adagawidwa m'magulu awiri. Gulu lina linakhala mwezi uno ngati kuti unali mwezi wotsiriza wa moyo wawo wophunzira. Iwo ankakokera chidwi za malo ndi anthu amene angawaphonye. Gulu lachiwiri linali gulu lolamulira: ophunzira ankakhala monga mwachizolowezi.
Kuyesera kusanachitike komanso pambuyo pake, ophunzira adalemba mafunso omwe adawunikira momwe amaganizira komanso kukhutitsidwa ndi zofunikira zamalingaliro: momwe amamvera, amphamvu komanso oyandikana ndi ena. Otenga nawo mbali omwe akuganiza kuti kunyamuka kwawo kwatsala pang'ono kutha anali ndi zizindikiro zowonjezereka za umoyo wamaganizo. Chiyembekezo chomaliza maphunziro awo ku yunivesite sichinawakhumudwitse, koma, m'malo mwake, chinapangitsa moyo kukhala wolemera. Ophunzirawo ankaganiza kuti nthawi yawo inali yochepa. Izi zinawalimbikitsa kukhala ndi moyo panopa komanso kusangalala kwambiri.
Bwanji osagwiritsa ntchito ngati chiwembu: taganizirani nthawi yomwe zonse zatha kuti mukhale osangalala? Izi ndi zomwe zimatipatsa chiyembekezo chakusiyana ndi kutayika.
Tikukhala mu nthawi ino
Pulofesa wa zama psychology ku yunivesite ya Stanford, Laura Carstensen, adapanga chiphunzitso cha kusankhana anthu m'mitima mwathu, chomwe chimaphunzira momwe nthawi imakhudzira zolinga ndi maubwenzi. Kuwona nthawi ngati chida chopanda malire, timakonda kukulitsa chidziwitso chathu ndi omwe timalumikizana nawo. Timapita ku makalasi, kupita ku zochitika zambiri, kupeza maluso atsopano. Zochita zotere ndizo ndalama zamtsogolo, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kuthana ndi zovuta.
Pozindikira kutha kwa nthawi, anthu amayamba kufunafuna cholinga cha moyo ndi njira zopezera chikhutiro.
Tikazindikira kuti nthawi ndi yochepa, timasankha zinthu zimene zimabweretsa chisangalalo komanso zofunika kwa ife panopa: kusangalala ndi mabwenzi athu apamtima kapena kusangalala ndi chakudya chimene timakonda. Pozindikira kutha kwa nthawi, anthu amayamba kufunafuna cholinga cha moyo ndi njira zopezera chikhutiro. Chiyembekezo chakutayika chimatikankhira kuzinthu zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo pano ndi pano.
Timayandikira kwa ena
Mmodzi mwa maphunziro a Laura Carstensen adakhudza anthu aku California 400. Maphunzirowa adagawidwa m'magulu atatu: achinyamata, azaka zapakati komanso achikulire. Ophunzira adafunsidwa omwe angafune kukumana nawo pa theka la ola laulere: wachibale, mnzawo watsopano, kapena wolemba buku lomwe awerenga.
Nthawi yocheza ndi banja imatithandiza kumva bwino. Zingakhale zopanda chinthu chachilendo, koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosangalatsa. Kukumana ndi mnzako watsopano kapena wolemba mabuku kumapereka mwayi wakukula ndi chitukuko.
Muzochitika zabwino, 65% ya achinyamata amasankha kukumana ndi wolemba, ndipo 65% ya okalamba amasankha kukhala ndi mabanja awo. Ophunzira atafunsidwa kuti aganizire kusamukira kudera lina m'milungu ingapo, 80% ya achinyamata adaganiza zokumana ndi wachibale wawo. Izi zimatsimikizira chiphunzitso cha Carstensen: kuyembekezera kutha kumatikakamiza kuti tikonzenso.
Timasiya zakale
Malinga ndi chiphunzitso cha Carstensen, chimwemwe chathu m’nthaŵi ino chimapikisana ndi mapindu amene tingapeze m’tsogolo, mwachitsanzo, kuchokera ku chidziŵitso chatsopano kapena kugwirizana. Koma tisaiwale za ndalama zomwe zidapangidwa m'mbuyomu.
Mwinamwake mwakhala ndi mwaŵi wolankhulana ndi mnzanu amene kwanthaŵi yaitali sakukondwera nanu, chifukwa chakuti mumam’dziŵa kusukulu. Kapena mwina mukuzengereza kusintha ntchito yanu chifukwa chomvera chisoni maphunziro amene munalandira. Choncho, kuzindikira kwa mapeto akubwera kumathandiza kuika zonse m’malo mwake.
Mu 2014, gulu la asayansi lotsogozedwa ndi Jonel Straw linachita zoyeserera zingapo. Achinyamata anafunsidwa kuganiza kuti sakhala ndi moyo wautali. Izi zidawapangitsa kuti asamade nkhawa kwambiri ndi "mtengo wozama" wa nthawi ndi ndalama. Chimwemwe panthaŵiyo chinakhala chofunika kwambiri kwa iwo. Gulu lolamulira linakhazikitsidwa mosiyana: mwachitsanzo, amatha kukhalabe pa kanema woipa chifukwa adalipira tikiti.
Poona kuti nthawi ndi yocheperako, sitikufuna kuiwononga pazinthu zopanda pake. Malingaliro okhudza kutayika kwamtsogolo ndi kupatukana kumatithandiza kuti timvetsere zomwe zikuchitika masiku ano. Zoonadi, zoyesayesa zomwe zikufunsidwazo zinalola ophunzira kuti apindule ndi kusweka kongoganizirako popanda kukumana ndi kuwawa kwa kutayika kwenikweni. Ndipo komabe, ali pafupi kufa, anthu kaŵirikaŵiri amanong’oneza bondo kuti anagwira ntchito molimbika ndi kulankhula mochepa kwambiri ndi okondedwa awo.
Chifukwa chake kumbukirani: zabwino zonse zimatha. Yamikirani zenizeni.