Zamkatimu
Aliyense wa ife ali ndi malingaliro achinsinsi omwe sanatchulidwe komanso obisika mosamala: nsanje ya bwenzi lathu lapamtima, kukwiyira makolo athu, chikhumbo chofuna kugunda mnzathu m'galimoto yocheperako yapansi panthaka. Nthawi zina timazibisa ngakhale kwa ife eni. Timanamizira kulibe. Koma amasiyabe chizindikiro chawo.
Zikuwoneka kuti mukhoza kuganiza za chinthu chochititsa manyazi kapena kuchichita mobisa, mpaka palibe amene akumva kapena kuona chinachake chimene simukufuna kuvomereza, ndipo chinthu chaching'ono ichi sichidzakhudza moyo wonse. Koma malingaliro oterowo amawonekera muzochita, zochita, maubwenzi.
Mwanayo amatseka maso ake ndi manja ake ndi kunena kuti: "Sindili pano." Amakhulupirira kuti salinso pamalo omwe sakuwona. Koma kukhudzika kwake sikumakhudza mmene ena amamuonera bwinobwino.
N’chimodzimodzinso ndi maganizo: ngakhale kuti saoneka, anthu ambiri amawerenga mmene timawachitira komanso mmene timadzionera.
Chinsinsi chonse chimawonekera
Sikoyenera ngakhale pang’ono kupanga malingaliro m’mawu kuti awonekere kwa ena. Zonsezi zimawulutsidwa padziko lonse lapansi mosagwiritsa ntchito mawu: mawonekedwe, manja, mawonekedwe a nkhope, kuyang'ana, ndi mawu: mawu, kamvekedwe, timbre ngakhale kupuma pakati pa mawu. "Chilichonse chimazungulira m'chilengedwechi, chimabwerera kwa ife, ndikuyambitsa mabwalo pamadzi."
Lingaliro lirilonse, kukayikira kulikonse, zochita zachinsinsi, chisankho kapena kumverera - zonsezi zimasiya mabwalo pamadzi a chikomokere, omwe amasiyana kwambiri, okhudza poyamba omwe ali pafupi, ndiyeno omwe ali kutali pang'ono. Nthawi zambiri amaganizira njira imodzi, mokulirapo adzakhala malo omwe angakhudze.
Lingaliro lililonse, kumverera, komanso kuchitapo kanthu, ngakhale chinsinsi, kumasiya ziwonetsero zowoneka bwino mu psyche, zomwe zimawonekera kudziko lakunja ndikuwululidwa polumikizana ndi ena komanso momwe amakuonerani.
N’chifukwa chiyani zimenezi zikuchitika? Chowonadi ndi chakuti anthu ali ndi chinyengo chakuti zonse zomwe anachita kapena kuganiza mobisa zimakhalabe popanda umboni ndipo, motero, zimakhala ngati izi sizinachitike. Kuti palibe amene adawona galu wokhumudwayo, adawononga bukhu la wina. Palibe amene anamva mawu oponyedwa monyansidwa podutsa, sanazindikire malingaliro ansanje.
Koma nthawi zonse pali umboni. Nthawi zonse pamakhala wina amene adawona, kumva, kudziwa. Ndipo munthu ameneyo ndi inu. Munthu amene amachita zinthu zomuchititsa manyazi amadziwa zimene akuchita. Munthu amene maganizo ake ali odzala ndi njiru ndi mkwiyo nthaŵi zonse amadziŵa zimene amaganiza, zimene amalakalaka mwamseri ndi kuzilakalaka. Ndipo lingaliro losadziwa za munthu limapangidwa poganizira zonsezi, zobisika, zobisika.
Masks sangathandize
Aliyense amadziwa za iye yekha kumene sali woona mtima kwathunthu kapena kulimba mtima mokwanira, kumene anali wamantha, kumene anali wamng'ono ndi wansanje. Ndipo iwo omwe atizungulira amawerenga chithunzi chathu monga momwe zilili, popanda kufufuza, ndipo zimawonekera kwa iwo, ngakhale mosadziwa, yemwe ali pafupi nawo.
Ndicho chifukwa chake timagawanitsa anthu omwe tikufuna kukhala nawo, kulankhulana, kukhala mabwenzi, kuphunzira, kuseka, ndi omwe sitifuna kukhudza nawo kapena maso athu kapena malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, omwe amachititsa mantha ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukumana nawo. kulambalala. Timagawa anthu kukhala omwe akufuna kudalira okondana kwambiri, ndi omwe sangadaliridwe ngakhale pang'ono.
Pa omwe timawamvera chisoni, ndi omwe amayambitsa kunyansidwa. Inde, mutha kukhala katswiri wochita sewero komanso kuvala masks mwaluso, koma musadzipangitse nokha. Ndikosatheka kuzolowera gawolo, mwanjira ina, koma thupi limapereka machitidwe ndi malingaliro omwe amabisika pansi pa chigoba. Zocheperako pang'ono, koma zowoneka bwino kuti anthu omwe ali pafupi nanu azitha kuwongolera ndikulemba moyenerera.
Psychopaths ali ndi chithunzithunzi chabwino kwambiri ngakhale atakhala owopsa bwanji.
Ndithudi inu mukudziwa amene akudabwa: chifukwa chiyani anthu amandichitira ine zoipa? N’chifukwa chiyani sandikhulupirira, chifukwa ndine nzika yolemekezeka ndiponso yolemekezeka? Bwanji osayamba kukondana, chifukwa ndine wokongola, wokwanira, wovala bwino komanso wanzeru? Chifukwa chiyani sakulemba ganyu, chifukwa ndili ndi mbiri yabwino chotere?
Malingaliro obisika, machimo omwe iye yekha akudziwa, kuperekedwa kwa iye kapena ena, zonsezi zimasiya chizindikiro pa maganizo a munthu payekha - ndipo, chifukwa chake, pa maganizo a anthu omwe amamuzungulira. Zachidziwikire, mutha kukhala wamatsenga a narcissistic ndikusiya kuchita manyazi komanso kudziimba mlandu pazochita zanu zilizonse. Izi ndi nthabwala, koma pali chowonadi.
Chithunzi chamkati cha aliyense wa ife chimapangidwa osati ndi malingaliro ndi zochita mwa iwo okha, koma ndi malingaliro athu kwa iwo, kuwunika kwathu. Ngati dongosolo lamtengo wapatali lamkati limakupatsani mwayi wokankha galu wosokera ndipo izi sizikuwoneka ngati zoipa, ndiye kuti kudziona nokha ndi chithunzi chamkati sikudzavutika, kumakhalabe kokongola. Kotero, kwa ena, idzaulutsidwanso ngati yokongola.
Ndizomvetsa chisoni, koma ndizowona: zopanda manyazi, zopanda mtima, zachilendo ku makhalidwe abwino aumunthu, psychopaths ndi yokongola kwambiri pachifukwa ichi. Chifaniziro chawo chamkati mwa iwo eni ndi chabwino, mosasamala kanthu za zinthu zoopsa zomwe amachita.
Momwe mungasinthire chithunzi chamkati mwanu
Koma kuwala kumagonjetsa mdima nthawi zonse. Pali njira yobweretsera chithunzi chokongola chamkati mwanu, ngakhale chawonongeka kale. Choyamba, muyenera kuvomereza mthunzi wanu. Ndikofunikira kwambiri. Ndizofunikira. Muyenera kuvomereza mthunzi wanu kuti musatsamwidwe ndi manyazi chifukwa cha zomwe muli.
Kotero kuti kupweteka kosapiririka sikukulepheretsani kuyang'anizana ndi choonadi ndikuwona mfundo yomwe muli pakali pano. Ndipo mutawona kale poyambira, ndikosavuta kupanga dongosolo lothetsera vutoli. Zomwe zimayambitsa ndi zotsatira zake zimatifikitsa pamene aliyense wa ife ali panthawiyi, ndipo ndizomwe tikuyenera kuphunzira kuchitapo kanthu pochoka - kuchita zinthu zatsopano, kuganiza zatsopano, kumva zatsopano. kumverera, kupanga zisankho zatsopano. Chokani ku machitidwe omwe mwachizolowezi.
Pamafunika khama linalake la chifuniro kuti mumangenso ndi kuchoka pa dongosolo lachizolowezi.
Ngakhale ntchito yangwiro ingakhale yoipa chotani, kudzikweza sikungakonze. Koma mutha kusintha tsogolo lanu kudzera mumayendedwe atsopano: kupitilira zonse zakale ndi zatsopano, zabwino, zoyenera, malingaliro ndi zochita zabwino.
Ndi mawonekedwe atsopano aliwonse omwe amalowa m'chikomokere, zizindikiro zatsopano zimawonekera ndipo mabwalo atsopano amayambitsidwa omwe amanyamula chithunzi chanu chatsopano kwa omwe akuzungulirani: okongola, oyenera, amphamvu. Osati opanda cholakwika, ndithudi, palibe abwino, koma chithunzi chatsopanochi ndi chokongola kwambiri, choyenera komanso champhamvu kuposa chakale.
Koma izi zimafuna khama linalake kuti amangenso ndi kuchoka pa dongosolo wamba. Ndipo nthawi zina mphamvu ya inertia ndi yaikulu ndipo chiyeso chobwerera ku njanji zakale chimakhala chachikulu. Ngati palibe khama lodziyimira palokha, muyenera kupempha thandizo kwa achibale kapena akatswiri - ndikupitiliza kusintha malingaliro, mawu, zochita kuti mukhale pafupi ndi chithunzi chatsopano chanu.