Kodi nthawi zonse muzimuuza zoona mnzanu?

Nthawi zina zimaoneka ngati zosatheka kunena zoona popanda kumenyana, kudzivulaza, kapena kudziyendetsa pakona. Othandizana nawo nthawi zina amapusitsana wina ndi mzake: amapeputsa kapena kukokomeza chinachake, amanyansidwa ndikukhala chete. Koma kodi mabodza amawononga nthawi zonse?

Bodza m'dzina la makhalidwe abwino

Nthawi zina, kuti muzitsatira malamulo olankhulirana, muyenera kunena zoona zokhazokha. Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi akufunsa kuti, "Linali bwanji tsiku?", Zikuoneka kuti iye sali wokonzeka kumvetsera madandaulo a anzake ndi abwana. Funso lake ndi chiwonetsero chaulemu, chomwe onse awiri amazolowera. Ukanena kuti, “zili bwino,” ndi bodza lopanda vuto lililonse. Inunso mumatsatira malamulo osalembedwa olankhulirana.

Zingakhale zoipa kwambiri kumauzana mosalekeza zonse zimene zimabwera m’maganizo. Mwamuna angafotokozere mkazi wake mmene mlembi wachinyamata alili wabwino, koma n’kwanzeru kubisa maganizo amenewo. Malingaliro athu ena angakhale osayenera, osafunika, kapena osakondweretsa. Nthawi zina mumafuna kunena zoona, koma tisanachite zimenezo, timaganizira ubwino ndi kuipa kwake.

Kuona mtima kapena kukoma mtima?

Kaŵirikaŵiri timachita zinthu mogwirizana ndi mmene zinthu zilili ndi kunena zimene zikuwoneka kuti n’zoyenera panthawi inayake. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kukopa chidwi cha wodutsa kapena mnzanu: "Batani lanu lathetsedwa" - kapena mutha kukhala chete.

Koma musataye mawu osapita m'mbali ngati "Sindingathe kuyimilira chithunzi cha makolo anu chomwe mudapanga ndikundipatsa patsiku langa lobadwa."

Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kunena zoona, koma ndikofunikira, ndipo muyenera kusankha mawu, mawu ndi nthawi. Funso lomweli likhoza kuyankhidwa mofanana moona mtima, koma m'njira zosiyanasiyana.

Funso: "N'chifukwa chiyani mukutsutsa misonkhano yanga ndi anzanga?"

Yankho lolakwika: "Chifukwa onse ndi zitsiru, ndipo simungadzilamulire nokha, mutha kumwa ndikuchita zinazake."

Yankho loyenera: “Ndikuda nkhawa kuti mwina mungamwe. Pali amuna ambiri osakwatiwa pafupi, ndipo ndinu wokongola kwambiri.

Funso: "Kodi ungandikwatire?"

Yankho lolakwika: "Ukwati si wa ine."

Yankho loyenera: "Ndimakonda momwe ubale wathu ukukulira, koma sindinakonzekere udindo wotere."

Q: "Kodi ndikuwoneka wonenepa mumakabudula obiriwira obiriwira awa?"

Yankho lolakwika: "Mukuwoneka wonenepa chifukwa cha mafuta anu, osati chifukwa cha zovala zanu."

Yankho loyenera: "Ndikuganiza kuti jeans imakukwanirani bwino."

Kumbuyo kwa mawuwo kuli cholinga

Pali njira zambiri zokhalira okhulupirika komanso okoma mtima pa nthawi imodzi. Ngati simukudziwa chonena kapena mukuwopa kunena zoona, ndi bwino kupempha kwa kanthawi kuti muganizire bwino.

Mwachitsanzo, mudadabwa ndi funso lakuti "Kodi mumandikonda?". Osanyenga munthu kapena kuyesa kusamutsa zokambiranazo kumutu wina. Pankhani yofunika, ndi bwino kunena mosapita m’mbali.

Kuona mtima paubwenzi ndikofunikira, koma sikofunikira, monga kuwuza mnzanuyo kuti amanunkhiza modabwitsa mukamapanga chikondi.

Kumbali ina, taganizirani - chimachitika ndi chiyani mukayesa kubisa dala? Kodi mukuopa kuti ngati mukunena zoona, pachitika zinthu zoipa? Kodi mukufuna kulanga wina? Simungakhale wosakhwima? Mukuyesera kudziteteza nokha kapena wokondedwa wanu?

Ngati mupeza zifukwa zakusaona mtima kwanu, ubwenzi wanu udzapindula nawo.

Za wolemba: Jason Whiting ndi wothandizira mabanja komanso pulofesa wa psychology.