M’moyo wamakono, timaphunzira zambiri zatsopano. Timayang'ana zomwe zikuchitika kuzungulira ndikufunsa chilichonse: ndi chiyani? Chikuchitikandi chiyani? Zikutanthauza chiyani? Kodi ndi chiyani? Kodi ndiyenera kudziwa chiyani?
Cholinga chathu ndi kupulumuka. Timafunafuna chidziŵitso chimene chingatithandize kukhalabe ndi moyo mwakuthupi, m’maganizo, m’maganizo ndi mwamakhalidwe.
Tikangodzidalira kuti tidzapulumuka, timayamba kufunafuna chidziŵitso chimene chingatithandize mwanjira inayake kudzikwaniritsa tokha ndi kukwaniritsa zosoŵa zathu.
Nthawi zina kupeza magwero okhutitsidwa kumakhala kosavuta, ingofunsani mafunso: ndingapeze bwanji chisangalalo chochulukirapo? Kodi ndingapeze bwanji zambiri zomwe ndimakonda? Kodi ndingachotse bwanji zomwe sindimakonda?
Ndipo nthawi zina kufunafuna kukhutira ndi njira yozama komanso yovuta: ndingathandize bwanji dziko lino? Kodi ndingatani kuti ndithandizire? Kodi chingandithandize ndi chiyani kuti ndimve bwino? Ndine ndani? Cholinga changa ndi chiyani?
Moyenera, tonsefe mwachibadwa timafuna kuchoka ku kufunafuna zambiri zokhudza kupulumuka ndi kufunafuna zambiri zokhutiritsa. Uku ndi kupita patsogolo kwachilengedwe kwa chidziwitso chaumunthu, koma zinthu sizimayenda mwanjira yomweyo.
Momwe nkhani zimakhudzira khalidwe lathu
Anthu omwe amasamala za kupulumuka ndi osavuta kuwawongolera. Iwo ali ndi zosowa zoonekeratu ndi zoyambitsa. Aitaneni kuti akwaniritse kufunikira kwa kupulumuka - ndipo adzakutsatirani.
Njira yosavuta yotsogolela anthu sikukhala ndi zofuna kapena zowopseza, monga momwe munthu angaganizire. Izi ndi nkhani.
Tonse timakonda nkhani. Ndipo koposa zonse, zomwe timatenga gawo lalikulu. Choncho, n'zosavuta kunyengerera munthu - ndi zokwanira kuuza munthu nkhani yabwino imene iye adzakhala mbali yake, khalidwe, protagonist, ngwazi.
Yatsani chidwi chake, kondani ndi nkhani, dzutsani malingaliro. Muuzeni mtundu wa nkhani za iye ndi dziko lake zimene mukufuna kuti azikhulupirira.
Malingana ndi momwe chiwembucho chilili chabwino komanso momwe kugwirizana kwamaganizo kulili kolimba, munthu amatengera nkhaniyo. Kuchokera munkhani ya munthu wina, nkhaniyo idzasanduka nkhani yonena za zenizeni za munthu uyu ndi malo ake mmenemo.
Kukhala pamutu pa nkhani sikuli koyipa konse - koma pokhapokha ngati nkhanizi sizikuwononga.
Mmene Nkhani Zakupulumuka Zimatiwonongera
Tikamayesetsa kupulumuka, timayankha mipata ngati ziwopsezo. Tili pachitetezo, osati otseguka. Mwachikhazikitso, timatsatira malingaliro okayikitsa, malingaliro omwe nthawi zonse amakhala otanganidwa kulemba malire: "Ine" ndi kuti "alendo".
Kuti tipulumuke, tiyenera kutsimikizira zimene zili “zathu” ndi za dziko lonse. Timakhulupirira kuti tiyenera kuika patsogolo ndi kuteteza zomwe ziri "zathu", kuti tiyenera kuteteza, kuchepetsa, kuthamangitsa ndi kumenyana ndi "zachilendo".
Zathu ndi nkhani zawo zakhala zikugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chida chandale. Aliyense akuwoneka kuti ali wotsimikiza kuti mikangano yandale, kugawikana m'magulu ndi zochitika zina zotere zafika pachimake chomwe sichinachitikepo pakali pano - koma izi siziri choncho. Njirazi zakhala zikugwiritsidwa ntchito polimbana ndi mphamvu ndipo zakhala zogwira mtima. Palibe ochuluka a iwo, iwo akuwonekera kwambiri kuposa kale.
Zimagwira ntchito bwanji? Choyamba, olemba nkhani amapanga zojambula (osati zilembo, koma zojambula). Gulu limodzi la zojambulajambula likunena za "ife" ndipo linalo ndi "alendo". N'zosavuta kudziwa kuti ndi gulu liti la ziwombankhanga zomwe zili m'gulu liti chifukwa mikhalidwe yonse ndi zozindikiritsa ndizokokomeza.
Kenako, ofotokozerawo amafotokoza nkhani yomwe ili ndi malamulo ena:
• Makatuni ayenera kukhala owona ku mawonekedwe awo okokomeza, ngakhale pamtengo wa malo omveka bwino. Zomveka sizitenga gawo lalikulu m'nkhanizi.
• Zithunzi za "zathu" zimakhala ngati ngwazi kapena / kapena ozunzidwa.
• Zithunzi za "alendo" zikuyenera kukhala ngati ziwonetsero kapena zoyipa.
• Payenera kukhala kusamvana, koma pasakhale kuthetsa. Ndipotu, zambiri mwa nkhanizi zimakhala ndi mphamvu zowonjezereka pamene zikusowa yankho. Kupanda njira yothetsera kumabweretsa kumverera kwa kusamvana kosalekeza. Owerenga adzaona kuti akufunika mwachangu kukhala nawo m'nkhaniyo ndikuthandizira kupeza yankho.
Momwe mungayang'anire nkhani
Tikhoza kuchepetsa mphamvu zonyenga za nkhanizi chifukwa tikhoza kulemba mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya nkhani iliyonse. Titha kugwiritsa ntchito yathu motsutsana ndi kapangidwe kake kunena nkhani yosiyana kotheratu.
Tikachita izi, timayambitsa zosankha. Timasonyeza kuti magulu angapeze mayankho amtendere, kuti anthu osiyanasiyana omwe ali ndi zofunikira zosiyana angagwire ntchito limodzi. Titha kusintha kusamvana kukhala mgwirizano ndi kukanidwa kukhala ubale. Titha kugwiritsa ntchito nkhani kukulitsa malingaliro athu osati kungonena chabe.
Nazi njira zinayi zosinthira mbiri popanda kuwononga "zathu motsutsana ndi zawo":
1. Sinthani chiwembu. M’malo mosonyeza kusamvana pakati pa ife ndi iwo, sonyezani mkangano umene ife ndi iwo timasonkhana kuti tithane ndi mkangano waukulu.
2. Lowani chisankho choganizira. Onetsani chiganizo chomwe chili choyenera kwa onse otenga nawo mbali. Sinthani chisankho kuchoka pa “kugonjetsa alendo” kukhala “yankho lomwe limapindulitsa aliyense.”
3. Sinthani zojambulajambula kukhala zilembo. Anthu enieni amakhala ndi malingaliro. Iwo akhoza kukula ndi kuphunzira. Ali ndi zolinga ndi zomwe amafunikira ndipo nthawi zambiri amangofuna kukhala osangalala komanso kuchita zinthu zabwino m'moyo wawo wonse. Yesani kutembenuza caricature kukhala munthu wokhulupirira komanso wozama.
4. Yambitsani kukambirana. Zonse m'nkhaniyo (loleni otchulidwawo alankhule ndi kuyanjana mwamtendere ndi mopindulitsa wina ndi mzake kuti asonyeze kuti izi ndi zotheka), komanso kwenikweni: kambiranani za nkhanizi - nkhani zonse - ndi mitundu yonse ya anthu enieni.
Pamene mukuganiziranso nkhanizi mowonjezereka, zidzayamba kutaya mphamvu. Adzataya kuthekera kosewera ndi malingaliro anu, kukupusitsani, kapena kukulowetsani mozama munkhaniyo kuti muyiwale kuti ndinu ndani. Sadzakulimbikitsaninso ndi udindo wa wozunzidwa kapena woteteza, kukupangani caricature. Sangakulembereni kapena kukuimbirani. Sangagwiritse ntchito kapena kukunyengererani ngati munthu wankhani yomwe simunalembe.
Kutuluka mu ndondomeko yofotokozerayi ndi sitepe yopita ku ufulu wosalamuliridwa ndi nkhani za anthu ena.
Kapena, chofunika kwambiri, chikhoza kukhala sitepe yopita ku ufulu ku nkhani zanu, zakale zomwe zimakulepheretsani kukula. Zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva kuwawa, kuwawa, kusweka. Nkhani zomwe zimakukola koma zimakulepheretsa kuchira. Nkhani zomwe zimafuna kufotokozera tsogolo lanu poyimbira zakale.
Ndinu oposa nkhani zanu. Ndipo, ndithudi, ndinu oposa nkhani za wina aliyense, ziribe kanthu momwe mumazimvera mozama komanso momwe mumaganizira. Ndinu anthu angapo m'nkhani zambiri. Anthu ambiri amakhala moyo wolemera, wozama, wotambasula, wokhazikika munkhani momwe angafune, kuphunzira ndi kusinthika kudzera muzochita zilizonse.
Kumbukirani: nkhani ndi zida. Nkhani si zenizeni. Amafunika kuti atithandize kumvetsetsa, kumvera ena chisoni ndi kusankha. Tiyenera kuwona nkhani iliyonse momwe ilili: momwe tingathere zenizeni zenizeni.
Ngati mukufuna kuti mbiriyakale ikhale yeniyeni, khulupirirani izo. Ngati sichoncho, lembani chatsopano.