"Kukwiya kokoma": chifukwa chiyani timakonda kufinya ana

Nthawi zina ana amphaka, ana agalu ndi ana ena amakhala okoma kwambiri moti mumafuna kuwakumbatira mwamphamvu, mwamphamvu kuti mutha kuwaphwanya. Ndipo ataona pansi pa mwana wokongola, dzanja lenilenilo limatambasula kuti limusisita.

“Ndikadakufinya, ndikanakudya,” amatero mayi wachikondi kwa mwanayo, ndipo palibe amene amaona kuti zimenezi n’zofunika.

Zinthu ngati zimenezi zimachitika nthawi zonse, ndipo nthawi zambiri anthu saganizira chifukwa chake. Panthawiyi, khalidwe loterolo linabweranso ndi mawu akuti - "ukali wokongola." Nazi zinthu 10 zomwe simunadziwe za chochitika ichi.

1. Taphunzira zaukali wokongola osati kale kwambiri

Ayi, makanda onenepa anawapanikiza kale, koma sanapeze chifukwa chilichonse cha izi. Ndipo mu 2015, adachita kafukufuku ndipo adapeza kuti anthu, monga lamulo, amachitira mosiyana ndi zinyama zazing'ono ndi zazikulu.

Izi, ndithudi, sizikutanthauza kuti nyama zazikulu zimadedwa ndi kuonedwa kuti ndi zopanda chifundo, komabe, zina zimakonda kukhala ndi malingaliro olemekezeka kwambiri kwa ana. Zomwezo zimachitikanso ndi anthu. Vomerezani, mwana wokongola wazaka ziwiri amalandila chithandizo kuchokera kwa azakhali achilendo kuposa wachinyamata.

2. Ichi ndi khalidwe laukali

Anthu ena amaganiza kuti kuchita zachiwawa ndi kufuna kuvulaza munthu ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana. Koma kwenikweni ndi amodzi. Munthu amaona munthu wokongola kwambiri moti ubongo wake sudziwa momwe angachitire naye. Pali chikhumbo chochita zachiwawa. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti zigawenga zokongola zidzavulaza, koma penapake pansi amaziganizira.

3. Koma ilibe vuto

Choncho, dzina la chodabwitsa sikutanthauza konse kuti munthu kuvulaza nyama kapena mwana. N’kutheka kuti chiwawa cha mtundu umenewu ndi njira imene ubongo umakhazikitsira pansi munthu akakhala ndi nkhawa komanso akusangalala.

4. Kufuna kutsina tsaya ndi chizindikiro chaukali wokongola.

Inde, zikuwoneka ngati zopanda vuto, koma kwenikweni, chilakolako chotsina mwana ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za chiwawa chokongola. Chizindikiro china chosonyeza kuti munthu akukumana ndi chiwawa chokongola ndi pamene akufuna kuluma munthu.

5. Misozi ndi yofanana ndi zochitika zaukali wokongola

Anthu ambiri amalira akaona chinthu chochititsa chidwi. Ndipo mkhalidwe uwu ndi wofanana kwambiri ndi zochitika zaukali wokongola. Kaŵirikaŵiri machitidwe oterowo amatchedwa mafotokozedwe osonyeza kutengeka maganizo, pamene mumachita zinthu zabwino mofanana ndi mmene mumachitira ndi zoipa. Ichi n’chifukwa chake ena amalira paukwati.

6. Mbali yamalingaliro ya ubongo ndiyo imayang'anira chilichonse.

Ubongo wamunthu ndi wovuta. Koma tsopano tikudziwa motsimikiza kuti chiwawa chokongola chimagwirizana mwachindunji ndi gawo lomwe limagwira ntchito pamene anthu akhudzidwa.

Anthu ena amaganiza kuti chiwawa chokongola chimakhala chosakanikirana ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana, chifukwa chake zimakhala zovuta kuzilamulira. Zimenezi zimachitikanso chifukwa chakuti munthu sadziwa choti achite akayang’ana chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri. Zili ngati kuthira madzi ambiri m’kapu kuposa momwe angagwirire. Madzi akasefukira m’mphepete mwa chikhocho, amayamba kusefukira paliponse.

7. Sizikudziwika kuti ndani amene ali “waukali”: makolo kapena opanda mwana

Mpaka pano, ochita kafukufuku sanapezepo kuti ndi ndani amene amakonda chiwawa chokongola. Kukhala ndi mwana sikutanthauza kuti makolo amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kusakhala ndi ana. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi ziweto.

8. Sikuti khanda lililonse limatha kuchititsa nkhanza.

Anthu amene amachitiridwa zaukali amaganiza kuti ana ena ndi abwino kuposa ena. Ndipo sizokhudza khalidwe, koma za nkhope. Mwachitsanzo, ena amaona makanda okhala ndi maso aakulu ndi masaya ang’onoang’ono kukhala okongola kwambiri. Kwa ena, samamva zaukali.

Zikafika kwa ana agalu ndi makanda a nyama zina, zigawenga zokongola sizisankha.

9. Ukali wokongola ungapangitse munthu kukhala wosamala kwambiri.

Ndizosasangalatsa, ndithudi, kuzindikira kuti kukumbatirana kosalakwa ndi kukumbatirana mwadzidzidzi kumatchedwa, ngakhale kokongola, koma mwaukali. Komabe, uthenga wabwino ndi wakuti anthu amene ali ndi makhalidwe amenewa ndi osamala kwambiri kuposa amene sasonyeza chiwawa.

Inde, timadzazidwa ndi malingaliro, koma kenako ubongo umakhala pansi, ukubwereranso, kulola amayi ndi abambo kuika maganizo awo pa kusamalira mwana wawo.

10. Ukali wokongola wolunjika kwa omwe mukufuna kuwasamalira.

Anthu akaona chithunzi cha mphaka wokongola, amatha kukhumudwa poganiza kuti sangathe kugwira kapena kuweta nyamayo. Kenako ziwawa zokongola zimayamba. Pali chiphunzitso chakuti zochita za munthu wotero zimalunjika ku chinthu chimene akufuna kuchisamalira. Mwachitsanzo, "ankhanza okongola" ochokera pakati pa agogo aakazi omwe sawona zidzukulu zawo nthawi zambiri monga momwe angafune, koma amadzazidwa ndi chikhumbo chofuna kuwasamalira.