Zamkatimu
Kugwiritsa ntchito mazira anu zivute zitani, kuwapereka ku sayansi, kuwasunga pamene akuyembekezera kupanga chisankho, vuto lililonse ndi laumwini ndipo limayambitsa zokambirana mkati mwa awiriwa. Amayi atatu akuchitira umboni.
“Ndimadziimba mlandu chifukwa chosagwiritsa ntchito miluza yowumitsidwa”
sonkhana, wazaka 42, mayi wa Habib, wazaka 8.
Andi mwamuna wanga, Sofiane, tinayamba kubereka mothandizidwa ndi mankhwala (kubereka mothandizidwa ndi mankhwala) mu 2005 chifukwa sitingathe kukhala ndi ana mwachibadwa. Mwamsanga tinatembenukira ku in vitro fertilization (IVF) chifukwa insemination sizinatenge. Habib adabadwa pa IVF yathu yachiwiri, kuchokera pakusintha kwa mluza. Patapita zaka ziwiri, tinayesanso. Habib ankafuna m’bale kapena mlongo wamng’ono ndipo ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinkafuna kukhala ndi ana awiri kapena atatu.
Ndinatenga mimba kudzera mu transfer, koma ndinapita padera
Sitinagonje ngakhale kuti zinali zovuta kwambiri. Ndinalinso ndi thumba la ovarian mu Okutobala 2019 zomwe zinali zowawa kwambiri chifukwa ndinali ndi hyperstimulation. Pafupifupi ma oocyte 90 anabowoledwa, ndiakuluakulu ndipo ndimamva chilichonse. Miluza inayi yomwe yakhala ikukumana ndi umuna ikhoza kusungidwa mufiriji. Tinayesa kusamutsa pambuyo pake mu February 2020 chifukwa ndimafunikira kupuma pang'ono. Koma panalibe mimba. M'malingaliro, sindikudziwa chifukwa chake, koma ndimawona kuti sizingagwire ntchito. Mwamuna wanga ankaganizadi kuti nditenga mimba monga mmene zinkakhalira poyamba, ngakhale nditapita padera.
Kusamutsidwa kwatsopano kunakonzedwa mu July, koma ndinakwanitsa zaka 42. Malire a zaka zoyamba kuyang'anira, ndipo kwa ine, zinali zowopsa kwambiri, chifukwa mimba yanga yoyamba inali yovuta.
Zaka 42 zinalinso malire anga. Zowopsa zambiri zakuwonongeka kwa mwana komanso thanzi kwa ine. Tinaganiza zosiya pamenepo. Kukhala ndi mwana ndi mwayi waukulu, makamaka popeza zidatitengera zaka khumi kuti tipambane!
Tidakali ndi miluza itatu yowumitsidwa yomwe yatsala
Mpaka pano, sitinapange chisankho. Tikudikirira makalata ochokera kuchipatala kutifunsa zomwe tikufuna kuchita. Tikhoza kuzisunga ndi kuzibwezera chaka chilichonse. Kapena kuwawononga. Kapena apatseni banja kapena sayansi. Pakalipano, timawasunga mpaka titadziwa zoyenera kuchita.
Ndimadziimba mlandu chifukwa chosawagwiritsa ntchito, chifukwa mwina kusamutsa kotsatira kukadagwira ntchito… sindikufuna kuwapereka ku sayansi chifukwa m'malingaliro anga, ndikungotaya. Mwamuna wanga, akuganiza kuti zingakhale bwino kupititsa patsogolo kafukufukuyu. Koma tikhoza kuwapatsanso banja. Anthu ambiri amafunikira mluza. Ngakhale sindidzadziwa ngati zidagwira ntchito, chifukwa choperekacho sichidziwika, pansi pamtima, ndingaganize kuti mwina mwana wanga ali kwinakwake. Koma Sofiane sakufuna. Choncho, popeza tonsefe tiyenera kuvomerezana, timapatsana nthawi.
"Tidzawapereka ku sayansi, kuwawononga kungaswa mitima yathu"
Leah Zaka 30, amayi a Ellie, wazaka 8.
Ndi mnzanga, tinali ndi mwana wathu wamkazi wamng’ono kwambiri Ellie. Sitinali m’kati mokhala ndi mwana. Pamene tinaganiza zoyamba mwana wachiwiri, tinadzisiyira chaka chimodzi… Mwatsoka, sizinaphule kanthu. Pambuyo pa mayeso angapo, tinapeza chigamulo: sitingakhale ndi mwana wina mwachibadwa. Njira yokhayo yothetsera vutoli inali kuchita in vitro fertilization (IVF).
Kusamutsa koyamba ndi mluza watsopano sikunagwire ntchito.
Pamene kamwana kakang'ono ka umuna kaŵirikaŵiri kanatsalira kuchoka pa puncture, kanali ndi vitrified (achisanu). Tinasaina chilolezo chopereka pangano lathu. Koma zimenezo zinandidetsa nkhaŵa kwambiri, makamaka popeza kuti unali mluza wathu womaliza wa kubala. Ndinali wopanikizika kwambiri, mnzanga anali wochepa kwambiri. M'malo mwake, sitikudziwitsidwa mokwanira munthawi yeniyeni pazomwe zikuchitika, siteji yosungunuka ndi chiyani komanso zoopsa zomwe zingachitike panthawiyi. Vitrification imapangitsa kusungunuka chifukwa, malinga ndi kafukufuku, 3% yokha ya mazira omwe sakhala ndi moyo. Koma madokotala salankhula kwambiri za khalidweli. Tikudikirira nthawi zonse kuti tidziwe ngati kusamutsa kutheka kapena ayi. Kodi mluza upitirizabe kusungunuka? Kutsata zamaganizo sikuperekedwa mwadongosolo ndipo ndizochititsa manyazi.
Medically Assisted Procreation (ART) ndi ulendo wautali komanso wovuta, kwa amayi ndi abambo.. Chifukwa chake kuwonjezera chiyembekezo ndi kusatsimikizika kumakhala kowawa kwambiri. Zingathenso kuyambitsa mikangano m’banjamo. Kwa ife, ndi mwamuna wanga amene sangathe kubereka mwachibadwa ndipo amadziimba mlandu pa zonse zomwe ndiyenera kupirira kuchipatala.
Kusamutsa mluza wachiwiri wowumitsidwa sikunathandizenso.
Sititaya mtima. Tipitiliza, nthawi zonse ndimafuna banja lalikulu. Ndinkaganiza kuti ndidzakhala ndi ana ena awiri kusiyapo mwana wathu wamkazi wamkulu, koma vuto la mwana wachiwiriyu linandipweteka kwambiri moti sindinkafunanso kuchita zambiri pambuyo pa sekondi imeneyi. Ndimadutsa zala zanga mobisa kuti ndibereke mapasa ndipo takonzekera zomwe zidzachitike. Zotsatirazi ? Tili ndi mayeso, tipitiliza. Ngati kusamutsa kwina kudzagwira ntchito ndipo tili ndi miluza yoyimitsidwa yomwe yatsala, tidzapereka kwa sayansi. Kuziwononga kungaswe mitima yathu, koma sitifuna kuzipereka kwa ena. Miluza imeneyi ndi gawo la tonsefe ndipo ndinatengedwa ndekha, ndikudziwa kuti kudzifufuza nokha ndi kumene timachokera ndizovuta kwambiri, ndipo sindikufuna kudzawona mwana akuliza belu pakhomo pathu tsiku limodzi. kudziwa.
“Ndimaona kuti ndiyenera kuyesetsa chilichonse kuti ndiwathandize kukhala ndi moyo! “
Lucy, Zaka 32, mayi wa Liam, wazaka 10.
Mwana wanga wamwamuna Liam anabadwa kuchokera ku mgwirizano woyamba. Nditakumana ndi mnzanga watsopano, Gabin, tinaganiza zokhala ndi mwana. Koma sizinagwire ntchito mwachibadwa ndipo tinapeza chithandizo chamankhwala chothandizira kubereka (ART), makamaka, in vitro fertilization (IVF). Kuyesa koyamba kunali kovutirapo chifukwa ndidalimbikitsa kwambiri. Choyamba, ndinafunika kudzibaya jekeseni wa mahomoni osonkhezera dzira langa. Ndipo mofulumira kwambiri, ndinatupa kwambiri m’munsi pamimba. Mazira anga anali odzaza ndipo ndinali ndi vuto kukhala. Madokotala ankaganiza kuti amachepetsa panthawi ya thumba la ovarian lomwe limaphatikizapo kuchotsa ma oocyte. Koma kwenikweni ayi! Ndinayenera kupita kuchipinda changozi tsiku lotsatira chibayo chifukwa mimba yanga inali itakula kuwirikiza kawiri. Ndinali nditapuma mokwanira, ndinayenera kugona pansi momwe ndingathere, kuvala masitonkeni oponderezedwa ndipo ndinalumidwa ndi phlebitis. Zinatenga masiku angapo, nthawi yoti madzi atuluke ndipo ululuwo ukuchepa. Sindinkafuna kunena kuti ndikumva ululu kuti ndisamutsire mluza wanga patatha masiku angapo.
Chikhumbo cha mwana chinali champhamvu kuposa kuvutika!
Koma titadikira kwa masiku khumi, tinamva kuti sizinathandize. Zinali zovuta kuti nditenge chifukwa ndinali ndi chidaliro kwambiri ndipo ndimaganiza kuti zigwira ntchito poyesa koyamba. Mnzangayo anali wodzisunga kwambiri. Tinapereka mgwirizano wathu kuti tiyimitse, momveka bwino vitify mazira ena. Koma kusamutsidwa kwatsopano sikunagwirenso ntchito. Pazonse, ndidachita IVF inayi ndi masamu khumi ndi asanu, chifukwa pakhoza kukhala angapo kusamutsidwa ndi IVF, bola ngati pali ukala mazira. Pazonse, ndinangotengera mluza watsopano. Ndiye anali mwachindunji mazira anga owumitsidwa. Chifukwa thupi langa limakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi chithandizocho, ndimakhalabe ndi hyperstimulated, kotero zinali zoopsa ndipo ndimayenera kupuma pakati pa puncture ndi kusamutsa. Concretely, timaitanidwa ndi chipatala dzulo kuti atipatse nthawi ya kusamutsa ndipo, mwatsoka, zikhoza kuchitika kuti panthawi ya thawing mwana wosabadwayo amafa, koma izi sizinachitikepo kwa ife. Mwamwayi. Ndi madokotala omwe amasankha mazira omwe angasamutse, kuchokera ku abwino kwambiri mpaka otsika kwambiri. Kwa ine, zilibe kanthu ngati mluza wazizira, ndi udzu!
Lero ndili ndi miluza itatu yoyimitsidwa.
Yomaliza yomwe tidayesa mu Januware 2021 sinagwire ntchito. Koma tipitiriza! Ndikatenga mimba, sitinaganizirepo zoti titani ndi miluza ina. Ndizovuta kupanga nokha! Ndikadavutika kuzipereka kwa wina wodziwa zovuta zomwe tidakumana nazo kuti tikhale nazo. Chifukwa chake ndikuganiza kuti tidzipatulira nthawi yoganizira izi kuti tidziwe ngati titha kuyesa kusamutsa kwatsopano ndi mazira omwe tawasiya. Sindingayerekeze kuwagwiritsa ntchito. Ndiyenera kuyesetsa kuchita chilichonse kuti ndiwathandize kukhala ndi moyo!