Zamkatimu
“Bambo ake anamufotokozera kuti sindinkatenga malo a mayi ake.”
Marie charlotte
Amayi opeza a Manaëlle (wazaka 9 ndi theka) ndi amayi a Martin (miyezi 17).
“Chiyambireni kuno Martin, takhaladi banja. Zili ngati wabwera kudzawotchera aliyense, Manaëlle, mpongozi wanga, mwamuna wanga ndi ine. Chiyambireni ubwenzi wathu ndi mwamuna wanga, pamene ndinali ndi zaka 23, nthaŵi zonse ndakhala ndikufuna kuti mwana wake wamkazi akhale m’moyo wathu. Anali ndi zaka 2 ndi theka pamene ndinakumana ndi abambo ake. Kuyambira pomwe tidayamba kukambirana, adamutchula akundiuza kuti: "Ngati mukufuna, mudzanditenga ndi mwana wanga wamkazi". Ndinaona kuti ndizoseketsa kunena kale za "ife" titangokumana kumene. Tinaonana mwachangu kwambiri ndipo ndinayamba kumukonda. Koma ndinadikira miyezi isanu ndisanakumane ndi mwana wake wamkazi. Mwina chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti zingatikhudze kwambiri. Poyamba, zonse zinkangochitika pakati pa iye ndi ine.
Inali nthawi yovuta kwambiri
Ali ndi zaka 4-5, amayi ake ankafuna kusamukira kumwera potenga Manaëlle. Bambo ake anatsutsa zimenezi, ndipo anamupempha kuti agwire ntchito ina yolera ana. Koma amayi ake a Manaëlle anasankha kuchoka ndipo udindo wolera anapatsidwa kwa bambo ake. Inali nthawi yovuta kwambiri. Manaëlle anadzimva kuti wasiyidwa, sanadziwenso momwe angadzikhazikitsire kwa ine. Ankachita nsanje ndikamapita kwa bambo ake. Sanandilolenso kuti ndizimusamalira: Ndinalibenso ufulu womumeta tsitsi kapena kumuveka. Ndikamutenthetsa mkaka, amakana kumwa. Tonse tinali achisoni ndi mkhalidwe umenewu. Anali namwino wa zamaganizo yemwe anatithandiza kupeza mawu. Bambo ake adadziyika yekha, adamufotokozera kuti ayenera kundivomereza, kuti zikhale zosavuta kwa aliyense, komanso kuti sindidzatenga malo a amayi ake. Kumeneko, ndinapeza kamtsikana kamene kanali kosangalala ndiponso kokoma mtima kamene ndinkadziŵa. N’zoona kuti nthawi zina amandichititsa misala ndipo ndimakwiya msanga, koma n’chimodzimodzinso ndi mwana wanga, choncho sindimadziimba mlandu kwambiri kuposa poyamba! M’mbuyomu, ndinkaopa kumuchitira nkhanza ngati apongozi anga omwe anali! Anataya zidole zanga ine kulibe, anandipatsa zovala zanga… Apongozi anga anali kundipangitsa kudziona kukhala wosiyana ndi ana amene anali ndi atate anga. Nthawi zonse ndimaona azichimwene anga aang'ono omwe amayi anali nawo ndi mwamuna wawo watsopano ngati azichimwene anga. Ndili ndi zaka 18, mng’ono wanga wina amene anali kumbali ya mayi anga anadwala. Anali ndi zaka 5. Tsiku lina madzulo, tinachita kutsanzikana naye, poganiza kuti sitidzamuonanso ali ndi moyo. Mawa lake ndinali kukagula zinthu ndi azakhali anga ndipo wina anandifunsa za iwo. Pambuyo pokambirana, munthuyo anandiuza kuti: "Kwa iwe, zilibe kanthu, ndi mchimwene wako wa theka basi". Mawu oyipa awa amandipangitsa ine nthawi zonse kudana ndi mawu akuti "theka". Manaëlle ali ngati mwana wanga wamkazi. Ngati china chake chingamuchitikire, sitikhala “wachisoni” kapena ngati wachita zabwino, sitidzakhala “onyada”. Sindikufuna kuti ndipange kusiyana pakati pa iye ndi mchimwene wake. Ngati wina akhudza aliyense wa iwo, ndikhoza kuluma. ”
"Kusamalira Kenzo kwandithandiza kukula."
Elise
Apongozi a Kenzo (zaka 10 ndi theka) ndi amayi a Hugo (zaka 3).
"Pamene ndinakumana ndi mwamuna wanga, ndinali ndi zaka 22 ndipo iye anali ndi zaka 24. Ndinkadziwa kuti anali kale bambo, adalemba pa mbiri yake yachibwenzi! Anali ndi ufulu womusamalira chifukwa amayi a mwana wake anali atayambiranso maphunziro pa mtunda wa makilomita 150. Tinayamba chibwenzi ndipo ndinadziwa mwamsanga mwana wake wamng'ono, 4 ndi theka, Kenzo. Nthawi yomweyo idakhazikika pakati pa iye ndi ine. Anali mwana wosavuta, wokhoza kusinthika wachitsanzo chabwino! Ndiyeno bambowo anachita ngozi yomwe inawalepheretsa kuyenda panjinga ya olumala kwa milungu ingapo. Ndinachoka kunyumba kwa makolo anga kukakhala nawo. Ndinkasamalira Kenzo kuyambira m’mawa mpaka usiku chifukwa cha ntchito zimene mwamuna wanga sakanatha kuzikwaniritsa: kumukonzekeretsa kupita kusukulu, kutsagana naye kumeneko, kumuthandiza ndi chimbudzi chake, kumutengera ku paki … kuyandikira limodzi. Kenzo anafunsa mafunso ambiri, ankafuna kudziwa zomwe ndikuchita kumeneko, ngati ndikhala. Anandiuzanso kuti: “Ngakhale atate salinso olumala, kodi ungapitirize kundisamalira?” Zinamudetsa nkhawa kwambiri!
Monga mlongo wamkulu
Mwamwayi, abambo ake analipo kwambiri, ndimatha kumusamalira ngati mlongo wamkulu, abambo ake adasunga gawo la "maphunziro". Tinaganiza zokwatirana patapita chaka ndi theka ndipo tinaphatikizapo Kenzo m’zokonzekera zonse. Ndinkadziwa kuti ndikwatira awiriwa, tinali banja lathunthu. Koma panthawiyo, Kenzo atalowa ku CP, amayi adanena kuti ali ndi ufulu wonse. Chigamulo chitatha, tinali ndi milungu itatu yokha yokonzekera. Tinakhala limodzi chaka ndi theka ndipo kupatukana kunali kovuta. Tinaganiza zokhala ndi mwana atangokwatirana kumene, ndipo Kenzo anazindikira mwamsanga kuti ndinali ndi pakati. Ndinkadwala nthawi zonse ndipo amandidera nkhawa! Iye ndi amene anafalitsa nkhani pa Khirisimasi kwa agogo. Ndi kubadwa kwa mchimwene wake, sindikanatha kuchita naye zambiri, ndipo nthawi zina ankandinyoza. Koma zinamufikitsa pafupi ndi abambo ake, ndipo ndi zabwinonso.
Anali mwamuna wanga amene anandithandiza kupeza malo anga pakati pawo
Kenzo amasamalira mng'ono wake kwambiri. Ndiwogwirizana kwambiri! Anapempha chithunzi chake kuti chimutengere kunyumba kwa amayi ake… Timangomutenga patchuthi komanso kumapeto kwa sabata iliyonse, komwe timayesa kuchita zinthu zambiri zabwino. Ndi kubadwa kwa mwana wanga Hugo, ndazindikira kuti ndasintha. Ndimazindikira kuti ndimawononga zinthu zambiri kwa mwana wanga. Ndikudziwa kuti ndimakonda kwambiri Kenzo, ndipo mwamuna wanga nthawi zina amandiimba mlandu. Pamene anali yekha, tinkakhala pa iye nthawi zonse, sitinacheze naye nthawi yochuluka: iye anali woyamba, tinkafuna kuti zonse zikhale zangwiro ndipo nthawi zonse pamakhala zovuta zomwe amayi ake a Kenzo ankatiimba mlandu pa chinachake ... , zomwe sizinatiletse kupanga ubale wapamtima kwambiri, Kenzo ndi ine. Tonse timaseka kwambiri. Komabe, ndikudziwa kuti sindikanatha kuchita zonsezi popanda mwamuna wanga. Ndi iye amene adanditsogolera, nandithandiza. Chifukwa cha iye, ndinatha kupeza malo anga pakati pawo ndipo koposa zonse, sindinkaopa kukhala mayi. Ndipotu kusamalira Kenzo kwandithandiza kukula. ”
“Kukhala apongozi kwasintha kwambiri moyo wanga.
Amélie
Apongozi a Adélia (wazaka 11) ndi Maëlys (wazaka 9), ndi amayi a Diane (wazaka 2).
"Ndinakumana ndi Laurent madzulo, ndi anzanga apamtima, ndinali ndi zaka 32. Anali bambo wa ana awiri, Adélia ndi Maëlys, wazaka 5 ndi 3. Sindinaganizepo kuti tsiku lina ndidzakhala “apongozi”. Kunali kusintha kwenikweni m’moyo wanga. Tonse ndife ochokera kwa makolo osudzulana komanso mabanja osakanikirana. Tikudziwa kuti sikophweka kuti mwanayo ayang'ane ndi kupatukana, ndiye ndi kukonzanso kwa banja. Tinkafuna kupeza nthawi yodziwana bwino ana asanakhale mbali ya moyo wathu. N’zodabwitsa, chifukwa ndikamawerenga masamu, ndinazindikira kuti tinadikirira pafupifupi miyezi isanu ndi inayi kuti tifikire msonkhano wapadera umenewu. Tsiku lomwelo, ndinali ndi nkhawa. Kuposa kuyankhulana ntchito! Ndinali nditavala siketi yanga yabwino kwambiri, ndikukonza mbale zokongola zokhala ndi chakudya chofanana ndi nyama. Ndili ndi mwayi kwambiri, chifukwa kuyambira pachiyambi, ana aakazi a Laurent anali okondana kwambiri ndi ine. Poyamba, Adelia zinkandivuta kudziwa kuti ndine ndani. Pamapeto a mlungu wina tili ndi makolo a Laurent, ananena mokweza patebulo kuti: “Kodi ndingakuyitaneni amayi?” Ndinamva chisoni, chifukwa aliyense anali kutiyang'ana ndipo ine ndinali kuganizira za amayi ake… Sizophweka kuwongolera!
Pali kuseka ndi masewera enanso
Patapita zaka zingapo, ine ndi Laurent tinagwirizana kuti tikhale ndi mwana. Pambuyo pa miyezi inayi, "mini-us" anali m'njira. Ndinkafuna kuti atsikanawo akhale oyamba kudziwa. Apanso, inabwerezanso nkhani yanga yaumwini. Bambo anga adandiuza za kukhalapo kwa mlongo wanga… miyezi itatu chibadwire! Pa nthawiyo n’kuti akukhala ku Brazil ndi mkazi wake watsopano. Ndinaona kuti chilengezochi chinali choyipa, chosakhulupirika, chosokoneza moyo wake. Ndinkafuna zosiyana ndi za Adélia ndi Maëlys. Pamene mwana wathu wamkazi, Diane, anabadwa, ndinadzimva ngati kuti tinalidi banja. Nthawi yomweyo atsikanawo anatengera mlongo wawo wamng’ono. Kuyambira kubadwa kwake, amatsutsana kuti amupatse botolo kapena kusintha thewera. Chiyambireni kukhala mayi, ndazindikira kuti nthaŵi zina ndikhoza kukhala wosalolera pa nkhani za maphunziro ndi mfundo za makhalidwe abwino. Tsopano popeza ndili ndi mwana wanga, ndili ndi chidwi ndi maphunziro osamala, ndaphunzira zambiri za ubongo wa ana, ndipo ndikuyesera kukhala wozizirirapo ... ngakhale nditabuula! Nthaŵi zambiri, ndimalola Laurent kupanga zosankha za anyamata aakulu. Ndikufika kwa Diane, moyo wathu umakhala wopanda schizophrenic kuposa momwe tinkakhalira opanda ana nthawi zambiri komanso kumapeto kwa sabata. Pali kuseka kochulukira komanso masewera ambiri kuposa kale, kukumbatirana ndi kupsompsona. Chilichonse chikhoza kusintha muunyamata, koma ndi ana, chirichonse chimasintha nthawi zonse ... ndipo nzabwino! ” ndi
Mafunso ndi Estelle Cintas