Zamkatimu
Ubwino wokhala chete: chifukwa chiyani kumvera kuli bwino kuposa kuyankhula
Poganizira
Ngakhale kuti zimene zimanenedwa kuti “chithunzi n’chokwanira mawu chikwi” sizikhala zoona nthawi zonse, nthawi zina zimakhala choncho. Zomwezo zimachitika ndikukhala chete: nthawi zambiri tanthauzo limakhazikika mu izi kuposa chilichonse chomwe munthu anganene. Ndiponso, ndiko kumvetsera, chinachake monga kugwira “chete wamkati” kumvetsera ena, kofunika kwambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake Alberto Álvarez Calero, wotsogolera, wopeka nyimbo, ndi pulofesa ku yunivesite ya Seville, adalemba. “Kufunika kwa kumvetsera ndi kukhala chete” (Amat editorial), buku limene ali ndi cholinga chokhacho, m’mawu akeake, “kuthandizira kuyamikira kumvetsera ndi kukhala chete monga zochitika zofunika kwambiri.”
Poyamba, wolemba amalankhula za momwe kuyankhula ndi kumvetsera kumagwirira ntchito limodzi, koma ku Western anthu «Kulankhula kumatsindika kwambiri kuposa kumvetsera molondola», Ndipo akuchenjeza kuti zikuwoneka kuti,« pokhala chete, mauthenga amafikira chidani chathu ». Palibe chomwe chili chosiyana ndi chenicheni. Iye akusonyeza kuti tikukhala m’chitsanzo cha chitaganya chimene munthu wolankhula kwambiri amakhala wokhoza kuchita bwino koposa munthu wosungika, koma sikuyenera kukhala ukoma wabwino kukhala ndi mphatso zoyankhulirana zolankhulidwa, popeza kuti kumvetsera n’kofunika, choncho kotero kuti, pogwira mawu a Daniel Goleman ndi buku lake «Social Intelligence», amatsimikizira kuti «luso lodziwa kumvetsera ndi limodzi mwa luso lalikulu la anthu omwe ali ndi digiri yapamwamba ya nzeru zamaganizo».
Malangizo ophunzirira kumvetsera
Tinganene kuti tonse timadziwa kumva, koma osamvera. Alberto Álvarez Calero amasiya malangizo ena kuti adziwe zomwe amatiuza, komanso kuti athe kuzimvera:
- Pewani zododometsa zilizonse (phokoso, zosokoneza ...) zomwe zimatilepheretsa kulabadira zofunikira.
- Ikani malingaliro athu kwakanthawi kuti athe kumvetsera kwa winayo moona mtima.
- Pamene tikumvetsera, tiyenera yesetsani kuika pambali malingaliro athu tsankho lopanda nzeru komanso lachizoloŵezi, ponse pozindikira kapena ayi.
Ikufotokozanso momwe tiyenera educarnos kuti athe kumvetsera, makamaka m’madera monga masiku ano mmene phokoso, kawirikawiri (kusokosera konse kwa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, mapulogalamu, mafoni a m’manja ndi mauthenga) sikungotilola kumvetsera bwino, komanso kukhala chete. Wolembayo akunena kuti, kuti aphunzire kumvetsera, ndikofunikira kudutsa njira zitatu: gawo lomvetsera lisanayambe, lomwe kuyambira zaka zoyambirira izi ziyenera kulimbikitsidwa; gawo lomvetsera, momwe luso lathu limawululira; ndi gawo lakumapeto lomwe ndikofunika kudziyesa tokha zovuta zomwe takumana nazo pomvetsera. Zonsezi zimafuna khama, ndithudi; “Kumvera munthu wina kumatenga nthawi. Kumvetsetsa kumachedwa, chifukwa sikumangokakamiza kumvetsetsa mawu, komanso kumasulira zizindikiro zomwe zimatsagana ndi manja, "akufotokoza m'masamba a bukhulo.
Tanthauzo la kukhala chete
"Kukhala chete kumatha kutenga nawo mbali mwachangu komanso momveka bwino (...) kukhala chete, ndizochitika zenizeni. Zimachitika pamene ziyenera kukumbukiridwa, komabe ziyenera kuiwala; kapena pakufunika kuyankhula kapena kutsutsa ndipo munthuyo amakhala chete ", wolemba akuyambitsa gawo lachiwiri la bukhu. Imatsindika ganizo lakutiKukhala chete sikungokhala chabe, koma chisonyezero chachangu cha ntchito yake ndi kulankhula za mmene, monga mawu nthawi zambiri salowerera ndale, komanso kukhala chete.
Iye akutchula mitundu itatu: kukhala chete mwadala, kumene kumapezeka pamene kusiya mawu kuli ndi cholinga kapena kumverera kwapadera; kukhala chete womvera, wopangidwa pamene wolandirayo akumvetsera mosamala kwa wotumiza; ndi kukhala chete wamba, zomwe sizikufunidwa, ndipo zilibe cholinga.
«Anthu ambiri amagwirizanitsa kukhala chete ndi kukhala chete, koma ngati kusachitapo nthawi zina. Amamvetsetsa kukhala chete ngati mpata womwe uyenera kudzazidwa (…) kuchita naye kungakhale chinthu chosasangalatsa», Anatero Alberto Álvarez Calero. Koma, ngakhale kuti kukhala chete kumatifoola m’njira imeneyi, iye akutitsimikizira kuti limeneli ndilo “mankhwala obalalika a maganizo amene moyo wamakono umatitsogolera.” Imalankhulanso za chete mkati, zomwe nthawi zambiri chifukwa cha zoyambitsa zonse zakunja zomwe tili nazo, sitingathe kulima. "Kukhala ndi data yochulukirapo kumapangitsa kuti malingaliro azikhala odzaza, choncho, chete mkati mulibe", ndithudi.
Phunzitsani mwakachetechete
Monga momwe mlembi akufotokozera kuti kumvetsera kuyenera kuphunzitsidwa, amalingaliranso chimodzimodzi pakukhala chete. Akunena mwachindunji za makalasi, kumene amaona kuti kukhala chete “kuyenera kukhala kogwirizana ndi nyengo yogwirizana imene ili mmenemo, osati chifukwa chakuti monga lamulo n’kofunika kukhala chete mwa kumvera” ndipo akuwonjezera kuti “ zotheka kwambiri lingaliro lakukhala chete kuposa la kulanga ».
Ndi zomveka ndiye, onse awiri kufunikira kwa kukhala chete komanso kumvetsera. "Pomvetsera, nthawi zina munthu akhoza kukhala wamphamvu kuposa kuyesa kutsimikizira omvera ndi mawu (...) kukhala chete kungapereke mtendere wamaganizo pamaso pa dziko lobalalika", akumaliza motero wolembayo.
Za Wolemba…
Chithunzi cha Alberto Alvarez Calero iye ndi kondakita ndi wopeka. Anamaliza Maphunziro a Kwaya Kuchokera ku Manuel Castillo Superior Conservatory of Music ku Seville, alinso ndi digiri ya Geography and History, doctorate kuchokera ku yunivesite ya Seville komanso pulofesa wathunthu mu Dipatimenti Yophunzitsa Zaluso ya yunivesite iyi. Wasindikiza nkhani zambiri m'magazini asayansi ndi mabuku angapo okhudza nyimbo ndi maphunziro. Kwa zaka zambiri wakhala akupanga, m'magawo a maphunziro ndi zojambulajambula, ntchito yofunikira yokhudzana ndi kukhala chete ndi kumvetsera.