Psychology

Tikamakalamba, timazindikira kuti zambiri zimene tinkakhulupirira m’mbuyomu si zoona. Munthu woipa amene timafuna kumukonza sadzasintha. Mnzake yemwe kale anali wapamtima, yemwe adalumbira naye ubwenzi wamuyaya, wakhala mlendo. Moyo suli ngati mmene tinkaganizira. Kodi mungapirire bwanji kusintha kwadzidzidzi kwa moyo?

Ndi kuyandikira kwa zaka makumi atatu, tikulowa m'nthawi ya moyo watsopano: kuunikanso kwa makhalidwe kumayamba, kuzindikira zaka zenizeni. Anthu ena amaona kuti akukhala molakwika nthawi zonse. Malingaliro otere ndi okhazikika osati chifukwa chotaya mtima.

Chiphunzitso cha zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zozungulira

M'zaka zapitazi, akatswiri a zamaganizo anachita kafukufuku, adasanthula mavuto a mibadwo, poyerekeza ndi zochitika za anthu a msinkhu womwewo. Chotsatira chake chinali chiphunzitso cha zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zozungulira.

Pa moyo wathu, aliyense wa ife amadutsa m'mizere yambiri yotere: kuyambira kubadwa mpaka zaka 7, kuyambira 7 mpaka 14, kuyambira 14 mpaka 21, ndi zina zotero. Munthu amayang’ana m’mbuyo zaka zapitazo n’kuzipenda. Kuzungulira koyambirira kozindikira kwambiri - kuyambira zaka 21 mpaka 28 - kumayenda bwino mpaka mtsogolo - kuyambira zaka 28 mpaka 35.

Munthawi izi, munthu ali ndi lingaliro la banja lauXNUMX ndi chikhumbo cholimanga, kufuna kudzizindikira yekha pantchitoyo ndikudziwonetsa ngati munthu wochita bwino.

Iye ndi wokhazikika pakati pa anthu, amavomereza dongosolo lake ndipo amagawana zikhulupiriro zomwe zimalamulira.

Ngati kuzungulirako kukuyenda bwino, vutolo lidzatha ndipo munthuyo alibe chodetsa nkhawa. Koma ngati kuli kowawa, kusakhutira ndi wekha, chilengedwe ndi moyo wonse umakula. Mutha kusintha malingaliro anu adziko lapansi. Ndipo nthawi yapakati pazigawo ziwiri zozindikira ndi mwayi wabwino pa izi.

Kodi mungapulumuke bwanji pamavuto?

Mukhoza, ndithudi, kuyesetsa kuti mukhale angwiro, koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zachinyengo komanso zosamveka. Ndi bwino kutembenukira kwa inu nokha, malingaliro anu ndikudzifunsa mafunso pamlingo wa "kukhala, chitani ndi kukhala":

  • Kodi zolinga zanga m’moyo ndi zotani?

  • Ndikufuna chiyani kwenikweni?

  • Ndikufuna kukhala ndani chaka? Ndipo m'zaka 10?

  • Ndikufuna kukhala kuti?

Ngati munthu sangathe kuyankha mafunso amenewa, ndiye kuti pakufunika kudziwa ndi kudzivomereza yekha, kutembenukira ku zilakolako zake ndikuchoka ku zikhulupiriro za anthu ena. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwapadera kudzathandiza pa izi.

Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi

Lowani pamalo omasuka ndikuyesera kumasuka. Muyenera kuyankha mafunso otsatirawa polemba:

  1. Mukukhulupirira chiyani tsopano?

  2. Kodi makolo anu ndi anthu ena ofunika kuyambira muubwana wanu ankakhulupirira chiyani?

  3. Kodi mwayesapo kusintha moyo wanu?

  4. Kodi mukuona kuti n’zotheka kukwaniritsa zokhumba zanu mutakula?

  5. Kodi mumayenerera bwanji zomwe mukufuna?

Poyankha, mverani thupi lanu - ndicho chidziwitso chachikulu: ngati cholinga kapena chikhumbo chanu sichidziwika kwa inu, thupi limapereka zingwe ndikumva kusapeza bwino.

chifukwa

Mukamaliza kuchita masewerawa, mudzalandira zikhulupiriro zomwe munatengera kwa okondedwa anu, ndipo mudzatha kuzilekanitsa ndi zanu. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, zindikirani zolephera za mkati mwa moyo wanu.

Muyenera kugwira nawo ntchito ndikusintha malingaliro abwino: "Ndingathe. Chachikulu ndichakuti musazengereze ndikusunthira njira yomwe mwapatsidwa. Nanga mawa nditani? Ndipo mu sabata?

Pangani ndondomeko papepala ndikuyitsatira. Chongani chomaliza chilichonse ndikuwonjezera molimba mtima. Izi zidzakuthandizani kupita patsogolo. Kukambitsirana kwachinsinsi ndi "Ine" yanu kukulolani kuti mupite ulendo wamkati wa zilakolako zamkati. Kwa ena, izi ndi zatsopano komanso zachilendo, pamene ena amawopa kuvomereza zolinga zawo zenizeni. Koma zimagwira ntchito.

Aliyense akhoza kupeza zatsopano mwa iye yekha kudzera m'malingaliro amkati, kusanthula zilakolako ndi kugawa kwawo kukhala kwawo ndi ena. Ndiye pamabwera kumvetsetsa kuti aliyense amalenga moyo wake.

Siyani Mumakonda