Wachinyamata sakufuna kukula: chifukwa chiyani komanso chochita?

Zowonadi, azaka za 17 ankakonda kupita kutsogolo, kuyang'anira zokambirana, kukwaniritsa miyezo ya Stakhanov, koma tsopano sangathe kung'amba matako awo pa laputopu. Ana amasiku ano (tiyeni tisunge: si onse, ndithudi), momwe angathere, akuyesera kuchedwetsa kukula, ndiko kuti, luso lokonzekera moyo, kukhala ndi udindo pazochita, kudalira mphamvu zawo. "Kodi ndizoyenera kwa iwo?" - tinafunsa katswiri.

“Vuto lilipodi,” akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Anna Golota. - Kutalikitsa kwa unyamata kunkagwirizana ndi kusintha kwa chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso kuwonjezeka kwa moyo. Poyamba, “kukula” kunali kosapeŵeka ndi kukakamizika: ngati simusuntha, mudzafa ndi njala m’lingaliro lenileni kapena lophiphiritsa la liwulo. Masiku ano, zofunika kwambiri za mwanayo zimakwaniritsidwa, choncho sayenera kupita ku fakitale kukagwira ntchito pambuyo pa giredi 7 kuti akadzidyetse. Kodi makolo ayenera kuchita chiyani?

Kodi mwawona kuti mwanayo ali ndi chidwi ndi chinachake? Thandizani chikhumbo chake, kugawana chisangalalo cha ndondomekoyi, kulimbikitsani ndi kuvomereza zotsatira zake, thandizo, ngati kuli kofunikira (osati m'malo mwake, koma ndi iye). Maluso oyamba kuphatikiza zochita ziwiri mu unyolo ndikukwaniritsa zotsatira amaphunzitsidwa ali ndi zaka 2 mpaka 4. Mwana angapeze chokumana nacho chofunika kokha mwa kuchita chinachake ndi manja ake. Choncho, ana omwe amakulira m'nyumba zomwe sizingatheke, koma mukhoza kuyang'ana zojambula ndikugwira piritsi, lusoli silikula, ndipo m'tsogolomu izi zimasamutsidwa kukaphunzira (pamaganizo). Ana omwe amakulira m'mudzi kapena m'nyumba zapadera, omwe amaloledwa kuthamanga kwambiri, kukwera mitengo, kudumphira m'madzi, zomera zamadzi adakali aang'ono, amapeza luso lapamwamba la ntchito. Adzayalanso mbale m’khichini mofunitsitsa, kusesa pansi, ndi kuchita homuweki.

• Ngati mwana wanu wamkazi atayandikira mayesowo ndi funso lakuti “Amayi, ndingayesere?” Zimitsani mafuta otentha, umbani chitumbuwa pamodzi, mwachangu ndi kuchitira bambo. Ndipo musaiwale kuyamika!

Ngati mayi nthawi zonse amakhala wotopa, wonjenjemera, wosasangalala, amagwira ntchito zapakhomo ndikubuula, “Wotopa inu nonse,” amapita kukagwira ntchito ngati ntchito yolemetsa ndipo amangodandaula kunyumba kuti chilichonse chili choyipa, sipangakhale nkhani. kuleredwa kulikonse kwa ufulu. Mwanayo m'njira zonse angathe kupewa "wamkulu" wotero, ingotsanzirani khalidwe lanu. Mtundu wina ndi wakuti “Aliyense ali ndi ngongole kwa ine”. Kholo mwiniwake amazolowera kusangalala ndi kungokhala chete, samayamikira ntchito kapena amakakamizika kugwira ntchito, kuchitira nsanje omwe ali okhazikika bwino. Mwanayonso amatsanzira makhalidwe amenewa, ngakhale atakhala kuti sanawauze mokweza.

• Abambo, ayi, ayi, inde, adzauza mwanayo (mwachibwanawe, mozama): "Simudzakhala pulezidenti, uyenera kubadwa mwana wa pulezidenti." Kapena: "Kumbukira, mwana wanga, sankhani mkwatibwi wolemera, ndi chiwongolero, kuti usavutike kuntchito." Kodi mukuganiza kuti mawu awa angamulimbikitse?

Pazaka 50 zapitazi, anthu akhala akulolera kwambiri anthu amene makhalidwe awo ndi makhalidwe awo amasiyana ndi zimene anthu ambiri amavomereza. Zachikazi, zopanda ana, magulu a LGBT, ndi zina zambiri zawonekera. Chifukwa chake, kumasula anthu ambiri, kukana chiphunzitso cholanga, komanso kukhala ndi chifundo kwa anthu odalira, kumatsogolera, mwa zina, ku mfundo yakuti gawo la achinyamata limasankha moyo wotero. Pakali pano, sitingakakamize ana athu kufuna kukhala ndi moyo umene timachita.

• Mwana wamkaziyo amalota kuti adzagonjetsa anthu oyenda bwino padziko lonse lapansi, kuthera maola ambiri akuwerenga magazini onyezimira. Osadya mutu wake wadazi ndi maphunziro osatha! Mwinamwake, iye sali pafupi ndi chitsanzo cha mayi wodekha ndi wosamala wa banja.

Ndipo komabe, ngati mukufuna kubweretsa chikondi, kukoma mtima, ndi kudandaula mwa mwana wanu wamkazi, khalani chitsanzo cha makhalidwe abwino kuyambira lero. Ukwati wabwino ndi chinthu chomwe mungapatse mwana wanu ngati chiwongo. Ndiyeno iye mwini, monga momwe angathere ndi kufuna.

• Aliyense amene ana akufuna kukhala - wosewera masewera, wojambula mafashoni, kapena wodzipereka ku Africa - athandizire kusankha kwawo. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti zitsanzo zachikhalidwe sizimateteza ku zovuta. “Amuna enieni” amafa kaŵirikaŵiri kuposa ena chifukwa cha matenda a mtima ndi sitiroko, ndipo akazi odekha ndi osamala mosakayika amakhala mikhole ya wankhanza.

Kudziyimira pawokha m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, womwe tidakwanitsa kulera mwachinyamata, zidzawonekera mukakhala (moyenera) mulibe. Pamaso pa makolo, mwanayo adzakhala basi khalidwe lachibwana. Chifukwa chake, nthawi zambiri mumakhala kutali ndikukhala m'manja mukafuna kuyeretsa nsapato za "mwana wanu wokondedwa". Ndikofunika kuphunzira momwe mungagawire malire ndi ana omwe akukula kale.

• Mtsikanayo monyinyirika amaika zinthu m’chipindamo, moyenerera dzina la hule lochokera kwa makolo ake. Ndipo atayamba kukhala ndi mnyamata wosiyana ndi makolo ake, amatsuka mokondwera ndikuphika bwino. Bambo wamng’onoyo mofunitsitsa amathandiza kukumbatira khandalo, amapita kwa iye usiku, koma mwamsanga pamene amayi ake abwera kudzathandiza “kamwana,” iye amanyansidwa nthaŵi yomweyo ndi kupita ku TV. Kumveka bwino?

Posachedwapa, chiŵerengero cha ana omwe ali ndi ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) chawonjezeka. Ana otere amakhala osalongosoka, opupuluma, osakhazikika. Ndizovuta kwa iwo kukonzekera zomwe zikuchitika panopa, osasiya kulankhula za mapulani a moyo kapena kusankha ntchito. Kukhazikitsidwa kwa ntchito iliyonse yokhudzana ndi zomwe akwaniritsa kumayambitsa kupsinjika kwamalingaliro ndi kupsinjika maganizo mwa iwo. Adzapewa zinthu zovuta kuti adziteteze.

• Mwanayo, ataphunzira kwa zaka ziwiri, amasiya sukulu ya nyimbo chifukwa cha zomwe amayi ake adachita ndi awiriwa m'buku lake. Ku funso lakuti "Kodi simukonda gitala?" akuyankha kuti: "Ndimakonda, koma sindikufuna zonyansa."

Ana ambiri amakono ali ndi chiwopsezo cha makhalidwe odzifunira - amakhala opanda pake, amapita ndi kutuluka, amagwa mosavuta m'chisonkhezero cha makampani oipa, ndipo amakonda kufunafuna zosangalatsa zakale. Samapanga zolinga zapamwamba za ntchito, ulemu, udindo, khalidwe limayendetsedwa ndi malingaliro akanthawi ndi zikhumbo.

• Mu ntchito ndi moyo waumwini, munthu woteroyo ndi wosadalirika, ngakhale kuti alibe vuto. Mwachitsanzo - protagonist wa filimu "Afonya". "Uyenera kukwatiwa, Afanasy, kukwatiwa! - Chifukwa chiyani? Andithamangitsenso mnyumba? ” Mmene mungathandizire ana oterowo kupeza malo awo oyenerera m’moyo ndi vuto lalikulu. Wina amathandizidwa ndi masewera, wina ndi wamkulu wovomerezeka.