Zochita zachikhalidwe mu Gestalt therapy: "Kuyang'ana munthu, lankhulani malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu ndi momwe mumamvera." Nthawi yomweyo, aliyense amamvetsetsa kuti "Muyenera kukhala pafupi zaka makumi atatu" ndi malingaliro, "Ndimakopeka ndi inu" ndikumverera, ndipo "Manja anga akutuluka thukuta pang'ono" ndikumverera.
Zingawoneke kuti chirichonse chiri chophweka komanso chodziwikiratu, koma muzochita pali zolakwika zambiri, kusamvetsetsana ndi kusokonezeka chabe. Inde, ndipo kuchokera kumalingaliro amalingaliro, pali nthawi zovuta zambiri chifukwa chakuti kagwiritsidwe ntchito ka mawu kogwirika kwazaka zambiri kwakhala kosiyana kwambiri ndi miyezo yaukadaulo wamaphunziro.
kumverera
Zomverera ndizo, choyambirira, zoyambira zamtundu wa kinesthetic: chilichonse chomwe timalandila mwachindunji kuchokera kumagulu olumikizana ndi thupi ndikuwakhudza mwachindunji.
Kukhudza kapena kugwedezeka kwa minofu, kupweteka kapena kuzizira, kokoma kapena kowawa - zonsezi ndi zomveka, mosiyana ndi phokoso, zithunzi ndi zithunzi. Ndikuwona - zithunzi, ndikumva - phokoso, ndikumva (ndikumva) - zomverera↑.
"Kupumula kosangalatsa pachifuwa" kapena "kukangana kwa mapewa", "kumanga nsagwada" kapena "kumva manja ofunda" - izi ndi kinesthetic ndipo izi ndi zomverera zachindunji. Koma nkhani ya zimene mumaona ndi kumva si nkhani ya mmene mukumvera.
"Ndimaona kuwala ndi kumva zofewa" zambiri za zomverera, ndipo "Ndikuwona maso anu okongola ndi kumwetulira kwaubwenzi" sikulinso zomveka nthawi yomweyo. Izi ndizowona kale, zomverera zomwe zimakonzedwa ndi malingaliro, izi ndizowona zonse komanso zomveka za zomwe zikuchitika ndikuwonjezera malingaliro ena.
Kumene malingaliro amayambira, zomverera nthawi zambiri zimatha. Zomverera sizimasinthidwa, popanda kutanthauzira, mwachindunji kinesthetics.
Komabe, m'moyo zonse zimakhala zachindunji komanso zovuta kwambiri. Mawu akuti "Ndikumva ngati nsapato zanga zikufinyidwa" akadali okhudza zomverera. Ngakhale kuti "nsapato" ndi lingaliro lathunthu la chinthu, sikulinso kutengeka, koma malingaliro, koma mawuwa samangoyang'ana nsapato, koma chifukwa chakuti nsapato ndi "zolimba". Ndipo «atolankhani» ndi kumverera.
maganizo
Malingaliro ndi mitolo yosangalatsa ya chinthu chomwe chili ndi malingaliro omwe adabadwa nawo pokonza zomverera, malingaliro, kapena malingaliro ena aliwonse. Malingaliro omveka bwino komanso osadziwika bwino, ozama komanso ozama, osokonezeka komanso omveka bwino, akhoza kukhala malingaliro ndi mayanjano, mawu okhudzidwa kapena nkhani yokayikira, koma mutu nthawi zonse umagwira ntchito poganiza.
Ngati kumverera ndi kuzindikira kudzera m'thupi, ndiye kuti malingaliro ndi ophiphiritsa-wowoneka kapena malingaliro, malingaliro kudzera m'malingaliro (mutu).
"Ndikudziwa kuti ndife alendo" - kupyolera mumutu ndi chidziwitso ichi, lingaliro losalowerera ndale. "Ndimamva ngati ndife alendo" - ngati wadutsa mu moyo (ndiko kuti, kupyolera mu thupi), - uku kungakhale kumverera kotentha kapena kozizira.
Kukopa, chikhumbo chingakhale chidziwitso chandalama: "Ndikudziwa kuti pakudya ndidzakhala ndi njala ndipo ndidzayang'ana kwinakwake kuti ndidye." Ndipo zitha kukhala kumverera kwamoyo pamene chidwi pazizindikiro zonse chikuyang'ana «cafe» ndipo ndizovuta kusokonezedwa…
Choncho, maganizo ndi chirichonse chimene chimabwera kwa ife kupyolera mu malingaliro, kupyolera mumutu.
Maganizo
Mukafunsidwa za momwe mukumvera, sizokhudza zomwe zimatchedwa mphamvu zakunja, osati za maso anu, kumva ndi zina.
Mtsikana akauza mnyamata wake kuti: “Ulibe nazo chidwi!” Ndiye yankho lake nlakuti: “Bwanji? Ndili ndi zomverera. Ndikumva, masomphenya, zokhudzira zonse zili mu dongosolo! - kaya nthabwala kapena chipongwe. Funso la kumverera ndi funso la malingaliro amkati,
Zomverera zamkati ndizodziwika bwino pazochitika ndi zochitika za moyo wamunthu.
"Ndimakusilirani", "kumverera kwakusilira" kapena "kumverera kwa kuwala kochokera ku nkhope yanu yokongola" ndizokhudza malingaliro.
Zomverera ndi zomverera nthawi zambiri zimakhala zofanana, nthawi zambiri zimasokonezeka, koma ndizosavuta kuzisiyanitsa: zomverera ndizoyambira kinesthetics, ndipo kumverera ndi zomverera zomwe zakonzedwa kale ndi malingaliro, izi ndi masomphenya athunthu komanso omveka a zomwe zikuchitika.
«Ofunda kukumbatirana» si za 36 digiri Celsius, ndi za mbiri ya ubale wathu, monga kumverera «Ine omasuka naye» - amanena zambiri kuposa kumverera «kufinya nsapato»↑.
Zomverera nthawi zambiri zimasokonezedwa ndi kuwunika kwanzeru, koma mayendedwe a mtengo wa chidwi ndi momwe thupi limakhalira nthawi zonse zimakuuzani yankho lolondola. Pakuwunika mwaluntha pali mutu wokha, ndipo kumverera nthawi zonse kumatengera thupi.
Ngati munati «Ndakhutitsidwa» koma zidatuluka m'mutu mwanu, kunali kuwunika kwaluntha, osati kumverera. Ndipo wokhuta, wotuluka m'mimba mopanda mpweya, "Chabwino, ndiwe tizilombo!" - kumverera koonekeratu, chifukwa - kuchokera m'thupi. Onani zambiri →
Ngati muyang'ana mu moyo wanu ndikumva kumverera mwa inu nokha, ndiye kuti ndi zoona, muli ndi kumverera. Zomverera sizimanama. Komabe, kusamala ndikofunikira pano - simungakhale otsimikiza zomwe mumamva. Zomwe nthawi zina zimakumana ndi munthu monga kumverera kwinakwake sikungakhale komweko, kungakhale chinthu china. Panthawi imeneyi, maganizo nthawi zina amakhala ↑.
Kuti anthu asasokonezeke m'malingaliro, kuti anthu asalakwitse kumverera kwina kwa mnzake ndikuchepetsa kupanga malingaliro pomwe kulibe, kupanga malingaliro olakwika, akatswiri ambiri amalingaliro amapereka dikishonale yamalingaliro enieni ndi njira yowazindikirira.
Ndiye tingafotokoze bwanji mwachidule maganizo? Zomverera ndizophiphiritsira-kutanthauzira kwathupi kwa kinesthetics. Awa ndi ma kinesthetics opangidwa ndi mafanizo amoyo. Ichi ndi chamoyo chomwe chinabwera kwa ife kuchokera m'thupi lathu. Ndi chilankhulo chomwe mzimu wathu umalankhula.
Ndani amatanthauzira ndani?
Zomverera zimayambitsa malingaliro? Zomverera zimayambitsa malingaliro? Ndi njira ina mozungulira? - M'malo mwake, yankho lolondola lidzakhala kuti ubale wa zomverera, malingaliro ndi malingaliro zitha kukhala chilichonse.
- Zomverera - Zomverera - Malingaliro
Kumva dzino likundiwawa - kumverera kwa mantha - chisankho chopita kwa dokotala wa mano.
- Kumverera - Kuganiza - Kumverera
Ndinawona njoka (zomverera), zochokera ku zochitika zakale, ndinaganiza kuti zingakhale zoopsa (lingaliro), chifukwa chake, ndinachita mantha. Ndiko kuti, dongosolo losiyana.
- Kuganiza - Kumverera - Kumverera
Ndinakumbukira kuti Vasya adalonjeza kundipatsa ndalama, koma sanandipatse (lingaliro), adakhumudwa (kumverera), kuchokera ku mkwiyo adaba mpweya wake pachifuwa chake (kumverera) - dongosolo losiyana.
- Kuganiza - kumva - kumva
Ndimaganiza kuti manja anga anali ofunda (lingaliro) - ndinamva kutentha m'manja mwanga (kumverera) - kukhazikika (kumverera)
Mukufuna zochuluka motani?
Ngati tili ndi zomverera, pali malingaliro ndipo pali malingaliro, kodi ndizotheka kulankhula za kulumikizana kofunikira pakati pawo? Ndipotu, kwa anthu osiyanasiyana chiŵerengerochi n'chosiyana kwambiri, ndipo choyamba pali kusiyana pakati pa malingaliro kapena malingaliro.
Pali anthu omwe amakonda kumva komanso kudziwa momwe angamvere. Pali anthu omwe amakonda kusamva, koma kuganiza, kuzolowera komanso kutha kuganiza↑. Zimakhala zovuta kutembenukira kwa anthu otere kuti amve: akhoza kukuuzani za malingaliro awo pa pempho lanu, koma mutachoka kwa munthu uyu, adzabwerera ku moyo wokhazikika, kumene akuganiza, amapanga zosankha, amaika zolinga. ndipo amadzikonzekeretsa yekha kuti akwaniritse izi, popanda kusokonezedwa ndi zomwe sakuzifuna, ndi zomverera.
Amuna amatha kusankha chifukwa, akazi amatha kusankha momwe angamverere. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, zikuwoneka kuti ndizofunikira osati izi zokha kapena kugwirizana kwa malingaliro ndi malingaliro, koma funso la khalidwe la malingaliro ndi zomwe zili mukumverera.
Ngati munthu ali ndi malingaliro opanda kanthu, oipa ndi osagwirizana, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuti azikhala ndi malingaliro abwino komanso okongola. Ngati munthu ali ndi mutu wokongola, maganizo ozama komanso ofulumira, ndiye kuti palibenso chifukwa chomusokoneza ndi malingaliro ambiri.
Mwinamwake, umunthu wotukuka uyenera kukhala wokwanira mokwanira (monga malipiro amoyo) maluso onse atatuwa - luso lakumva, luso lakumva ndi kuganiza, ndiyeno aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosankha.
Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika kusukulu yabwino: imapereka maphunziro ovomerezeka, ndiyeno aliyense amasankha ukatswiri wawo, tsogolo lawo.
Munthu monga chamoyo nthawi zambiri amasankha kukhala ndi malingaliro, munthu monga munthu amakulitsa malingaliro ake. Onani →