Kuti musataye mtima! Momwe mungakwaniritsire cholinga chanu nthawi zonse

Nthawi ndi nthawi timayika zoyenera ndi zofunika ntchito, ndiyeno "kudumpha". Mwachitsanzo, nkhani yodziwika kwa ambiri ndikugula umembala wolimbitsa thupi. Ndikufuna kubwereranso mu mawonekedwe ndi kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndife ouziridwa ndi okonzeka kuchita. Mlungu woyamba timapita kumeneko tsiku lililonse, kuyambira Lolemba mpaka Lachisanu, ngakhalenso Loweruka ndi Lamlungu.

Sabata yotsatira, timakhala osakhazikika chifukwa cha mkangano kuntchito kapena tsiku lomaliza, ndipo timadumpha tsikulo. Pambuyo pa sabata lina, timamvetsera momwe tikumvera ndikumvetsetsa kuti tatopa komanso sitinakonzekere kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku lililonse. Ndipo masabata anayi pambuyo pake, sitidzawonekera nkomwe.

Kwa ena, iyi ndi nkhani yokhudzana ndi zakudya zatsopano, kwa ena, maubwenzi amakula motere ndi maudindo ena, monga kudzipereka. Katswiri wazachipatala Robert Taibbi akuti sizoyipa zonse. Kapena kani, bwino ndi mwamtheradi solvable. Mmodzi ayenera kumvetsetsa mavuto, ena omwe amawonekera kumayambiriro kwa ulendo, ndipo ena akuyenda.

Amapereka njira yokhazikika ndikulemba zopinga kuti akwaniritse cholingacho, komanso amaperekanso "zoletsa".

1. Zoyembekeza zosayenerera

Tikayang’ana m’mbuyo, timazindikira kuti kupita ku malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi masiku asanu pamlungu kunali cholinga chosatheka chifukwa cha ndandanda yathu ya ntchito. Kapena titha kupeza kuti kudzipereka kumatenga maola ochulukirapo kuposa momwe timayembekezera, kapena kuti zakudya zomwe tidayamba sizikugwirizana ndi moyo wathu. Kukhala ndi ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka kapena zosadziwika bwino ndi vuto lakutsogolo lomwe liyenera kuthetsedwa ndondomekoyo isanayambe.

Mankhwala:

“Musanayambe, khalani owona mtima nokha pazomwe mungathe ndi zomwe simungathe kuchita; Sonkhanitsani zidziwitso zomwe mukufuna kuti mupange chisankho mwanzeru, "adalemba Taibbi.

2. Categorical: "zonse kapena palibe"

Zimakhudzana ndi zoyembekeza, timakonda kuganiza ndikuwunika bwino mawu ovuta, akuda ndi oyera: kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi masiku asanu pa sabata kapena osapita konse, kumamatira ku zakudya zolimbitsa thupi kapena kusiya pambuyo pakuwonongeka koyamba, sungani. dziko kapena kusiya, etc.

Mankhwala:

Pangani kusinthasintha koyenera mu dongosolo la zochita.

3. Wopupuluma

Chizoloŵezi chotsatira zikhumbo zamaganizo chimakhala vuto pokonzekera njira yayitali. Ambiri amakonda "kusinthasintha" kotereku: timayamba kuchita zomwe tikufuna, ndiye timatopa kapena timakumana ndi zovuta - kulemera, kutopa, kapena kungotaya chikhumbo, ndikusiya zomwe tidayamba poyamba kapena theka. Izi ndizowona makamaka kwa anthu osakhazikika komanso anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kuchepa kwa chidwi.

Mankhwala:

Chofunikira ndikuchiwona ngati nkhani yayikulu yosiyana ndiyeno kumangiriza kufunitsitsa ndi kudziletsa. Robert Taibbi akusonyeza kuti panjira yopita ku cholingacho, yesani kupondereza maganizo ndikupitiriza kuchita, ngakhale momwe timamvera.

4. Kusokonezeka pakati pa "kufuna" ndi "kuyenera"

Malinga ndi zikhulupiriro zathu kapena chikoka cha chilengedwe, tiyenera kuthandiza osowa, koma kudzipereka kotereku sikungakhale koyenera kwa ife. Kapena tinganene kuti tizipita kochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma kunena kuti timadana nazo, tifunika kuchepetsa thupi, koma sitikufuna kusiya zakudya zomwe timakonda.

Mankhwala:

Khalani owona mtima nokha ndipo musasokoneze njira ndi malekezero. "Ndizovuta kukhala olimbikitsidwa mukamadzikakamiza kuchita zinthu zomwe simukufuna kuchita." Ngati ndondomeko yathu yamtengo wapatali ndiyothandiza omwe akufunikira, ndiye kuti mungapeze njira yabwino yochitira. Ndipo ngati simukukonda masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi oyeserera, mutha kuthandizira mawonekedwe anu pothamanga pakampani yabwino kapena makalasi a yoga. Ndipo tsopano pali zakudya zambiri, ndipo sikuti zonse zimakukakamizani kuti musamasangalale.

5. Kulephera kunena "ayi"

Nthawi zina sitingakane ena ndiyeno timadzipeza tokha pomwe sitikumasuka. Mwachitsanzo, ndi gulu la anthu ongodzipereka timachita zinthu zimene sitinakonzekere m’maganizo kapena mwakuthupi. Tiyenera kuzolowerana ndi omwe atizungulira komanso momwe zinthu ziliri, koma kusowa kwa chikhumbo ndi mkwiyo zimayambira, ndipo timapeza zifukwa zosiya.

Mankhwala:

"Monga kukwiya kwamalingaliro, nthawi zambiri ili ndi vuto lalikulu lomwe liyenera kuthetsedwa mwachindunji," adatero Taibbi. Tiyenera kuyesetsa kulimbikira, kukana, ndi kuphunzira kupirira zinthu zoipa zimene zingatichitikire. Mukhoza kuyamba kulikonse, kutenga masitepe ang'onoang'ono, pang'onopang'ono kudutsa malo anu otonthoza.

6. Kupanda kulimbitsa bwino

Monga momwe kafukufuku amasonyezera ndi zochitika zimatsimikizira, chilimbikitso chimakhala chachikulu kumayambiriro kwa ntchito yatsopano. Koma kenako ntchitoyo imakhala yovuta, zachilendo zimazimiririka, ziyembekezo sizimakwaniritsidwa, ndipo kunyong’onyeka kapena kukhumudwa kumayamba.

Mankhwala:

Izi ndi zachilengedwe komanso zodziwikiratu. Izi ndizosavuta kuziwoneratu ndikuganizira dongosolo la mphotho ndi mphotho pasadakhale. Mwachitsanzo, idyani chakudya cham'mawa chokoma ndikudya mukatha kukhala olimba, kapena itanani mnzanu kuti apite limodzi ku masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikuthandizirana. Kapena mukamaliza ntchito yovuta, itanani gulu la odzipereka kuti adye chakudya chamadzulo pamodzi. Ndipo kwa dieter, mphotho yofikira wapakatikati - ndikutheka! — cholinga chingakhale kugula zovala zatsopano.

"Ngati munazolowera kusiya, mumatha kuchita masewera a lazybones mosavuta ndipo makamaka kusiya kuyesa kupeza china chatsopano. Kapena mudzaganiza kuti mumangofunika kukhala otsimikiza ndi kulimbikira, ndikupitiriza kudzikakamiza. M'malo mwake, yang'anani zomwe mwakumana nazo ndikuyang'ana momwemo kuti mumvetsetse komwe mudapunthwa komanso nthawi yomwe mudachoka panjanji, "akutero Robert Taibbi.

Tikamvetsetsa zovuta zomwe tikukumana nazo, tingayambe kuzithetsa ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zathu, osaiwala dongosolo la mphotho ndi chithandizo.

Za Mlembi: Robert Taibbi ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, katswiri wa ubale wa mabanja, komanso wolemba mabuku okhudza psychotherapy.