M'dziko lomwe luso loyenda pamitu ndikugwira ntchito mwamphamvu ndi zigongono ndizofunika kwambiri kuposa zonse, kukhudzika kumawoneka ngati chinthu chosayenera, pamlingo waukulu - chizindikiro cha kufooka. Mtolankhani waku America a Matthew Loeb akutsimikiza kuti kukhudzidwa kumatha kuonedwa ngati ulemu wanu.
"Ndiwe omvera kwambiri!" bamboyo anakwiya.
"Lekani kudzitengera nokha chilichonse" Amfumu akung'ung'udza.
"Siyani kukhala chiguduli!" mphunzitsi wakwiya.
Zimamupweteka munthu womvera kumva zonsezi. Mumaona ngati simukumvetsedwa. Achibale amadandaula kuti nthawi zonse mumafunika kuthandizidwa maganizo. Anzanu kuntchito amakuchitirani chipongwe. Kusukulu ankakupezererani ngati munthu wopanda mphamvu.
Onse akulakwitsa.
Tikukhala m’dziko limene anthu ambiri amangodzikayikira komanso amadzikayikira.
Tikukhala m’dziko limene anthu ambiri amangodzikayikira komanso amadzikayikira. Zokwanira kukumbukira momwe a Donald Trump adakhalira mtsogoleri wachipani cha Republican. Kapena yang'anani woyang'anira wamkulu aliyense ali ndi njira zopondereza, akudzitamandira mokweza za kukwera kwa phindu.
Moyo ndi masewera kukhudzana, kapena ndi zimene «aphunzitsi anzeru» zambiri amanena. Kuti mupite patsogolo, muyenera kukankha aliyense ndi zigongono zanu.
Phunziro. Posankha kukhala "olimba", mumadutsa omwe mumadziwana nawo muofesi ndi nkhope yamwala, kuwapatsa mawonekedwe okhwima, mwamwano akutsuka aliyense amene amakusokonezani. Chotsatira chake, simukuwoneka «olimba», koma mwano wodzikuza.
Sensitivity ndi mphatso yoyamikiridwa ndi anzanu ndi abale anu
Nali phunziro loti muphunzire: Osayesa kupondereza mbali yanu yovuta—yesani kuilandira. Kukhudzika ndi mphatso yomwe anzanu ndi achibale anu amayamikiridwa, ngakhale kufuna kwanu kuwonekere kukhala wolimba komanso wotsimikiza kumawalepheretsa kuvomereza poyera.
Kutengeka maganizo
Kodi mwaona mmene wina amachitira mwakachetechete ndi monyinyirika kuti apitirize kukambirana? Ndithudi iwo anatero. Kutengeka kwanu kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwa bwino momwe ena akumvera. Aliyense akunyalanyaza munthu wamanyazi ameneyu, ndipo mumabwera kudzadziwana. Kulunjika kwanu ndi kuwona mtima kwanu kumakopa ndikuchotsa zida, kotero ndikwabwino kwambiri kulankhula nanu mmodzimmodzi. Anthu mwachibadwa amakukhulupirirani. Kumeneko kumatsatira kuti…
…ndinu wobadwa wa psychotherapist
Dziko lanu lamkati ndilozama komanso lotukuka. Mwachibadwa ndinu achifundo, ndipo mabwenzi ndi achibale adzatembenukira kwa inu nthaŵi zonse akafuna chithandizo. Kodi zachitika kangati kuti chinthu chikangochitika - ndipo amakuyitanani nthawi yomweyo? Kwa iwo, muli ngati nyali yamalingaliro.
Kuitana abwenzi ndi achibale "kwa mphindi zingapo, kuti mudziwe momwe mulili", pambuyo pa maola awiri nthawi zambiri mumapitiriza kukambirana, ndikuthandizira "kumata" mtima wosweka. Inde, ndinu okonzeka kuthera nthawi yanu kuthandiza achibale ndi mabwenzi omwe ali ndi "zowawa zamtima". Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, ndinu otsogola kwambiri kuti mumvetsetse zomwe akumana nazo.
Funani ndi kupeza
Muli ndi malingaliro ofuna kudziwa. Mwachibadwa mumafuna kudziwa. Mukufunsa mafunso nthawi zonse, kusonkhanitsa zidziwitso, kuyesa kuthetsa ludzu laubongo wanu. Mumayamwa zidziwitso ngati chinkhupule.
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi anthu: makhalidwe awo, zomwe zimawalimbikitsa, zomwe amawopa, ndi "mafupa omwe ali nawo mu chipinda".
Ndi moyo wanu womvera, muli ndi zambiri zoti mupatse ena - ngakhale osuliza omwe atopa ndi chilichonse. Malingaliro anu ofunda, chikhalidwe chabwino, kumvetsetsa ndi chidwi chanzeru zimalimbikitsa omwe akuzungulirani. Ndipo ndi izi umapangitsa moyo wakuzungulira kukhala wovuta pang'ono.
Ngakhale moyo nthawi zambiri umakhala ngati masewera olumikizana, nthawi zina mutha kuchita popanda zida zoteteza.