Kuika chitsenderezo pa chifundo, kuimba mlandu ena chifukwa chokhala athanzi ndi otukuka ndi mtundu woipa pakati pa omwe mwaukadaulo amathandiza anthu. Kodi chithandizo chapoizoni ndi chiyani komanso momwe mungachizindikire, akufotokoza Masha Subanta, mkulu wa Kind Club Foundation.
"Poizoni" chikondi amakhala pamene wina ayamba "kuchita zabwino" pa ndalama wina, manipulate kugwiritsa ntchito chuma cha anthu ena, osati kulabadira maganizo a ena. Tiyeni tiwone bwinobwino zomwe zimadziwonetsera.
1. Mwauzidwa kuti muyenera kuthandiza. Palibe amene ali ndi ngongole kwa aliyense. Pamene muthandiza, osati chifukwa chodzimva kuti muli ndi thayo kapena kuwopa kudzudzulidwa, koma chifukwa chakuti mukufunadi kutero, thandizo loterolo lokha ndilofunika.
Kuyimba pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti "musakhale osasamala", "ndife anthu kapena omwe", "sikukhululukidwa kudutsa" sikukopa, koma kuthamangitsa. M’chenicheni, iwo ali kuwongolera mobisa kwa malingaliro ndi malingaliro. Timachita manyazi ndi kukakamizidwa kuchita zinthu zomwe sitikufuna. Koma sizingatchulidwe nkomwe zachifundo.
2. Amawerengera ndalama zanu ndikulangiza zoyenera kuchita nazo. M'malo momwa kapu ya khofi, kudzigulira siketi ina, kapena kupita kutchuthi, muyenera kupereka ndalama zanu ku chinthu chomwe "chofunika kwambiri". Zofunika kwa ndani? Zanu? Ndipo ndizotheka kuyitanira ntchito yabwino ngati zilakolako zanu zatsika munjirayo?
Tonsefe timagwira ntchito kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino. M’pomveka kuti timafuna kudzaza gwerolo ndi kudzipatsa mphoto chifukwa cha khama lathu. Ndi bwino kudzifunira wekha chinachakenso.
Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti munthuyo amakondadi kuthandiza. Ndiye adzachitanso zonse
Kukoma mtima kumayamba ndi munthu kupita kwa munthu. Choncho, m’pofunika kuti woperekayo asamangoganizira za ena. Apo ayi, pali njira ziwiri patsogolo: mwina iyenso, posachedwa adzafunika thandizo, kapena adzasiya chikondi, akutaya mtima kuthandiza aliyense.
Kuthandizira momwe mungathere pamene mukumva kufunikira, kumvetsera zomwe mukumvera kuti musankhe njira yabwino yothandizira - iyi ndi njira yosamala kwambiri yothandizira.
3. Nthawi zonse umadziimba mlandu. Mukuuzidwa kuti simukuthandiza mokwanira. Zikadakhala zambiri, kamodzi m'moyo wanu muli ndi mwayi. Mumayamba kudziletsa pa chilichonse, koma malingaliro oti simukuyesera kwambiri samatha.
Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti munthuyo amakondadi kuthandiza. Kenako adzachita mobwerezabwereza. Dziyeseni nokha: mukachita zabwino, muyenera kumva bwino m'moyo wanu.
4. Amakana kukupatsani zikalata. Poyankha mafunso omveka bwino - komwe mungawone zikalata komanso kuchuluka kwa ndalama zomwe amalipiritsa, zomwe akukonzekera kuchita pandalamayi komanso momwe zingathandizire, kaya pali malingaliro ochokera kwa madokotala - milandu ikuwulukirani: " ukupeza cholakwika?"
Ukuchitiridwa chipongwe, manyazi kuti ndiwe munthu wopanda mzimu ndipo ukumaliza ndi mafunso ako mayi wosatonthozeka kale, mwana wamasiye watsoka, wosauka wosauka? Thawani, ziribe kanthu momwe chisoni mwana / mphaka / wamkulu. Amene amakonza zosonkhanitsira akufunika kusonyeza ndi kufotokoza kumene ndalama zanu zidzapita.
Chikondi ndi chodzifunira komanso chaumwini. Uwu ndi ubale wathu ndi dziko lapansi, ndipo mu ubale uliwonse uyenera kukhala wabwino
Ganizirani motsimikiza mutangomva kuti: "Sanapereke ruble imodzi, koma amadandaula", "Kodi munasamutsa zingati? Ndiloleni ndikubwezereni ndalamazi kuti musade nkhawa kwambiri.
Komabe, sizingabwere ku izi - nthawi zambiri pambuyo pa funso loyamba mudzatumizidwa ku chiletso.
5. Simunapemphe malangizo, koma mwaphunzitsidwa mmene mungathandizire moyenera. Kodi mumathandiza ana? Bwanji nyama? Zinyama? Kodi simumvera anthu chisoni? Bwanji osapita kumalo osungira ana amasiye?
Akatswiri a "sofa" akamandilembera kuti ndithandize njira yolakwika ndi yolakwika, ndimayankha mwachidule: tsegulani thumba lanu ndikuthandizira momwe mukuonera. Chikondi ndi chodzifunira komanso chaumwini. Uwu ndi ubale wathu ndi dziko lapansi, ndipo mu ubale uliwonse uyenera kukhala wabwino, apo ayi mfundo yake ndi yotani?