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Tikhoza kunena mosabisa: pakati pathu pali ochepa omwe ali okhutira kwathunthu ndi iwo okha, makamaka ndi maonekedwe awo. Pafupifupi aliyense, kaya mwamuna kapena mkazi, angafune kukonza chinachake: kukhala wodzidalira kwambiri kapena wokondwa kwambiri, kukhala ndi tsitsi lopiringa m'malo mowongoka ndi mosemphanitsa, kukulitsa miyendo, mapewa otambalala ... , makamaka mwaunyamata. “Ndinali wamanyazi mwachibadwa, koma manyazi angawo anakulirakulira chifukwa chokhulupirira kuti ndinali wonyansa. Ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti palibe chomwe chimakhudza kwambiri mayendedwe a munthu monga mawonekedwe ake, osati mawonekedwe okha, komanso chikhulupiriro cha kukopa kwake kapena kusasamala kwake, "Leo Tolstoy akufotokoza dziko lake mu gawo lachiwiri la autobiographical. trilogy" Ubwana. Unyamata. Achinyamata».
M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, kukhwima kwa mazunzo ameneŵa kumasokonekera, koma kodi amatisiya kotheratu? Zosatheka: apo ayi, zosefera zithunzi zomwe zimasintha mawonekedwe sizingakhale zotchuka kwambiri. Mofanana ndi opaleshoni ya pulasitiki.
Sitidziona tokha monga momwe tilili, choncho timafunika kunena kuti "Ine" kudzera mwa ena.
Nthawi zonse timakhala omvera
Kodi timatha bwanji kudzizindikira tokha? Kodi tingadziwone tokha kuchokera kumbali pamene tikuwona chinthu chakunja? Zingaoneke ngati timadzidziwa bwino kuposa wina aliyense. Komabe, kudziona mopanda tsankho ndi chinthu chosatheka. Malingaliro athu amasokonezedwa ndi zoyerekeza, zovuta, zowawa zomwe zimachitika paubwana. Yathu «Ine» si yunifolomu.
"Ego nthawi zonse imakhala yosintha. Ngakhale ndimadziyimira ndekha ngati "ine", ndimalekanitsidwa ndi ine ndekha," akutero Jacques Lacan wa psychoanalyst mu Essays yake.1. - Kuyanjana ndi ife tokha, timakumana ndi kupatukana. Chitsanzo chochititsa chidwi ndizochitika pamene munthu amene akudwala matenda a Alzheimer akukambirana naye yekha pokhulupirira kuti akukumana ndi munthu wina. Kumayambiriro kwa zaka za zana lachisanu ndi chiwiri, dokotala wa minyewa komanso wazamisala a Paul Solier analemba kuti atsikana ena adasiya kudziwona okha pagalasi panthawi yachisokonezo. Tsopano psychoanalysis imatanthauzira izi ngati njira yodzitetezera - kukana kulumikizana ndi zenizeni.
Chizoloŵezi chathu chodziwonera tokha, chokhazikika kapena chocheperako, chimapangidwa m'malingaliro athu.
Matenda ena amanjenje angasinthe kuzindikira kwathu kotero kuti wodwalayo amakayikira kukhalapo kwake kapena amamva ngati wogwidwa, wotsekeredwa m'thupi lachilendo.
Kusokonezeka maganizo koteroko kumachitika chifukwa cha matenda kapena mantha aakulu. Koma kudziona kokhazikika kapena kocheperako komwe tidazolowera kumapangidwanso m'malingaliro athu. Kapangidwe kofananako kamalingaliro ndiko kunyezimira mu kalilole. Izi sizinthu zakuthupi zomwe tingamve, koma chiwonetsero cha chidziwitso chomwe chili ndi mbiri yakeyake.
Kuyang'ana koyamba
Thupi lathu "weniweni" siliri thupi lachilengedwe, lolunjika lomwe mankhwala amachitira, koma lingaliro lomwe linapangidwa mothandizidwa ndi mawu ndi malingaliro a akuluakulu oyambirira omwe amatisamalira.
“Nthawi ina, mwanayo amayang’ana uku ndi uku. Ndipo choyamba - pa nkhope ya amayi ake. Amaona kuti akumuyang'ana. Amawerenga yemwe ali kwa iye. Ndipo amamaliza kuti akayang'ana, amawonekera. Chotero liripo,” analemba motero katswiri wa zamaganizo a ana Donald Winnicott.2. Motero, kuyang’ana kwa winayo, kutembenuzidwa pa ife, kumamangidwa pa maziko a umunthu wathu. Moyenera, uku ndi mawonekedwe achikondi. Koma zoona zake n’zakuti sizili choncho nthawi zonse.
"Ndikamandiyang'ana, amayi anga nthawi zambiri ankati:" unapita kwa abale a abambo ako ", ndipo ndinadzida ndekha chifukwa cha izi, chifukwa bambo anga adasiya banja. M'kalasi lachisanu, adameta tsitsi lake kuti asawone tsitsi lake lopiringizika ngati lake, "anatero Tatyana wazaka 34.
Munthu amene makolo ake ankaoneka ngati wonyansidwa naye akhoza kudziona ngati munthu wachabechabe kwa nthawi yaitali. Kapena kufunafuna mwachidwi zotsutsa
N’cifukwa ciani makolo samatikomela mtima nthawi zonse? Katswiri wa zamaganizo Giorgi Natsvlishvili anati: “Zimadalira umunthu wawo. — Kufuna mopambanitsa kungawonedwe, mwachitsanzo, kwa kholo lopanda mantha limene limauza mwanayo kuti: “Samala, ndikowopsa kulikonse, aliyense amafuna kukunyengerera…. Kodi magiredi anu ali bwanji? Koma mdzukulu wa mnansiyo akubweretsa zisanu zokha!
Choncho mwanayo amakhala ndi nkhawa, amakayikira kuti ndi wabwino mwanzeru komanso mwakuthupi. Ndipo kholo la narcissistic, nthawi zambiri mayi, amawona mwanayo ngati chowonjezera cha yekha, choncho zolakwa zilizonse za mwanayo zimayambitsa mkwiyo kapena mantha, chifukwa zimasonyeza kuti iye sali wangwiro ndipo wina angazindikire.
Munthu amene makolo ake ankaoneka ngati wonyansidwa naye akhoza kudziona ngati munthu wachabechabe kwa nthawi yaitali. Kapena mwinamwake mukuyang'ana mwachidwi zotsutsa, kumanga nkhani zambiri zachikondi kuti zitsimikizire kukopa kwawo, ndikuyika zithunzi pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti omwe amasonkhanitsa zokonda. Giorgi Natsvlishvili akupitiriza kuti: “Nthawi zambiri ndimapeza akasitomala anga ofuna kuvomerezedwa, ndipo awa ndi anyamata ndi atsikana osakwanitsa zaka 30. Koma chifukwa si nthawi zonse m'banja. Pali lingaliro lakuti exactingness wa makolo amapha, koma kunena zoona, nkhani zoterezi zikhoza kuchitika popanda kutenga nawo mbali. Malo ovuta kwambiri."
Owongolera izi ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu ambiri - taganizirani za mafilimu ochitapo kanthu ndi masewera omwe ali ndi anthu otchuka komanso magazini a mafashoni okhala ndi zitsanzo zoonda kwambiri - ndi bwalo lamkati, anzanu akusukulu ndi abwenzi.
Mirror Curves
Ngakhale chiwonetsero chomwe timachiwona pagalasi kapena zithunzi sizingaganizidwe ngati zenizeni, chifukwa timaziwona mwanjira inayake, zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro (kuphatikiza osafotokozedwa mokweza) a akulu akulu ofunikira paubwana wathu. , ndiyeno abwenzi, aphunzitsi, okondedwa, amasonkhezera ndi malingaliro athu. Koma amapangidwanso motengera chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi chikhalidwe, kupereka zitsanzo, zomwe zimasinthanso pakapita nthawi. Ndicho chifukwa kwathunthu palokha kudzidalira, «Ine», popanda admixtures chikoka cha anthu ena, ndi utopia. Sizongochitika mwangozi kuti Abuda amaona awo «Ine» chinyengo.
Sitidzidziwa tokha momwe timaganizira, kusonkhanitsa zambiri ngati kuli kofunikira, kufananiza ndi ena, kumvetsera zowunikira. N’zosadabwitsa kuti nthawi zina timalakwitsa ngakhale pazigawo zimene tingayesedwe bwinobwino. Chakumapeto kwa chilimwe, zimaonekeratu kuti akazi ambiri amayenda mu madiresi osagwirizana, mu nsapato zomwe zala zimatuluka ... Ichi ndi chitetezo ku zenizeni: ubongo umatulutsa nthawi zosasangalatsa, umateteza psyche ku zovuta.
Ubongo umachita chimodzimodzi ndi mbali zosasangalatsa za umunthu: zimawawongolera m'malingaliro athu, ndipo sitizindikira, mwachitsanzo, mwano wathu, nkhanza, kudabwa ndi zomwe anthu otizungulira, omwe timawaona kuti ndi okhudza kapena wosalolera.
Leo Tolstoy m'buku lotchedwa "diary" motere: "kukambitsirana nokha, ndi woona, Mulungu yekha amene amakhala mwa munthu aliyense."
Kudzionera kwathu kumasokonekeranso chifukwa chofuna kukondedwa ndi anthu. Carl Jung adatcha masks oterowo "Persona": timanyalanyaza zofuna za "Ine" zathu, kudziyimira pawokha kudzera paudindo, kuchuluka kwa zopeza, ma dipuloma, ukwati kapena ana. Kukachitika kuti mawonekedwe opambana agwa ndipo zikuwoneka kuti pali chopanda kanthu kumbuyo kwake, mantha akulu amanjenje angatiyembekezere.
Nthawi zambiri pa phwando, katswiri wa zamaganizo amafunsa funso lomwelo: "Ndiwe chiyani?" Mobwereza bwereza, amafuna kuti tidzifotokoze tokha ndi ma epithets osiyanasiyana, kukana kuvomereza maudindo a chikhalidwe ichi: amafuna kuti tisakhale ndi chizolowezi chodzitcha "antchito abwino a muofesi" ndi "makolo osamalira", koma yesetsani kudzipatula maganizo athu tokha, mwachitsanzo: «irascible», «mtundu», «kufuna».
Zolemba zaumwini zimatha kukhala ndi cholinga chomwecho. Leo Tolstoy mu buku la "Kuuka kwa Akufa" amatcha bukuli motere: "kukambitsirana nokha, ndi munthu weniweni, waumulungu womwe umakhala mwa munthu aliyense."
Kufunika kwa owonera
Tikamadzidziwa tokha pang'ono, m'pamenenso timafunika owonerera kuti atipatse ndemanga. Mwina ndichifukwa chake mtundu wamakono wodzijambula, selfie, wapeza kutchuka kotere. Pamenepa, munthu amene akujambulidwayo ndi amene akujambulayo ndi munthu yemweyo, ndiye tikuyesera kuti tipeze chowonadi cha moyo wathu…
Koma ndi funsonso kwa ena: "Kodi mukuvomereza kuti ndili chonchi?"
Kuyesera kudziwonetsera tokha m'njira yabwino, tikuwoneka kuti tikupempha chilolezo kuti tivomereze chithunzi choyenera. Ngakhale titadzigwira tokha muzochitika zoseketsa, chikhumbo chimakhalabe chofanana: kudziwa momwe tilili.
Dziko laukadaulo limakupatsani mwayi wokhala pa singano yovomerezeka ya omvera kwa zaka zambiri. Komabe, kodi ndizoipa kwambiri kudzipanga nokha?
Ngakhale kuwunika kwakunja sikuli koyenera, pambuyo pake, ena amakumana ndi zisonkhezero zosiyanasiyana. M'zisindikizo za ku Japan za nthawi ya Edo, okongola amaika utoto wakuda pa mano awo. Ndipo ngati Danae wa Rembrandt atavala zovala zamakono, ndani angasire kukongola kwake? Zomwe zimaoneka ngati zokongola kwa wina sizingakhale zokondweretsa wina.
Koma posonkhanitsa zokonda zambiri, titha kudzitsimikizira kuti osachepera ambiri a m'nthawi yathu amatikonda. Mtsikana wina wazaka 23, dzina lake Renata, anati: “Ndimaika zithunzi tsiku lililonse, nthawi zina kangapo, ndipo ndimayembekezera mwachidwi kuyankha. "Ndimafunikira izi kuti ndizimva kuti ndili moyo komanso kuti pali chinachake chikundichitikira."
Dziko laukadaulo limakupatsani mwayi wokhala pa singano yovomerezeka ya omvera kwa zaka zambiri. Komabe, kodi ndizoipa kwambiri kudzipanga nokha? Kafukufuku wambiri akusonyeza kuti amene amachita zimenezi amakhala osangalala kwambiri kuposa amene amadziimba mlandu.
1 Jacques-Marie-Émile Lacan Essay mfundo (Le Seuil, 1975).
2 "Udindo wa Galasi wa Amayi ndi Banja," mu The Game and Reality lolemba Donald W. Winnicott (Institute for General Humanities Studies, 2017).