Ndi izi, zatha… Zosavuta kunena koma zovuta kukhala nazo. Kaya mwachoka kapena mwachoka, kulekana kuli ngati kuferedwa: kumayambitsa malingaliro amphamvu amene amavuta kuwathetsa, ndipo kuchirako kumatenga nthaŵi yaitali. Mwamwayi, tonsefe timatha kutembenuza tsamba, pokhapokha titadzipatsa tokha njira.

"Iwalani, simunafunikire kukhala limodzi "," Pitirizani, pali zinthu zazikulu m'moyo", "Mmodzi wotayika, khumi wapezeka.… Ndani sanamvepo mawu otere otchedwa" otonthoza "pamene mukusiyana? Ngakhale anthu amene amawanena akuganiza kuti akuchita zoyenera, njira imeneyi si yothandiza. Ayi, simungathe kusuntha usiku wonse, sizingatheke. Ngakhale titafuna, sitingathe. Kupatukana kulikonse kumakhala kowawa ndikutha kupita patsogolo, ndikofunikira kwambiri kulola ululu uwu kuti udziwonetsere kuti udziwitse. Chinthu choyamba kuchita mutatha kupatukana ndikutulutsa malingaliro onse omwe amatisokoneza: chisoni, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, kukhumudwa ...

Kafukufuku wa 2015 wofalitsidwa mu nyuzipepala ya Social Psychological and Personality Science adatsimikizira kuti njirayi idathandiza anthu kuti achire msanga. Olemba bukuli anaona kuti anthu amene ankafunsidwa nthawi zonse kuti aonenso zifukwa zimene zinawachititsa kuti asudzuke komanso mmene ankamvera pa nkhani ya kupatukana kwawo, anavomereza kuti adziona kuti sali okha komanso sanakhudzidwe kwambiri ndi vutoli patapita milungu ingapo. , poyerekezera ndi amene sanalankhulepo za kutha kwawo. Koma si zokhazo, kugawana nthawi zonse zakukhosi kwawo kunawalola kuti abwererenso papatukana. Pamene masabata ankapitirira, ophunzirawo sanagwiritsenso ntchito "ife" kuti alankhule za kutha kwawo, koma "Ine". Choncho phunziroli likuwonetsa kufunika kodziganizira nokha pambuyo pa kusweka kuti muzindikire kuti n'zotheka kumanganso popanda wina. Kulimbana ndi malingaliro anu kumakupatsani mwayi wowalandira bwino pambuyo pake.

Zikuwoneka zomveka koma ndi imodzi mwamagawo ovuta kwambiri mutatha kutha. Kuthetsa kulankhulana kulikonse ndi wakale wanu kumakupatsani mwayi woganizira kwambiri malingaliro anu komanso tsogolo lanu. Kulumikizana pang'ono kudzakubwezeraninso mu ubalewu, womwe mukudziwa kuti sunagwire ntchito. Izi zidzangowonjezera ululu wanu, motero kuchedwetsa chisoni cha nkhani yanu.

Kudula maubwenzi kumatanthauza kusakhalanso ndi kusinthana ndi munthuyo komanso kusafunanso kumva kuchokera kwa iwo, kudzera mwa omwe ali nawo pafupi kapena kudzera pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. M'malo mwake, kupita kukawona mbiri yanu pa Facebook kapena Instagram ndikuyika pachiwopsezo chowona zinthu zomwe zingakupwetekeni.

Kuthetsa chibwenzi kusakhale nkhani yovuta. Ngakhale mutamukondabe munthuyo, dzifunseni mafunso oyenera okhudza kupatukana kwanu. Ngakhale chikondi sichinagwire ntchito. Ndiye dzifunseni chifukwa chake? Kuika maganizo pazifukwa zopatukana kumakuthandizani kuvomereza bwino. Ndi njira yosiyiratu zakukhosi kuti muthe kuganiza moyenera. Ngati ndi kotheka, lembani zomwe zimayambitsa kusweka. Powawona m'maganizo, mudzatha kufotokozera kulephera kumeneku ndikudziuza nokha kuti chikondi sichinali chokwanira. Kupuma kunali kosapeweka.

Kuthetsa chibwenzi kumatipangitsa kukhala opanda chiyembekezo: "Sindidzapeza aliyense","Sindingathe kuyambanso kukondana (se) ","Sindidzasiya”… Ndipo tikudziwa kuti kuchita zinthu motengeka mtima sikulengeza chilichonse chabwino. Gawoli silitenga nthawi yayitali. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, musadzipatule.

Kukhala wekha kumalimbikitsa kudzikuza. Simukufuna kutuluka ndikuwona anthu? Dzikakamizeni, zidzakuchitirani zabwino zambiri! Malingaliro anu sadzakhalanso otanganidwa kuganiza zakutha. Landirani zinthu zatsopano (masewera atsopano, tsitsi latsopano, zokongoletsera zatsopano, malo atsopano oyenda). Pambuyo pakuphulika, zachilendo zimapatsa mwayi wofikira kumadera omwe sanadziwike mpaka pano. Njira yabwino yopezeranso kudzidalira ndikupita patsogolo kuti pamapeto pake mutha kunena "Ndinatsegula tsamba".