Tchuthi ndi nthawi yotentha m'mbali zonse. Nthawi zina ndi masiku ano pamene mikangano imakula, ndipo ngati izi zichitika pakati pa makolo, ana amavutika. Momwe mungalankhulire ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu wakale ndikusunga mtendere kwa aliyense, amalangiza katswiri wazamisala Azmaira Maker.
Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, maholide ndi tchuthi zitha kukhala chinthu chowonjezera nkhawa kwa ana ndi makolo, makamaka ngati osudzulana atha. Maulendo angapo, macheza abanja, nkhani zachuma, ntchito za kusukulu za tchuthi, ndi ntchito zapakhomo zimatha kusokonezedwa ndikuyambitsa mikangano. Katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso katswiri wa ana ndi mabanja Azmaira Maker akufotokoza zoyenera kuziganizira kuti Usiku wa Chaka Chatsopano ukhale wosangalatsa kwa makolo ndi ana.
Lolemba loyamba pambuyo pa tchuthi limadziwika kuti "tsiku lachisudzulo", pomwe Januware amadziwika kuti "mwezi wachisudzulo" ku US ndi UK. Mwezi uno uli ndi chiwerengero cha mabanja omwe akusudzulana. Kupsinjika maganizo ndiko makamaka chifukwa cha izi - kuchokera kutchuthi komanso zisankho zomwe muyenera kupanga tsiku lililonse. Kuyambitsa nkhani kungasokoneze dongosolo labanja, kumayambitsa mikangano yayikulu ndi chidani, zomwe zimatha kuyambitsa malingaliro opatukana.
Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti makolo apange dongosolo loletsa ndikugonjetsa zovuta komanso kuchepetsa mikangano momwe angathere. Izi ndizofunikira kwa banja lonse ndipo zidzathandiza mwanayo kuti azisangalala ndi maholide. Katswiriyo akulangiza kupereka chisamaliro chapadera kwa ana omwe amathera nthawi mosinthana ndi amayi ndi abambo, muzochitika za "mpikisano" wa makolo ponena za mphatso ndi chidwi.
Ngati makolo asudzulana, palibe chifukwa chokakamiza mwana kusankha amene akufuna kuthera maholide kwambiri.
Azmaira Maker amapereka chitsogozo chomwe chingathandize akuluakulu kuyang'ana zabwino, kunyengerera, ndi kuthetsa mikangano yathanzi kwa ana.
- Kaya makolo osudzulidwa kapena okwatirana, angafunse ana awo zimene zili zofunika kwambiri kwa iwo patchuthi, ndi kulemba yankho lake ndi kuliŵerenga tsiku lililonse monga chikumbutso chofunika cha zimene ana akuyembekezera ku nyengo ya tchuthiyi.
- Makolo ayenera kufunsana zomwe zili zofunika kwa aliyense wa iwo masiku ano. Mayankho awa ayeneranso kulembedwa ndikuwerengedwanso tsiku lililonse.
- Ngati amayi ndi abambo sakugwirizana pamalingaliro achipembedzo, auzimu kapena chikhalidwe, ayenera kulemekeza zosowa ndi zofuna za wina ndi mnzake. Zosankha zosiyanasiyana zikondwerero zimaphunzitsa ana kulolerana, kulemekeza ndi kuvomereza kusiyanasiyana kwa moyo.
- Ngati pali kusamvana pakati pa makolo pankhani ya zachuma, katswiriyu amalimbikitsa kukambirana za bajeti nthawi ya tchuthi isanafike kuti mikangano ipeweke mtsogolo.
- Ngati makolo asudzulana, palibe chifukwa chokakamiza mwana kusankha amene akufuna kuthera maholide kwambiri. Ndikofunikira kupanga njira yoyendetsera bwino, yosavuta komanso yosasinthasintha pa nthawi ya tchuthi.
Matchuthi amatha kukhala ovuta kwambiri ngati pali mikangano yamphamvu pakati pa makolo.
- Kholo lirilonse liyenera kuphunzira kukhala womvera wachifundo ndi wochirikiza kuti athe kuchepetsa mikangano ndi kuchepetsa mpata wa kusamvana patchuthi. Kuyesera kumvetsetsa zosowa ndi zofuna za mnzanu, ngakhale wakale, kumakupatsani mwayi wopeza mayankho omwe ali abwino kwa ana ndi makolo onse.
- Abale ndi alongo ayenera kukhala limodzi pa nthawi ya tchuthi. Kugwirizana pakati pa abale ndi alongo n’kofunika kwambiri: akakula, m’bale kapena mlongo akhoza kukhala wothandizira pamavuto. Tchuthi ndi maholide omwe amakhala limodzi ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri ku chuma chazokumbukira zawo zaubwana.
- Ngati china chake sichikuyenda bwino, ndikofunikira kuti musayang'ane wina womuimba mlandu. Nthawi zina ana amakhala mboni za makolo amene akuimbana mlandu chifukwa cha kusudzulana kapena mavuto a m’banja. Izi zimayika mwanayo pachimake ndipo zingayambitse maganizo oipa - mkwiyo, liwongo ndi chisokonezo, kupanga maholide kukhala masiku osasangalatsa komanso ovuta.
- Akuluakulu nthawi zambiri amaganiza za momwe angagwiritsire ntchito bwino maholide. Kusemphana pakati pa mapulaniwo kusakhale chifukwa cha mikangano yotsatira. "Ngati malingaliro a mnzanuyo sakuvulaza mwanayo, koma amangosiyana ndi anu, yesetsani kuti musamukhumudwitse kapena kumuchititsa manyazi - yang'anani zosagwirizana," katswiri wa zamaganizo a banja akutero. “Makolo akuyenera kusalowerera ndale ndikuchita zinthu mogwirizana komanso mogwirizana ndi ana.” Zimenezi zidzathandiza ana kukhala ndi chikondi ndi chikondi kwa makolo onse aŵiri ngakhale pambuyo pa kusudzulana.
- Ukwati, chisudzulo, ndi kulera ana ndi gawo lachinyengo, koma makolo akamalola kulolerana ndi kusinthasintha, m’pamenenso ana amakula mosangalala ndi kusangalaladi ndi maholidewo.
Panthaŵi yatchuthi ndi yatchuthi, makolo amakumana ndi mikhalidwe yovuta. Maholide angakhale ovuta ndi opweteka makamaka ngati kulimbirana mphamvu ndi mpikisano pakati pa makolo. Ngati makolo amene amakhala pamodzi kapena olekana angagwiritse ntchito malangizo a akatswiri ochepetsa mikangano ndiponso kupewa kukangana m’maganizo, ana amasangalala kwambiri ndi masiku amtendere.
Za wolemba: Azmaira Maker ndi katswiri wazamisala yemwe amagwira ntchito za ana ndi mabanja.