Zamkatimu
"Ndinkakonda manipulator"
Ndi Julian yemwe watero kudula chingwe cha umbilical. Ndiye nthawi zambiri amadzitama kuti adabweretsa Gwendolyn padziko lapansi. Tsiku limenelo analira ngati munthu wachifundo komanso wopanda vuto. Komabe pambuyo pake anatichititsa mantha. Mwana wanga wamkazi ali ndi zaka 11 lero, koma zidatenga judicial marathon kuti tipeze ufulu wathu. Pachiyambi cha mbiri yathu, Sindinganene kuti zonse zinali zapinki pakati pa Julian ndi ine. Ndinampeza kukhala wachilendo kwenikweni pamene anadzitenga yekha popanda kudzichepetsa kulikonse kwa woimba-mneneri kapena kudziyerekeza ndi Bob Dylan, pamene iye anachita kawirikawiri ndipo popanda chipambano chochuluka. Chimanga Ndidagwa mchikondi wa woyimba wodabwitsayu, ndipo ndidapeza ndalama zokonda nyimbo zake polipira nyumba yathu ndikugwira ntchito ziwiri, ndiye ndidakhala ndi pakati. Kenako ndinachipeza mochulukirachulukira, koma ndinakana kumukhulupirira. Ndidzakumbukira moyo wanga wonse tsiku lija, ndili ndi pakati pa miyezi isanu ndi itatu, ndidamuponyera chipewa chaubweya paphewa pomwe amamvetsera nyimbo yomwe anali atangojambula pa mahedifoni ... Mkwiyo wake, chipongwe, chiwawa chake nthawi imeneyo, motsutsana ndi ine, yemwe adabisala kuchipinda chathu, magazi anga akuzizirabe. Beanie ija ndinamuponyera mwamphamvu ndipo adamva kuwawa kowopsa! Anafuna kupepesa! Ndili ndi mantha, ndinakhalabe ndi mtima womuuza kuti anali wopenga ndi kuti amayenera kupeza chithandizo. Ndikanachita bwino kuthawa.
Sanapirire kuti ndinali ndi mwana wanga wamkazi
Pamene mwana wathu wamkazi anabadwa, zinthu zinasintha kuipiraipira kwambiri. Julian ankafuna kukhala chinthu chokhacho cha mwana wake wamkazi, ndipo iye sanachirikize chomangira chachibadwa kwambiri zomwe zinagwirizanitsa iye ndi ine, zomwe zinayambitsa nsanje. Mwachitsanzo, kuyamwitsa kunali kosapiririka kwa iye. Iye zinachitika ndichotse Gwendolyn kwa ine ndikumusunga mu studio yake yojambulira, ngakhale amalira ndi njala. Ndipo popeza sakanatha kuzidyetsa yekha. anakonda kumumana. Ankandithamangitsanso kosamba kuti ndilowe m’malo mwanga ndi kamwanako. Mikanganoyo inakula kwambiri ndipo makamaka yachiwawa.
Kotero ine ndatero adaganiza zondilekanitsa kuchokera kwa iye. Tsiku lina madzulo, anandikankha, mutu wanga ukugunda mwamphamvu kukhoma. Ndinasumira madandaulo nkhanza. Julian anamangidwa koma atangotsala pang'ono kupeza nthawi kuwononga nyumba yathu ndikundiyikamo maupangiri owopsa kwa ine omwe ndimadziwa kuti kusungidwa kwake sikukhala moyo wonse. “Mudzanong’oneza bondo,” inalengeza kalata yolembedwa pamanja. Kupatukana kunali koyipa: ngati kukhala popanda iye kunali mpumulo kwa ine, mupereke mwana wathu wamkazi kwa iye pamene iye anali kuchisunga anali kuzunzidwa.
Pamene Gwendolyn anali ndi zaka 3, ndinamuwerengera m’maso mwake mwamantha kuti yemwe ankamutchula kuti “Adadi oyipa" anali, monga adandiuza, anamugwira iye. Ndinasumira madandaulo ndipo loya wa Julian anasintha nthawi yomweyo, akumandiimba mlandu wa PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). Ndinaweruzidwa wolakwa pokangana mwana wanga ndi bambo ake, kuwongolera. Ndiwo fashoni ya atate ku United States, ndi owonjezereka ku France, kudzichinjiriza mwanjira imeneyi pamene amayi amadzudzula nkhanza za makolo. Bogus syndrome iyi, yosadziwika ndi WHO, ndi chida cha okhota. Mwana wanga wamkazi ankakuwa nthawi iliyonse pamene anali ndi chibwenzi ndi bambo ake, ankabisala pansi pa bedi lake, anakana kuti ndimuveke.
Posintha zinthu, ndikuvomereza kuchedwa kwathu, Julian adandiimba mlandu wothyola ubongo wake, komanso kukhala chopinga pa ubale wawo. Kenako anakumana ndi Alicha. Ndinkayembekeza kuti kupezeka kwa mkazi ameneyu kudzamusokoneza pa chikoka chomwe anali nacho pa mwana wakeyu. Pamene ndinkayesetsa kuteteza Gwendolyn, m’pamenenso ndinkaika pangozi yoti andilanditse. Ziyenera kunenedwa kuti Julian anali ndi mphatso ya chikoka cha opotoza a narcissistic. Akhoza kufotokoza maganizo ake, kudzifotokoza yekha ndi mtendere wa Olympian, popanda kulola chirichonse kusonyeza mkwiyo umene unamuzindikiritsa mwamsanga pamene tinakumana maso ndi maso.
Ndinkaona kuti moyo wa mwana wanga wamkazi uli pachiswe
nthawiyi, Gwendolyn anali kukomoka, wodedwa ndi apongozi watsopanoyu yemwe adamuwona ngati chithunzi changa, choncho wotsutsana naye wakale. Mokhotakhota monga Julian, Alicha ankafuna tenga mphamvu pa mwana wanga wamkazi, adamumeta osafunsa maganizo anga, ndipo adamusambitsa atangofika pamalo awo kuti amuchotse mafuta onunkhira anga ongoganiza. Tsiku lina, ndinauza mkhalapakati kuti Gwendolyn kukhala ndi foni yam'manja kuti amutsimikizire. Bambo ake anakuwa kuti ali ndi zaka 7 zikhoza kuwononga maliseche ake! Mkhalapakatiyo sanapeze chilichonse chodandaula. Mwana wanga wamkazi ankabwera kunyumba nthawi zina zikhadabo, akadali misozi, wosimidwa. Ndiyeno tsiku lina Gwendolyn anandiuza kuti anali wokonzeka kudumpha pawindo kuti asabwerere kwa atate wake. Ndinapita ku France ndi Gwendolyn patchuthi chachilimwe, kumene ndinapita naye kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo amene, atachenjezedwa ndi mawu a Gwendolyn, anapanga lingaliro. nenani kwa wozenga milandu kuchokera ku Quimper. Womalizayo anatipempha kuti tikhalebe m’gawo la Chifalansa panthaŵi ya kufufuzako. Julian anandiimba mlandu woba zapadziko lonse lapansi pansi pa Msonkhano wa Civil Aspects of International Kubedwa Ana. Ndinamaliza kuti apambane chifukwa chothandizidwa ndi loya wabwino kwambiri. Gwendolyn wapulumutsidwa ndipo Julian sakutiopsezanso. Timakhala limodzi wokondwa ndi wamtendere, ku Brittany komwe nthawi zambiri timamvetsera mafunde olimbikitsa. Koma ndi a ndewu yopanda chifundo zomwe zidayenera kuperekedwa kuti pamapeto pake timve kulira kwa mwana wanga. ”
Mafunso ndi Jessica Bussaume
Pezani umboni wa Caroline Bréhat mu "Mauvais Père", ed. Mabwalo.