Kugonana kwenikweni: m'malo enieni kapena bonasi yabwino kwa awiri?

Mutu wa kugonana sudzatha kutisangalatsa. Sitikufuna kulimbana nazo zokha: timakhudzidwa ndi momwe "zakonzedwera", zomwe zimakhudza ubwino wake, zomwe zimachitika pa moyo wapamtima.

Tili ndi magwero ambiri azidziwitso omwe tili nawo: zolemba pa intaneti, mabuku, maphunziro amakanema. Ngati pali chikhumbo chofuna kuphunzira zambiri ndikukulitsa zolemba za bedi, pali mwayi wambiri.

Imodzi mwa njira zodziwika bwino zokometsera ubale wapamtima ndi kugonana kwenikweni, kapena "virt." Uwu ndi njira yolumikizirana yomwe anthu omwe ali m'malo ochezera amasinthanitsa mauthenga osewetsa, zithunzi, makanema ndi mafayilo amawu kuti adzipatse okha komanso okondedwa awo chisangalalo chakugonana.

N'chifukwa chiyani anthu amapewa kugonana kwenikweni?

Zimachitika kuti mnzanuyo akupereka kuyesa china chatsopano, pamene winayo ndi wamanyazi komanso wamantha. Inde, mitundu yonse ya kugonana ingathe kuchitidwa pokhapokha mutagwirizana. Koma chifukwa chokana sichingakhale kusafuna kuchita, mwachitsanzo, «wirth». Mfundo yake ingakhale m’kuyanjana kwa kugonana kwa anthu aŵiri, limodzinso ndi kuyandikana kwamaganizo.

Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti okwatirana amabwera kwa katswiri ndi pempho la kugonana, ndipo ntchitoyo imayamba ndikuwongolera kuyanjana kwawo. Ndipo pokhapo mungapitirire kukambirana za ubwenzi wapamtima.

N’chifukwa chiyani wina m’banja angasamale ndi kugonana kwenikweni? Izi zimachitika chifukwa cha kusakhulupirirana. Anthu akuwopa kuti mnzawo wamasiku ano akhoza kutumiza makalata kapena kanema wapamtima pa intaneti mawa, kugawana ndi abwenzi (nthawi zina izi zimachitikadi). Kuvomereza mnzanu kuti simukumukhulupirira ndizovuta. Choncho, n’zosavuta kuti munthu anene kuti iye (kapena kuti) sakonda kugonana ali patali, kapena kuti uku ndi kupusa, wolowa m’malo.

Ndipo wina safuna kulemberana makalata ongoseweretsa chifukwa akupumula patali ndi mnzake. Amafuna kukhala payekha, osati zenizeni, koma ubwenzi wapamtima.

Ubwino wa pensulo ndi chiyani?

Zoonadi, kugonana kwenikweni kungachitidwe ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira kotheratu. Ndipo chidaliro ichi sichiyenera kuzikidwa pa "Ndimakhulupirira chifukwa ndili m'chikondi", koma pa umboni womwe ulipo kale wa khalidwe la munthu.

Ngati vuto la chikhulupiliro litathetsedwa, ndiye kuti mutha kumvera nokha - ndi tsankho lotani lomwe limakulepheretsani kuyesa kugonana kotere. Ndiyenera kunena kuti Wirth alidi ndi zabwino zambiri.

Kugonana mwachilungamo…

• Njira yofunikira kwambiri yosunga ubale wapamtima kwa omwe akukakamizidwa kuti azikhala kutali kwa nthawi yayitali.
• Zimathandiza kumasula - nthawi zambiri kwa munthu wamanyazi zimakhala zosavuta kulemba chinachake chosewera kuposa kunena. Ndipo kukambirana za kugonana pa foni n’kosavuta kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi moyo.
• Zimathandiza kulimbikitsa banja, kusunga abwenzi kuti asaperekedwe komanso kutuluka kwa zolaula (zomwe zimakhala zofala kwambiri mwa amuna).
• Imathandiza kukonzanso maubwenzi. Atapatsidwa homuweki kwa sabata kuti azilankhulana tsiku lililonse kudzera mu mauthenga ogonana, makasitomala amavomereza kuti kukopeka kwawo kwakula kwambiri.
• Physiologically otetezeka. Panthawiyi, sizingatheke kutenga mimba kapena kutenga matenda opatsirana pogonana (matenda opatsirana pogonana), zikhoza kuchitika panthawi ya kusamba.

Momwe mungagwirizane

Zimachitika kuti bwenzi limodzi limalimbikitsa kuyambitsa zamatsenga, kuphatikizapo kugwiritsa ntchito «wirth», ndipo yachiwiri ndi yotsutsana kwambiri ndi mankhwala atsopano, ndipo makamaka kugonana patali. Zotani pankhaniyi?

1. Poyamba, okondedwa amayenera kufotokoza mfundo zawo molondola momwe angathere. Ndikofunika kuti aliyense amvetse chifukwa chake wokondedwayo akufuna kapena, mosiyana, sakufuna kuchita chinachake. Izi zimachitika m'mabanja: zovuta m'dera limodzi la maubale a uXNUMXbuXNUMX nthawi zambiri amalankhula za zovuta kwina. Monga tanenera kale, mu nkhani iyi, chifukwa kungakhale kupanda kukhulupirira mnzako kapena mtundu wina wa kusamvana zobisika chifukwa cha mavuto m'banja, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale nkhani zachuma. Kapena mwina kudzikayikira kwa mmodzi wa okondedwa.
2. Ndiye ndi bwino kuona momwe kusiyana kumeneku kungathetsedwere.
3. Katswiri wa zamaganizo a m'banja ndi wodziwa za kugonana nthawi zonse adzathandiza okwatirana kupeza njira zabwino zothetsera kusiyana kwa kugonana ndikusintha moyo wapamtima.