Kwa ambiri aife, kukhala tokha ndi malingaliro athu ndizovuta kwambiri. Kodi timachita bwanji ndipo ndife okonzeka kuchita chiyani, ngati titha kuthawa pazokambirana zamkati?
Nthawi zambiri, tikamanena kuti sitikuchita kalikonse, tikutanthauza kuti tikuchita zazing'ono, kupha nthawi. Koma m’lingaliro lenileni la kusachitapo kanthu, ambiri a ife timayesetsa kupeŵa, chifukwa ndiye timasiyidwa tokha ndi malingaliro athu. Izi zingayambitse kusapeza kotero kuti malingaliro athu nthawi yomweyo amayamba kuyang'ana mwayi uliwonse kuti tipewe kukambirana kwamkati ndikusintha ku zokopa zakunja.
Kugwedezeka kwamagetsi kapena kulingalira?
Izi zikuwonetsedwa ndi zoyeserera zingapo zomwe gulu la akatswiri amisala ochokera ku Harvard University ndi University of Virginia.
Koyamba mwa izi, ophunzira adapemphedwa kuti azikhala okha mphindi 15 m'chipinda chovuta, chokhala ndi zida zochepa kuti aganizirepo kanthu. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, anapatsidwa zinthu ziwiri: kuti asadzuke pampando komanso kuti asagone. Ambiri mwa ophunzirawo anaona kuti kunali kovuta kwa iwo kuika maganizo awo pa chinachake, ndipo pafupifupi theka anavomereza kuti kuyesako kunali kosasangalatsa kwa iwo.
Pakuyesa kwachiwiri, otenga nawo mbali adalandira kugunda kwamagetsi pang'ono m'dera la akakolo. Iwo anafunsidwa kuti aone momwe zinalili zowawa komanso ngati anali okonzeka kupereka ndalama zochepa kuti asamvenso ululu umenewu. Pambuyo pake, ophunzirawo adayenera kuthera nthawi yokha, monga momwe adayesera koyamba, ndi kusiyana kumodzi: ngati akufuna, atha kukumananso ndi kugwedezeka kwamagetsi.
Kukhala tokha ndi malingaliro athu kumabweretsa kusapeza bwino, chifukwa chake nthawi yomweyo timagwira mafoni athu munjira yapansi panthaka komanso m'mizere.
Chotsatiracho chinadabwitsa ofufuza okha. Atasiyidwa okha, ambiri amene anali ofunitsitsa kulipira kuti apeŵe kuwombedwa ndi magetsi anadzipangira okha mchitidwe wopweteka umenewu kamodzi kokha. Mwa amuna, panali 67% mwa anthu otere, mwa akazi 25%.
Zotsatira zofananazo zinapezedwa poyesera anthu okalamba, kuphatikizapo azaka za 80. "Kukhala okha kwa otenga nawo mbali ambiri kunayambitsa kusapeza kotero kuti adadzivulaza okha mwakufuna kwawo, kuti adzisokoneze okha pamalingaliro awo," ofufuzawo anamaliza.
Ndicho chifukwa chake, nthawi zonse tikakhala tokha opanda chochita - m'galimoto yapansi panthaka, pamzere wa kuchipatala, kuyembekezera ndege pa eyapoti - nthawi yomweyo timagwira zida zathu kuti tiwononge nthawi.
Kusinkhasinkha: Pewani Maganizo Ankhanza
Ichinso ndicho chifukwa chimene ambiri amalephera kusinkhasinkha, akulemba motero mtolankhani wa sayansi James Kingsland m’buku lake lakuti The Mind of Siddhartha. Ndi iko komwe, tikakhala chete ndi maso otseka, malingaliro athu amayamba kuyendayenda momasuka, kulumpha kuchokera kumodzi kupita ku mnzake. Ndipo ntchito ya wosinkhasinkha ndi kuphunzira kuzindikira maonekedwe a maganizo ndi kuwasiya. Ndi njira iyi yokha yomwe tingakhazikitsire malingaliro athu.
“Kaŵirikaŵiri anthu amanyansidwa akauzidwa za kuzindikira kuchokera kumbali zonse,” akutero James Kingsland. Komabe, iyi ikhoza kukhala njira yokhayo yothanirana ndi kutengeka kwaukali kwa malingaliro athu. Pokhapokha pophunzira kuzindikira momwe zimawulukira mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo, monga mipira ya mu pinball, tingathe kuwayang'ana mopanda chidwi ndikuyimitsa kutuluka uku.
Kufunika kwa kusinkhasinkha kumatsindikanso ndi olemba phunziroli. “Popanda maphunziro oterowo,” iwo akumaliza motero, “mwachiwonekere munthu angakonde ntchito iriyonse m’malo mosinkhasinkha, ngakhale imene ingam’pweteke ndi imene, moyenerera, ayenera kuipeŵa.”