"Ndikudziwa kuti umandiona ngati wotayika!", "Nthawi zonse umalonjeza, koma sumachita kalikonse!", "Ndikadaganiza kuti ..." Nthawi zambiri, polankhulana ndi ena, makamaka pamitu yofunika komanso yovuta, timapeza kuti tili mumkhalidwe wovuta. mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya misampha. Kukambitsirana kumachepa, ndipo nthawi zina kulankhulana kumalephera. Kodi kupewa misampha ambiri?
Atadula foni Max anazindikira kuti walepheranso. Ankafuna kuti ayambirenso chibwenzi ndi mwana wake wamkazi wachikulire, ndipo anakumananso ndi mtsikanayo ...
Anna anafunika kulimbana ndi zinthu zofanana ndi zimenezi kuntchito. Kwa iye ankaona kuti bwanayo ankamuda. Nthawi zonse akamamulankhula amatsika ndi mawu amodzi omwe sanamuthandize kalikonse. Atamufunsa kuti afotokoze mwatsatanetsatane, anamulozera kwa wantchito wina, yemwenso sanathe kunena chilichonse chothandiza. Atasokonezeka, Anna anayesa kufunsanso funsoli, koma poyankha adatchedwa wosatsimikiza komanso "womvera chisoni kwambiri".
Maria ndi Philip anapita ku lesitilanti kukakondwerera zaka khumi ndi chimodzi za ukwati wawo. Kukambitsiranako kunayamba bwino, koma Philip anadandaula mwadzidzidzi kuti nkhanu zomwe zinali m’zakudyazo zinali zodula kwambiri. Maria anali atatopa kale kumvetsera nthawi zonse madandaulo okhudza kusowa kwa ndalama komanso kukwera mtengo kwamitengo, ndipo anakhumudwa kwambiri. Zimenezi zinakwiyitsa mwamuna wake, ndipo sanalankhulenso nthawi yonse ya chakudya chamadzulocho.
Zonsezi ndi zitsanzo za misampha yomwe timagweramo ngakhale titayesetsa kukhala ndi zokambirana zolimbikitsa. Mwana wamkazi wa Max ankangofuna kupeŵa kukambiranako mwaukali. Abwana ake a Anna anamuchitira mwano mosapita m’mbali. Ndipo Mary ndi Filipo adayamba mikangano yomweyi yomwe idasokoneza onse awiri.
Ganizirani mitundu ya misampha yomwe anthu ambiri amagweramo.
1. Kuganiza pa mfundo ya «Zonse kapena palibe». Timawona zinthu ziwiri zokha - zakuda ndi zoyera: "Nthawi zonse mumachedwa", "Sindipeza chilichonse chabwino!", "Zidzakhala izi kapena izo, ndipo palibe china."
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: musakakamize wokambirana nawo kuti asankhe pakati pa zinthu ziwiri monyanyira, perekani kusagwirizana koyenera.
2. Kuchulukirachulukira. Timakokomeza kuchuluka kwa zovuta zapayekha: "Kuvutitsa uku sikudzatha!", "Sindidzalimbana ndi izi!", "Izi sizidzatha!".
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: kumbukirani kuti mawu amodzi oipa - anu kapena olankhula nawo - sakutanthauza kuti kukambirana kwatha.
3. Zosefera zamaganizo. Timayang'ana pa ndemanga imodzi yolakwika, kunyalanyaza zabwino zonse. Mwachitsanzo, timangowona kudzudzulidwa, kuiwala kuti tisanalandire mayamiko angapo.
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: Musanyalanyaze ndemanga zabwino ndipo musamachite chidwi kwambiri ndi zoipa.
4. Kusalemekeza kupambana. Timachepetsa kufunikira kwa zomwe takwaniritsa kapena kupambana kwa interlocutor. “Zonse zomwe mwapeza sizitanthauza kanthu. Kodi mwandichitira kalikonse posachedwapa?”, “Mumalankhula nane chifukwa cha chisoni.”
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: yesetsani kuika maganizo anu pa zabwino.
5. "Kuwerenga maganizo." Timaganiza kuti ena amatiganizira molakwika. "Ndikudziwa kuti ukuganiza kuti ndine chitsiru", "Ayenera kundikwiyira."
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: fufuzani malingaliro anu. Wati wakukwiyilani? Ngati sichoncho, musaganize zoyipa kwambiri. Malingaliro otero amasokoneza kukhulupirika ndi kumasuka polankhulana.
6. Kuyesa kulosera zam'tsogolo. Timalingalira zotsatira zoyipa kwambiri. "Sadzakonda lingaliro langa", "Palibe chomwe chidzachitike."
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: osaneneratu kuti zonse zidzatha moyipa.
7. Kukokomeza kapena kunena mochepera. Ife mwina “timapanga chiwombankhanga” kapena sitiona chinthu chofunika kwambiri.
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: yang'anani bwino nkhaniyo - zonse zimadalira. Osayesa kufunafuna tanthauzo lobisika pomwe palibe.
8. Kugonjera ku zomverera. Timakhulupirira mopanda nzeru maganizo athu. "Ndimamva ngati chitsiru - ndikuganiza kuti ndine", "Ndimazunzidwa ndi zolakwa - zikutanthauza kuti ndine wolakwa."
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: vomerezani malingaliro anu, koma musawawonetse pokambirana ndipo musasunthire udindo wawo kwa interlocutor.
9. Mawu omwe ali ndi mawu oti "ayenera." Timadzudzula tokha komanso ena pogwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "ayenera", "ayenera", "ayenera".
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: pewani mawu awa. Mawu akuti “ayenera” amatanthauza kudziimba mlandu kapena kuchita manyazi, ndipo zingakhale zosasangalatsa kwa wokamba nkhaniyo kumva kuti “ayenera” kuchita zinazake.
10. Kulemba zilembo. Timadzisala tokha kapena ena chifukwa cholakwitsa. "Ndine wotayika", "Ndiwe chitsiru."
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: yesetsani kuti musatchule dzina, kumbukirani kuti zitha kuvulaza kwambiri malingaliro.
11. Kuneneza. Timaimba mlandu ena kapena ife eni, ngakhale iwo (kapena ife) sangakhale ndi udindo pa zomwe zimachitika. “Ndi mlandu wanga kuti munakwatirana naye!”, “Ndi mlandu wanu kuti ukwati wathu ukutha!”.
Momwe mungalambalale msampha: tenga udindo pa moyo wako ndipo usadzudzule ena pa zomwe alibe udindo.
Mwa kuphunzira kupeŵa misampha imeneyi, mudzatha kulankhulana bwino ndi mogwira mtima. Musanayambe kukambirana zofunikira kapena zozama, muyenera kuganiziranso zomwe mwalembazo.