Mukawerenga makochi otchuka ndi «aphunzitsi», mutha kuganiza kuti kuunikira kukudikirira kale. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani tikadali kutali ndi colinga? Kodi pali cholakwika ndi ife, kapena njira zosavuta zakukula kwauzimu ndichinyengo?
Ngati mumakonda kugwiritsa ntchito Instagram pafupipafupi (bungwe lochita zinthu monyanyira loletsedwa ku Russia) kapena malo ena ochezera a pa Intaneti, mwina mwawonapo zolemba zambiri zokhudza positivity, kudzithandiza, yoga, ndi tiyi wobiriwira. Ndipo zonse zilibe gluten. Ambiri aife timagwirizanitsa kusala kudya koteroko ndi uzimu ndi mphamvu zabwino. Sindingachitire mwina koma kuvomereza. Zofalitsa zoterezi zimatipatsadi maganizo abwino.
Koma vuto ndiloti m'makalata oterowo sitiuzidwa nkhani yonse, ndipo tikangochotsa pa intaneti, timamvanso kuti chinachake chalakwika ndi ife. Tili ndi mantha. Timaona kuti ndife osatetezeka. Ndipotu, zikuoneka kuti onsewa «influencers» ndi gurus kale kwathunthu anaganiza miyoyo yawo. Ndikuwuzani chinsinsi chaching'ono: palibe aliyense wa ife amene adaganizapo za moyo wathu.
Ndikosatheka kufananiza zovuta zonse komanso kusiyanasiyana kwa miyoyo yathu kukhala positi imodzi kapena yoga. Ndipo kuchokera muzondichitikira ine ndikhoza kunena kuti njira yopita ku chikondi ndi kuwala ikudutsa muzovuta zambiri ndi zochitika zosasangalatsa. Instagram (bungwe lochita zinthu monyanyira loletsedwa ku Russia) nthawi zambiri imakhala ngati yodula mphindi zabwino kwambiri komanso kuzindikira bwino.
Ndizosavuta kutengeka ndi gurus chifukwa amawoneka kuti ali ndi mayankho onse ndipo amakhala ndi chiyembekezo nthawi zonse zivute zitani. Nditasainidwa ndi anthu angapo otchuka omwe amadzitcha kuti ndi aphunzitsi auzimu, ndidawayika pampando ndikunyalanyaza mphunzitsi wanga wamkati.
Mukukulabe mu uzimu ngakhale mutakhala opanda pake ndikukana machitidwe abwino monga yoga.
Komanso nthawi zonse ndinkadziyerekezera ndi iwo, chifukwa ndinalibe nthawi yosangalala maola 24, masiku 7 pa sabata, mosiyana ndi iwo. Mwamwayi, izo zinatha mofulumira. Ndipo ngakhale ndimalemekeza ndi kulemekeza njira ya munthu aliyense, tsopano ndikumvetsetsa kuti anthu omwe amayesetsa kukhala owona ali pafupi ndi ine, osati magurus omwe amangolankhula zabwino zokha, kunyalanyaza mbali yamdima ya moyo.
Ndimalimbikitsidwa ndi aphunzitsi omwe amagawana zovuta zawo ndikuzisintha m'dzina la chikondi, osati omwe amati amakhala osangalala nthawi zonse, abwino komanso omwe ali ndi mayankho onse. Njira ya uzimu ndi ulendo waumwini. Zimatsogolera kudziko lanu lenileni kuti mutha kupanga zisankho kutengera umwini wanu wapamwamba.
"Ine" uyu ndi wodzala ndi chikondi, chisangalalo ndi nzeru. Imadziwa zomwe zili zabwino kwa inu. "Ine" uyu akufuna kuti muphunzire kudzikonda, kudzikwaniritsa, kumva chisangalalo ndikugonjetsa zovuta ndi olemekezeka. Izi sizingawonekere muzolemba pa Instagram (bungwe lochita zinthu monyanyira loletsedwa ku Russia). Tsiku lililonse lanjira iyi limalonjeza zatsopano zomwe zapezedwa komanso zapaulendo.
Padzafika masiku amene mudzakhala onyansa ndipo palibe munthu amene adzakhala mlendo kwa inu. Osadandaula, mukukulabe mu uzimu ngakhale mutakhala "oipa" ndikukana machitidwe abwino monga yoga.
Ndinu amtengo wapatali, okondedwa, oyenerera zabwino zonse m'moyo. Kukongola kwa njira yauzimu ndiko? pamene mukupeza chikondi chosatha mkati mwanu ndikulumikizana ndi kukongola kwanu ndi padera, mumayambanso kukondana ndi umunthu wanu. Mumayamba kuvomereza kuti nkwachibadwa kumva malingaliro onse. Pezani njira zowonera zomwe zikukuyenererani.
M’chidziŵitso changa, ntchito—kupita kunyumba kwawekha—imayamba ndi kuvomereza kosavuta kuti chinachake chikusoweka, kuti umadzimva kukhala wosiyidwa, wotsekeredwa, kapena wopereŵera. Kuchokera apa, muyenera kupita mumdima, osati kutsutsa ndi positivity.
Mphunzitsi wachibuda ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo John Welwood anadzudzula chizoloŵezi chogwiritsa ntchito malingaliro ndi machitidwe auzimu kuti apewe zovuta zamaganizo zomwe sizinathe kuthetsedwa ndi zowawa zosachiritsika m'zaka za m'ma XNUMX, ndipo adayambitsanso mawu akuti "kupewa uzimu." Panjira ya uzimu, muyenera kuyang'anizana ndi zikhulupiriro zanu molunjika ndikuphunzira kusiya ndikukonzanso zomwe zimakupwetekani.
Muyenera kuyang'anizana ndi mbali za inu nokha ndi moyo wanu zomwe mukuchita nazo manyazi ndipo m'malo mwake munganyalanyaze, zomwe mungafune kuzichotsa. Muyenera kusiya mabala akale ndikusiya ludzu lobwezera anthu ndi zochitika zomwe zakukhumudwitsani. Mudzakumana ndi zikumbukiro zowawa ndikutonthoza mwana wanu wamkati. Muyenera kudziyankha moona mtima funso: Kodi cholinga chanu chosintha ndi champhamvu bwanji?
Pano pali ena mwa mafunso amene ndinayenera kuyankha lero: “Kodi ndikufunadi kukhululukira ndi kupitirizabe? Kodi ndine wokonzeka kuchitira zilonda zakale monga mauthenga kapena maphunziro? Kodi ndine wokonzeka kupanga zolakwa zatsopano, pozindikira kuti palibe amene ali wangwiro? Kodi ndine wokonzeka kukayikira zikhulupiriro zomwe zimandipangitsa kukhala wopunthwa komanso wopanda mphamvu? Kodi ndine wokonzeka kutuluka mu zibwenzi zomwe zikundifooketsa? Kodi ndine wokonzeka kusintha moyo wanga kuti ndichiritsidwe? Kodi ndine wokonzeka kukhulupirira moyo, kusiya zomwe ziyenera kupita ndikuvomereza zomwe ziyenera kukhala?
Zindikirani zambiri zinadza kwa ine pamene ndinachedwetsa mokwanira kuti ndidzidziwitse ndekha.
Poyankha mafunso amenewa, ndinalira kwambiri. Nthaŵi zambiri sindinkafuna kudzuka pabedi chifukwa ndinkangobwereza zolakwa zanga. Ndinayeretsa moyo wanga ndipo nthawi zina ndimakhala ndi nthawi zowawa. Ndinayamba njira iyi kuti ndiyanjanenso ndi ine ndekha, ndi chikhalidwe changa chaumulungu ndi chisangalalo chomwe chinali chitandithawa kale.
Kukumananso kumeneku sikunachitike mwamatsenga. Ndinayenera kuchita "homuweki". Ndinayamba kusintha pang’onopang’ono zakudya zanga, ngakhale kuti ndimavutikabe ndi zimenezi. Ndinali ndi zokambirana zovuta pamene kunali kofunika kuti ndinene zomwe ndikuganiza. Ndinapeza njira zatsopano zomwe zinandithandiza kuti ndisamagwirizane ndi thupi langa-kuphatikizapo qui-gong.
Ndinapeza njira yopangira zinthu komanso kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino - mwachitsanzo, ndinayamba kujambula. Ndinabweranso ku gawo lililonse la maphunziro ndi mtima wotseguka, chikhumbo chofuna kuphunzira china chatsopano ponena za ine, ndi chikhumbo chosiya machitidwe akale, zizolowezi, ndi malingaliro omwe anandisunga.
Ndipo ngakhale kuti ndidzakhala ndikusintha tsiku ndi tsiku malinga ndi moyo wanga, ndimaona kuti tsopano ndili pafupi kwambiri ndi choonadi changa. Ndipo ndizosavuta kuti ndifotokoze. Iyi ndiyo njira yowona. Zindikirani zambiri zinadza kwa ine pamene ndinachedwetsa mokwanira kuti ndidzidziwitse ndekha.
Mwachitsanzo, ndinazindikira kuti ndinakhala moyo wanga wonse monga munthu wamba, pamene kwenikweni chenicheni changa chinali kudekha ndi kulankhula momasuka. Ndimalimbitsanso mphamvu zanga m'malo opanda phokoso ndikudzidyetsa ndekha ndikakhala ngati ndasiya kudzigwira. Sindinapeze izi nthawi yomweyo. Ndinayenera kupita kutali ndikuchotsa zigawo zambiri. Ndinafika pa chowonadi changa mwa kumasula malingaliro ndikusiya zikhulupiriro zomwe zinangolemetsa ine komanso zozikidwa mu mantha ndi kukayika.
Zinatenga nthawi. Kotero ziribe kanthu kuchuluka kwa madzi a masamba omwe mumamwa, ziribe kanthu kuchuluka kwa yoga kuti mutenge mawonekedwe, ngati simugwira ntchito ndi maganizo anu, zidzakhala zovuta kuti mupitirize kusintha kwa nthawi yaitali. Kuchiritsa maganizo ndi gawo lovuta kwambiri la ntchitoyo. Imeneyi ndi ntchito imene ndinaipeŵa mpaka ndinadzimva kukhala wokonzeka kulimbana ndi zophophonya zanga, zowawa zakale, ndi zizoloŵezi zomwe ndinaphunzira.
Kubwereza mawu abwino ndikuwonetsa mtendere ndikosavuta, koma kusintha kwenikweni kumayambira mkati.
Kusintha kunayamba kuchitika nditakulitsa chidwi chenicheni cha moyo wanga ndi momwe ndikukhalira. Ndinatsimikiza mtima kulimbana ndi zowawa zanga ndipo ndinalimba mtima kuti ndizindikire zomwe zimandiyambitsa. Sindinathetse mantha anga onse mwamatsenga, koma tsopano ndimayang'ana moyo wanga mosiyana ndikuchita zinthu zomwe zimandithandiza kudzimva kuti ndimakondedwa ndi kutetezedwa.
Ngati ndikumana ndi zovuta, ndili ndi maziko olimba a chikondi, kudzimvera chisoni komanso kumvetsetsa kuti kuvutika ndi gawo la moyo. Ndimayesetsa kudya bwino kuti ndizikhala ndi mtendere wamumtima. Ndimapanga tsiku lililonse. Ndimasankha chinthu chimodzi tsiku lililonse - mantras, mapemphero omwe ndidasinthira ndekha, malo osambira amchere, kuyang'anira mpweya, kuyenda kwachilengedwe? - kukuthandizani kuthana ndi zovuta. Ndipo ndimayesetsa kusuntha tsiku lililonse.
Zonsezi zimandithandiza kuti ndizilumikizana ndi ine ndekha. Kubwereza mawu abwino ndikuwonetsa mtendere ndikosavuta, koma kusintha kwenikweni kumayambira mkati. Mukangosiya kubisala mumdima, padzakhala malo achikondi ndi kuwala. Ndipo mdima ukadzakuchezeranso, kuwala kwamkati kudzakupatsa mphamvu kuti upirire zovuta zilizonse. Kuwala uku kudzakutsogolerani kunyumba nthawi zonse. Pitirizani - mukuchita bwino!