Zochitika zimatha kukhudza mbali zonse za moyo wathu, ndipo sitingazindikire. Kodi mungabwezere bwanji kuwongolera ndikukhalanso woyang'anira zochitikazo, makamaka ngati mwakumana ndi vuto lalikulu?
Ngati mwakumana ndi zowawa posachedwa, mukuda nkhawa kwambiri ndi zinazake, kapena mukungopsinjika nthawi zonse, mwina mukudziwa kuti dziko lozungulira inu silikuwoneka. Mwinamwake moyo wanu wonse tsopano walumikizana panthawi ina, ndipo simukuwonanso china chilichonse koma chinthu chomwe mukuvutika nacho.
Nkhawa ndi kuzunzika ngati "kulanda madera." Amachokera kudera limodzi la moyo wathu, kenako amafalikira kwa ena onse.
Zowopsa kapena chochitika chilichonse cholakwika chimatipangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa. Tikakumana ndi anthu kapena zochitika zina zomwe zimatikumbutsa zowawa zathu, timada nkhawa kwambiri. Tikakhala ndi nkhawa, timapewa kukumana ndi mavuto amene angatibweze m’maganizo, kumalo kumene tinavutika. Koma kawirikawiri, njira iyi si yabwino monga momwe tikuganizira, akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo, kasamalidwe ka kupsinjika maganizo ndi katswiri wotopa kwambiri Susan Haas.
“Ngati titchinjiriza mopambanitsa ubongo wathu wodera nkhaŵa, zinthu zimangowonjezereka,” akufotokoza motero katswiriyo. Ndipo ngati sitisiya kuikonda mopambanitsa, dziko lathu likhoza kucheperachepera.
Kupsinjika maganizo kapena kutonthozedwa?
Titasiyana ndi mnzathu, timayesetsa kuti tisapite ku malo odyera komwe tinkasangalala limodzi. Timasiya kumvetsera magulu omwe tinapitako limodzi kumakonsati, timasiya kugula keke yamtundu winawake, kapenanso kusintha njira imene tinkayendera limodzi kupita ku sitima yapansi panthaka.
Malingaliro athu ndi osavuta: timasankha pakati pa kupsinjika ndi kutonthozedwa. Ndipo m'kanthawi kochepa, ndi zabwino. Komabe, ngati tikufuna kukhala ndi moyo wokhutiritsa, tifunikira kutsimikiza mtima ndi cholinga. Tiyenera kubwezeretsa dziko lathu.
Izi sizikhala zophweka, koma zosangalatsa kwambiri, Haas ndi wotsimikiza. Tidzayenera kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zathu zonse zowunikira.
Nazi zina zomwe muyenera kukumbukira kwa aliyense amene akufuna kukulitsa masomphenya awo ndikubwezeretsanso madera "ogwidwa" ndi zoopsa:
- Nthawi iliyonse tikapeza gawo la moyo wathu lomwe lakhudzidwa ndi kuchepetsedwa ndi zowawa, timakhala ndi mwayi wina wobwezeretsanso gawo ladziko lathu lapansi. Tikazindikira kuti timamvetsera nyimbo nthawi zambiri kapena sitinapite ku zisudzo kwa nthawi yayitali, tingavomereze tokha zomwe zikuchitika ndikuyamba kuchitapo kanthu: kugula matikiti opita kumalo osungirako zinthu zakale, kapena kuyatsa nyimbo pa. kadzutsa.
- Tingathe kulamuliranso maganizo athu. M'malo mwake, timalamulira chilichonse bwino kuposa momwe timaganizira - makamaka m'mutu mwathu ndife ambuye.
- Neuroplasticity, kuthekera kwa ubongo kuphunzira kudzera muzochitikira, kungakhale kothandiza kwambiri kwa ife. "Timaphunzitsa" ubongo wathu kuchita mantha, kubisala, kupewa mavuto ngakhale zoopsa zitadutsa. Momwemonso, titha kukonzanso chidziwitso chathu, kupanga mndandanda watsopano wophatikizana nawo. Kupita ku malo osungiramo mabuku kumene tinkakhala limodzi ndipo popanda zomwe timaphonya, tikhoza kugula bukhu lomwe takhala tikuliyang'ana kwa nthawi yaitali, koma sitinayerekeze kugula chifukwa cha mtengo wapamwamba. Popeza tadzigulira tokha maluwa, tidzayang'ana popanda kuwawa ndi vase yomwe idaperekedwa kwa omwe adatisiya.
- Osathamanga patsogolo pa locomotive! Pamene takhumudwitsidwa kapena kuzunzika, timakonda kuyembekezera nthawi yomwe timamasulidwa ndikuyesera kuyibweretsa pafupi ndi mtengo uliwonse. Koma m’nthawi yamavutoyi, ndi bwino kuchita zinthu zing’onozing’ono zomwe sizingatigwetsenso.
Inde, ngati nkhawa kapena zizindikiro zokhudzana ndi zoopsa zimapangitsa moyo wanu kukhala wosadziwika, muyenera kupempha thandizo. Koma kumbukirani kuti inuyo muyenera kukana, osati kutaya mtima. “Zambiri za ntchito imeneyi sizidzachitidwa ndi wina aliyense koma ife eni,” akukumbutsa motero Susan Haas. “Choyamba, tiyenera kusankha kuti takhala nazo zokwanira!”
Titha kubwezanso gawo lomwe zomwe takumana nazo "zabera". N'zotheka kuti kumeneko, kupitirira chizimezime - moyo watsopano. Ndipo ife ndife eni ake athunthu.
Za wolemba: Susan Haas ndi wowongolera kupsinjika komanso katswiri wazolimbitsa thupi.