Zamkatimu
Nthawi zina mikhalidwe imakhala yoipa kwambiri kotero kuti timagonjetsedwa ndi malingaliro opanda chiyembekezo ndipo zikuwoneka kuti zidzakhala choncho nthawi zonse. Kutuluka mu chikhalidwe ichi n'kovuta kwambiri, komabe kuyenera kuyesera, akutsimikizira psychotherapist Daniel Matthew.
Kodi kukhala wokangalika, kusokonezeka, kukhala pampando kumatanthauza chiyani? Munthu amene ali mumkhalidwe wotero amaona ngati watsekeredwa m’thambi ndipo satha kusuntha. Zikuoneka kwa iye kuti n’kopanda ntchito kuitana thandizo, chifukwa palibe amene amamuganizira. Izi nthawi zambiri zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi mavuto m'banja, maubwenzi kapena kuntchito, kudzikayikira komanso kusakhutira ndi iwe mwini.
Mkhalidwe umenewu ndi chizindikiro chakuti nthawi yafika yosintha zinazake m’moyo. Komabe, timatsekeredwa mmbuyo ndi mantha ndi kusowa chochita, ndipo zotsatira zake timamira mozama.
MMENE MUNGAtulukire
Kamodzi mumkhalidwe wopanda chiyembekezo, timataya luso loganiza bwino: chirichonse chimaphimbidwa ndi chophimba cha kukhumudwa ndi maganizo ena oipa. Komabe, ndikofunikira kuti musataye mtima. Kupatula apo, pamalo omwe timatengera quagmire, mwayi, zothandizira ndi malangizo zitha kubisika - zidzatithandiza kupeza poyambira.
Mosasamala kanthu za kumverera kopanda chiyembekezo kotheratu, padzakhaladi njira yopulumukira. Nthawi zina zimathandiza kuyang'ana zinthu mosiyana ndikuyesera kusintha maganizo anu. Koma ngati izi zokha sizokwanira, mwina malangizo otsatirawa adzakuthandizani.
Tengani nthawi yowunika zabwino ndi zoyipa
Sikophweka, koma m'pofunika kuunika momwe zinthu zilili. Muzipatula mphindi 15 patsiku kuti muganizire mmene zinthu zilili panopa. Yesetsani kukhala womasuka ndi inu nokha momwe mungathere: ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa zomwe sizimakulolani kuti muchoke pansi.
Ndikofunikiranso kupeza zifukwa zomwe mukuyesa kubisala ndikulemba zilizonse, ngakhale zopanda pake, malingaliro ndi mayankho. Kutenga udindo pazosankha zanu kumatanthauza kubwezeretsanso zochita zanu. Zimatengera khama lalikulu, koma pambuyo pawo pamabwera kudzidalira. Palibe amene angasokoneze chikhumbo chanu chopita patsogolo.
Landirani mkhalidwewo
Kuzindikira mikhalidwe ndiyo sitepe yoyamba yothana nayo. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mukukhutira ndi zomwe zikuchitika. Mukuvomereza zonse momwe zilili kuti musankhe komwe mungapite, konzani masitepe ndikuyamba kupanga njira zatsopano.
Ganizirani zochita zanu
Inde, simukudziwabe choti muchite, koma ganizirani zosankha zilizonse. Mwachitsanzo, lankhulani ndi munthu wopanda tsankho: adzakuthandizani kufotokoza malingaliro ake, mwina, kupereka njira yosayembekezereka yomwe simunakumanepo nayo.
CHINA NDI CHIYANI?
Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti tonsefe timafunikira nthawi yosiyana kuti timasule: zonse zimadalira munthu payekha komanso momwe zinthu zilili. Osadzifananiza ndi ena. Ndinu apadera ndipo mikhalidwe yanu siyofanana kwa aliyense. Kutsogolo kuli njira yovuta yokhala ndi zopinga, osati mpikisano wothamanga. Ngakhale zingawoneke ngati kutenga nthawi yayitali kuti musunthe pang'onopang'ono, iyi ndi njira yothandiza kwambiri.
Nthawi zonse mukaganizira mmene zinthu zilili panopa, ganizirani zimene mukuchita panopa ndipo lembani zimene mwachita kuti muone zimene mwakwanitsa. Inde, n’kofunika kutenga udindo ndi kukonzekera zochita zina, koma n’kofunika kwambiri kuti musadziimbe mlandu chifukwa cha zolakwa zakale ndi zamtsogolo. Nthawi zina muyenera kusintha njira. Kuyesera tsiku ndi tsiku kumathetsa zambiri, koma kupuma ndikofunikira. Kudzisamalira nokha ndi gawo la ndondomeko yotuluka muvutoli. Samalirani thanzi lanu, sangalalani, ndipo yesetsani kulankhulana bwino.
Osawopa kuchedwa ndi zopinga zosayembekezereka. Zopinga zimatha kukulepheretsani, koma kuti mufike ku zomwe mukufuna zili ndi inu. Yang'anani zolephera ndi zovuta ngati mwayi womwe umakhala wamphamvu.
Nthawi zina, ndewuyi imawoneka yopanda phindu chifukwa cha nkhawa komanso zovuta zina zama neurotic monga kusokonezeka kwa chidwi chambiri. Kuti mukhale omasuka kwathunthu, choyamba, muyenera kuthetsa mavuto a maganizo.
Ngati, ngakhale mutayesetsa kwambiri, mukumvabe kuti muli otsekeredwa, psychotherapy ndiye kubetcha kwanu kopambana. Pezani katswiri wodziwa bwino ndipo kumbukirani: zonse zikhala bwino.
Za wolemba: Daniel Matthew ndi katswiri wazamisala wamabanja, psychotherapist, ndi neurotic disorder katswiri.