Kodi mkazi ayenera kuchita chiyani asanakwanitse zaka 30?

"Nthawi ikupita!", "Muli kuti opanda diploma?", "Kodi mukufuna kukhalabe wantchito wakale?!" - machenjezo ndi mafunso oterowo amavutitsa anthu omwe apatuka pamiyezo yovomerezeka ndikukhala mogwirizana ndi zolemba zawo. Kuzunzidwa, kukakamizidwa kudzimva wolakwa ndi kusakwanira.

Mwinamwake mkazi, mosiyana, alibe ngongole kwa aliyense? Osati ndithudi mwanjira imeneyo. Osachepera, tonse timafunika:

1. Zindikirani kuti tilibe ngongole kwa wina aliyense koma ife eni

Zinthu zofunika ndi zimene zimalepheretsa anthu ambiri kukhala ndi moyo wopindulitsadi. Seti ya masitampu ndi malingaliro amachepetsa mwayi wosankha, amayendetsa mu chimango, amaphwanya ndi kumverera kosapiririka kwa maudindo omwe apatsidwa ndipo, chifukwa chake, kumayambitsa neurosis. Azimayi omwe amakhala pansi pa goli la maudindo, nthawi zambiri akafika zaka makumi atatu (ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale kale) amaphimbidwa ndi funde lamphamvu la kukhumudwa chifukwa chosatheka kukhala angwiro ndi kukwaniritsa zoyembekeza zonse.

Choncho mukangozindikira kuti palibe wina aliyense koma inuyo amene ali ndi ulamuliro wolemba buku lothandiza pa moyo wanu, m’pamenenso mudzakhala ndi zaka zosangalala kwambiri.

2. Kupatukana ndi makolo, kusunga unansi wabwino ndi iwo

Pokhala m’banja la makolo, sitingatengere zochita za munthu wamkulu. Mwamaganizidwe, timakhala paubwana, wodalira, ngakhale tidziphikira tokha ndikupeza ndalama.

Ngati musanafike zaka 30 simudzipeza nokha ndi mavuto akuluakulu, zovuta, maudindo ndi zisankho, ndiye kuti mumakhala pachiopsezo chokhalabe "mwana wamkazi wa amayi".

3. Chiritsani ku zoopsa za ubwana

Tsoka ilo, anthu ochepa m'malo a Soviet anali ndi ubwana wabwino. Ambiri atenga nawo ku uchikulire katundu wa madandaulo osakhululukidwa, malingaliro oipa ndi mavuto a maganizo. Koma kukhala nawo si njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli. Zowawa zobisika zaubwana zimatha kusokoneza kukwaniritsa zolinga, kumanga maubwenzi abwino, ndikuwunika mokwanira zenizeni. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti muwakonzere nokha kapena, zikavuta kwambiri, limodzi ndi psychotherapist.

4. Vumbulutsani ndikuvomereza umunthu wanu

Kukhala wekha ndi luso lofunika kwambiri lomwe ambiri amataya akamakula. Timayamba kuyang'ana pozungulira, kuyesa kukondweretsa wina, kuchita zinthu mwachibadwa, kutaya zapadera, kuiwala za luso ndi mphamvu. Wotsutsa Wamkati amadzuka mwa ife, omwe amakana malingaliro, amanyoza zilakolako, ndi kuchepetsa kayendetsedwe ka zolinga.

Ndikofunika kukumbukira m'kupita kwanthawi kuti ndinu amtundu wina, wokhala ndi makhalidwe apadera. Osayesa kukhala munthu wina. M'malo mwake, fufuzani makhalidwe anu ndikukhala omasuka kusonyeza zomwe muli nazo. ⠀

5.Pezani mawonekedwe anu

Masitayelo amatithandiza kufotokoza tokha, ndipo pofika zaka makumi atatu zingakhale bwino kumvetsetsa uthenga womwe mukuyesera kutulutsa kunja, chithunzi chomwe mukufuna kupanga, malingaliro omwe mukufuna kutulutsa mwa ena. Masitayelo amalumikizidwa mosadukiza ndi luso lodziwonetsera. Ndikofunikira kuti mzimayi wamkulu azidziwa bwino bwino kuti adzifotokoze momveka bwino komanso momveka bwino, ngakhale popanda mawu.

6. Fotokozani zimene mumayendera

Mfundo ndiye maziko a moyo wathu. Popanda kumvetsetsa kwawo, sitidziwa zomwe tingadalire, pazifukwa zopangira zosankha, momwe tingakhazikitsire patsogolo; sitidziwa zomwe zimatidyetsa komanso zimatipatsa chidziwitso cha kudzaza kwa moyo.

Kodi chofunika kwambiri kwa inu n’chiyani? Ufulu? Banja? Chitukuko? Chilengedwe? Asanakwane makumi atatu, ndikofunikira kuti muphunzire zoyambira zanu mozungulira ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo wozikidwa pa izo.

7. Pezani cholinga ndikutsatira njira yanu

Ndi cholinga, munthu sayenera kumvetsetsa chinthu chimodzi pa moyo wake, koma ntchito yake yaikulu. Zomwe mumachita bwino kuposa ena, zomwe mumakopeka nazo nthawi zonse. Kuti popanda chimene inu simuli inu. Mwachitsanzo, mumayika tebulo mokongola, kukulunga mphatso za anzanu, kuyang'ana zokongoletsa m'nyumba yanu. Kodi izi zikufanana bwanji? Aestheticization, chikhumbo chopanga kukongola. Iyi ndiye ntchito yofunika kwambiri, cholinga chanu, chomwe mungathe kuchigwiritsa ntchito m'njira zosiyanasiyana.

8. Pezani "paketi yanu"

M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, maunansi ambiri amene amangochitika kokha ndi misonkhano yachiyanjano imatha, ndipo zingawonekere kuti mwasiyidwa nokha, opanda mabwenzi ndi mabwenzi abwino. Kuti izi zisachitike, muyenera kudzizungulira ndi omwe mumalumikizana nawo pazokonda komanso zomwe mumakonda. Pakhale ochepa a iwo, koma adzakhala anthu omwe ali omasuka komanso ofunda, kulumikizana komwe kumadzaza ndi kulimbikitsa.

9. Yambani kusamalira thupi lanu

Ndizofunikira kumvetsetsa msanga momwe tingathere kuti thupi ndi nyumba yathu yamoyo. Iyi si nyumba yobwereka, simungatulukemo ngati chitoliro chaphulika. Chitani mosamala, samalirani thanzi lanu, onetsani kulemera kwanu, pitani kukayezetsa magazi, sewerani masewera, idyani moyenera, samalirani khungu lanu.

10. Phunzirani momwe mungasamalire bwino chuma

Nthawi, ndalama ndi mphamvu ndizofunikira kwambiri zomwe muyenera kuziwongolera, apo ayi maloto onse adzakhalabe zinyumba zamchenga.

Asanakwanitse zaka 30, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti musinthe kuchoka pamalingaliro ogula kupita kubizinesi - kuphunzira momwe mungayikitsire ndalama mwanzeru, osawononga, kutsogolera zoyeserera kumapulojekiti opindulitsa, osawononga kuponya kopanda phindu, kugawa nthawi moyenera, osawononga maola ambiri akuwonera makanema apa TV kapena kukhala pazama TV.

Inde, izi zikhoza kuchitika pambuyo pa makumi atatu. Koma, ngati mutatseka izi mwachangu momwe mungathere, mutha kukhala ndi moyo wodzaza ndi chisangalalo ndikuchita bwino, chisangalalo ndi tanthauzo.