Kodi ndizotheka kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akhale ndi ubale wapamtima koma wokondana kwambiri? M’zochitika zambiri, zimenezi ndi nthano, akutero profesa wa zamaganizo Clifford Lazarus. Ndiponsotu, ntchito zachisinthiko za amuna ndi akazi ziŵirizo zimaloŵetsamo zambiri osati chabe mabwenzi.
Tithokoze wanthanthi ndi mlembi John Gray yemwe, mu Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, adayambitsa fanizo lolondola kwambiri la Mars/Venus monga mapulaneti awiri osiyanasiyana okhala amuna ndi akazi osiyanasiyana.
Ndipo ngati n'zosavuta kwa anthu okhala ku Venus kukhazikitsa ndi kusunga maubwenzi a platonic ndi amuna, ndiye kuti anthu okhala ku Mars ali ndi ubwenzi woterewu, wosasokonezedwa ndi chilakolako chogonana, choipa kwambiri.
Ndipo ngakhale kuti akazi ena omwe ali paubwenzi ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo amakonda kukhala aamuna kwambiri - osapatula kugonana - ndipo amuna ena amakokera kwambiri paubwenzi wauzimu, zomwe zawachitikira zimatsimikizira kuti anthuwa ndi osiyana ndi lamuloli.
Kugonana kocheperako kumakhala kotengeka maganizo kwambiri, ndipo nthaŵi zambiri ubwenzi mosadziŵa umasanduka kukopana kapena kugwa m’chikondi.
Unyinji wa amuna ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amawunika mosazindikira mkazi aliyense wazaka zakubadwa malinga ndi kukopa kwake pakugonana komanso kukhudzika kwake.
Azimayi amathanso kusonyeza chilakolako chogonana, koma amakonda kuyang'ana pa zinthu zosagonana zomwe angakhale ndi chidwi ndi mwamuna watsopano kwa iwo. Chifukwa cha makhalidwe osiyanasiyana otere chagona pa kusiyana kwa zolinga zimene chilengedwe chimaika kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi.
Umuna waumuna ndiwotsika mtengo komanso wosavuta kubereka. Ndipo munthu akamazigwiritsa ntchito nthawi zambiri komanso mokangalika, m'pamenenso amapambana kwambiri.
Azimayi amabadwa ndi zochepa za follicles mu thumba losunga mazira lomwe lingathe kubereka dzira. Ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali cha metabolic chomwe sichingabwerezedwenso.
Komanso, mkazi amaganizira za thupi ndi maganizo maganizo kugwirizana ndi mimba. Choncho, mwachisinthiko, amakakamizika kusamala kwambiri za malo ake osungira mazira, omwe amapereka ana, ndipo ndi ofunika kwambiri posankha anthu ogonana nawo.
Azimayi amatha kukana kukongola kwa thupi ndi kugonana kwa mwamuna ndikusunga ubale pa platonic. Zimenezi zimawathandiza kuti adziŵe bwino munthuyo ndi kuona kuti ndi woyenerera (kapena ayi) kaamba ka maubwenzi apamtima owonjezereka, zimene zimaika thayo lalikulu losayerekezeka kwa mwamuna wofookayo kusiyana ndi amphamvu.
Amuna, kumbali ina, safunikira kuyang'ana kutali kwambiri za m'tsogolo, motero amagonja mosavuta ku zilakolako za kugonana.
Kusiyana kwakukulu kumeneku pakati pa amuna ndi akazi kumathandizira kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake amuna nthawi zambiri amawona chidwi chochokera kwa mkazi ngati chizindikiro cha chidwi chogonana, ndipo akazi amadabwa pamene bwenzi ladzulo likuchita "zonyansa."
Chikhalidwe chatsopano cha chikhalidwe cha anthu - «abwenzi opindula» - chimakhudza kugonana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi omwe ali mabwenzi chabe
Amuna ali achindunji kwambiri pankhaniyi - ngati pachiyambi adagwirizana kuti anali mabwenzi chabe, ndiye kuti amayembekezera chimodzimodzi kwa mkazi. Koma kugonana kofooka kumakhala kotengeka maganizo kwambiri, ndipo nthaŵi zambiri ubwenzi mosadziŵa umasanduka kukopana kapena kugwa m’chikondi.
Kuphatikiza apo, pokhulupirirana wina ndi mnzake ndi zinsinsi za moyo wanu, mumadziwana bwino, fufuzani zofooka, phunzirani kuwongolera, kotero mutha kugwiritsa ntchito chidziwitsochi mosasamala kuti mugonjetse mnzanu. Ndipo izi zadzaza ndi zotsatira zake.
Chizoloŵezi chatsopano cha “mabwenzi opindula,” chimene mwamuna ndi mkazi amakhalabe chabe mabwenzi koma amagonana nthaŵi ndi nthaŵi, chingawonekere kulola onse aŵiriwo kupeŵa kunamizira kuti palibe kukangana kogonana pakati pathu. .
Komabe, maubwenzi oterowo ndi abwino kwa amuna komanso osakhutiritsa kwa akazi. Kwa anthu okhala ku Venus, izi ndizovuta, chifukwa mwa chikhalidwe chawo amakonda kukhala ndi ubale wapamtima komanso wautali ndi mnzake.