Ndithudi, ambiri m’maganizo ali ndi chithunzi chodziŵika cha munthu wokalamba wovulaza amene salola mbadwo wachichepere kukhala mwamtendere. Kusasunthika kwa anthu ena kaŵirikaŵiri kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi kubwera kwa ukalamba. Timakumana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo chifukwa chake zimakhala zovuta kuyanjana ndi okalamba komanso ngati chifukwa chake ndi zaka zokha.
Alexandra, wophunzira filosofi wazaka 21, anachezera agogo ake m’chilimwe kudzacheza nawo ndi “kuwaseketsa ndi nthabwala ndi nthabwala polimbana ndi matenda awo mosalekeza.” Koma sizinali zophweka ...
“Agogo anga aakazi ali ndi umunthu waukali komanso waufupi. Monga ndikumvetsetsa, analinso chimodzimodzi paunyamata wake, kuweruza ndi nkhani za abambo anga. Koma m’zaka zake zakucheperachepera, zikuoneka kuti wafookeratu! amalemba.
"Agogo aakazi amatha kunena zinthu zowawa mwadzidzidzi, akhoza kukwiya mwadzidzidzi popanda chifukwa chilichonse, akhoza kuyamba kukangana ndi agogo aamuna, chifukwa kwa iye ndi gawo linalake la moyo wa anthu!" Sasha akuseka, ngakhale kuti mwina sasangalala.
"Kulumbira ndi agogo ake ndi gawo losalekanitsidwa la moyo wake"
“Mwachitsanzo, lero agogo anga aakazi, monga amanenera, anadzuka ndi phazi lolakwika, kotero kuti mkati mwa zokambirana zathu anandidula ndi mawu akuti “Ndikukuuzani chinachake, koma mumandisokoneza!” kumanzere. Ndinagwedeza mapewa anga, ndipo pambuyo pa theka la ola nkhondoyo inayiwalika, monga momwe zimakhalira ndi mikangano yonseyi.
Sasha akuwona zifukwa ziwiri za khalidweli. Choyamba ndi ukalamba wakuthupi: “Nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zowawa. Iye akuvutika, ndipo mkhalidwe woipa wakuthupi uwu, mwachiwonekere, umakhudza mkhalidwe wa psyche.
Chachiwiri ndi kuzindikira kufooka kwa munthu ndi kusadzithandiza: «Ichi ndi kuipidwa ndi kukwiya paukalamba, zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti azidalira ena.
Katswiri wa zamaganizo Olga Krasnova, mmodzi wa alembi a bukhu lakuti Personality Psychology of the Elderly and Persons with Disabilities, akutsimikizira maganizo a Sasha kuti: “Pali zinthu zambiri zokhudza chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi zochititsa chidwi zimene zimakhudza zimene tikutanthauza ponena za “khalidwe loipitsidwa” — ngakhale kuti II ndikuganiza kuti anthu amanyonyotsoka. ndi zaka.
Zomwe zimachitikira pagulu zikuphatikizapo, makamaka, kupuma pantchito, ngati kukutanthauza kutaya udindo, malipiro, ndi chidaliro. Somatic - kusintha thanzi. Munthu amapeza matenda aakulu ndi msinkhu, amamwa mankhwala omwe amakhudza kukumbukira ndi ntchito zina zamaganizo.
Nayenso, Dokotala wa Psychology Marina Ermolaeva amakhulupirira kuti khalidwe la okalamba silimangowonongeka ndipo, nthawi zina likhoza kusintha. Ndipo kudzikuza kumatenga gawo lalikulu pano.
"Munthu akamakula, ndiye kuti, akadzigonjetsa, amadzifufuza yekha, amapeza zinthu zosiyanasiyana, ndipo malo ake okhalamo, dziko lake limakula. Mfundo zatsopano zimakhalapo kwa iye: zokumana nazo zaluso, mwachitsanzo, chikondi cha chilengedwe, kapena malingaliro achipembedzo.
Zikuoneka kuti muukalamba pali zifukwa zambiri zokhalira achimwemwe kuposa unyamata. Kupeza chidziwitso, mumaganiziranso lingaliro la kukhala weniweni. Choncho, n’zosadabwitsa kuti zidzukulu zimakondweretsa kwambiri kuposa ana achichepere.
Munthu ali ndi zaka 20 pakati pa kupuma pantchito ndi kuchepa kwathunthu
Koma ngati chirichonse chiri chokongola kwambiri, nchifukwa ninji chifaniziro ichi cha nkhalamba yokwiya chidakalipo? Katswiri wa zamaganizo akufotokoza kuti: “Umunthu umapangidwa m’chitaganya. Munthu wokhwima amakhala ndi maudindo akuluakulu m'deralo pamene amatenga nawo mbali pa moyo wake wopindulitsa - chifukwa cha ntchito, kulera ana, ndi kungodziwa mbali ya moyo.
Ndipo munthu akapuma, sakhala ndi malo aliwonse pakati pa anthu. Umunthu wake watayika, dziko la moyo wake likucheperachepera, komabe sakufuna izi! Tsopano yerekezerani kuti pali anthu amene akhala akuchita ntchito zoipa moyo wawo wonse ndipo akhala akulakalaka kusiya ntchito kuyambira ali aang’ono.
Nanga anthuwa atani? M'dziko lamakono, munthu ali ndi nthawi ya zaka 20 pakati pa kupuma pantchito ndi kuchepa kwathunthu.
Zowonadi: Kodi munthu wachikulire atha bwanji, atataya ubale wawo wanthawi zonse komanso malo awo padziko lapansi, athane ndi malingaliro odziona ngati opanda pake? Marina Ermolaeva amapereka yankho lenileni la funso ili:
"Muyenera kupeza ntchito yomwe ingafuneke ndi munthu wina osati inu, koma ganiziraninso zosangalatsa ngati ntchito. Nachi chitsanzo kwa inu pamlingo watsiku ndi tsiku: ntchito ndi, mwachitsanzo, kukhala ndi zidzukulu zanu.
Choipa kwambiri ndi pamene ili ntchito yopuma: "Ndingathe kuchita, sindingathe (chifukwa cha kuthamanga kwa magazi, mafupa opweteka) sindingathe kuchita." Ndipo ntchito ndi pamene “Ndingathe—ndimachita, sindingathe—ndimachitabe, chifukwa palibe amene angachite koma ine! Ndidzakhumudwitsa anthu oyandikana nawo! Ntchito ndiyo njira yokhayo yoti munthu akhalepo. "
Nthawi zonse tiyenera kugonjetsa chikhalidwe chathu
Chinthu chinanso chofunika kwambiri chimene chimasonkhezera umunthu ndicho, ndithudi, maunansi a m’banja. “Vuto la okalamba kaŵirikaŵiri limakhala lakuti sanamangire ndipo sakupanga maubale ndi ana awo.
Mfundo yaikulu pankhaniyi ndi khalidwe lathu ndi osankhidwa awo. Ngati titha kukonda mnzake wapamtima wa mwana wathu monga momwe timamkondera, tidzakhala ndi ana awiri. Ngati sitingathe, sipadzakhala mmodzi. Ndipo anthu osungulumwa amakhala osasangalala.”
"Kudzidalira kwa munthu ndiye chinsinsi cha ukulu wake," akukumbukira mawu a Pushkin Yermolaev. Makhalidwe a munthu amadalira iye pa msinkhu uliwonse.
“Nthaŵi zonse tiyenera kugonjetsa chibadwa chathu: kukhala ndi thanzi labwino ndi kuchichita monga ntchito; kumakula nthawi zonse, ngakhale chifukwa cha izi muyenera kudzigonjetsa nokha. Ndiye zonse zikhala bwino, "katswiriyo akutsimikiza.