Psychology

Mndandanda wa mabuku osapambana ukhoza kulepheretsa kudzidalira. Mtolankhani Christina Hain amakhulupirira kuti chifukwa cholephera ndi chakuti timasankha amuna olakwika. Analemba zinthu zisanu zimene zimamulepheretsa kupeza mwamuna woti akwatirane naye.

Mukakumana ndi mwamuna, zonse zikuyenda bwino. Koma nthawi ina, epiphany imabwera - sizomwe mumaganiza. Chithunzi chake ndi chopangidwa ndi malingaliro. Nthawi zonse ankangonyalanyaza mafoni ochokera kwa amayi ake, sankatsuka sinki yosambira. Ubalewu ulibe tsogolo, koma munangonyalanyaza chilichonse. Nazi zifukwa zisanu zomwe izi zikuchitika.

Mwachititsidwa khungu ndi chithumwa

Tangoganizani - mukudya chakudya chamadzulo ndi njonda yatsopano. Mumakondwera naye: ndiwokongola komanso amakusekani nthawi zonse. Chifukwa cha chithumwa chake, adzatsimikizira aliyense kuti alibe mlandu uliwonse. Chithumwa si woyipa. Koma nthawi zambiri zimatisocheretsa: timasokoneza chithumwa ndi khalidwe.

Amalemba mauthenga okhudza mtima, amapangitsa mtima wake kugunda mofulumira, amatsinzina mochititsa chidwi komanso akuwoneka modabwitsa. Mosapeweka timamva chisoni. Timaganiza kuti iye ndi wangwiro m’njira iliyonse. Uku ndikulakwitsa. Manja okongola alibe chochita ndi mfundo zamakhalidwe abwino.

Musamakhulupirire mwachimbulimbuli zithumwa za chithumwa. Bwino kuyang'ana zochita. Samalani mmene iye alili wodzipereka kwa okondedwa ake, kaya ali wowona mtima kwa inu ndi ena, kaya amasunga malonjezo ake.

Mukuyang'ana amuna malo amodzi

Mumapita ku mipiringidzo imodzimodzi nthawi zonse, thamangani njira yomweyo, mumathera nthawi yanu yopuma mofanana. Palibe zodabwitsa inu mumakumana ndi mtundu womwewo wa anthu. Sikophweka kusintha ndondomeko yanu ndi kuchoka kumalo anu otonthoza, koma ndikofunikira.

Kusintha kwa moyo kudzakhala kopindulitsa. Nthawi ina mukafuna kupita ku cafe kukawerenga buku, pitani ku nyumba yosungiramo zinthu zakale. Yambani kupita kumalo atsopano. Pezani zosangalatsa zatsopano ndikulembetsa maphunziro. Mutha kukumana ndi anthu omwe simukuwadziwa.

Mukunyalanyaza zizindikiro zochenjeza

Ndi wodziwa mwachidwi, sikophweka kumvetsetsa kuti ndani, koma zizindikiro zoopsa zimakhalapo nthawi zonse. Ngati mukuona kuti chinachake sichili bwino pamene akunena kapena kuchita chinachake, ndiye kuti mukudzutsa. Chidziwitso chanu chimakuuzani kuti mumvetsere.

Zifukwa ndi zosiyana. Madzulo aliwonse pambuyo pa zisanu amasiya kulemba ndi kuitana. Mwakhala pachibwenzi kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ndipo samakudziwitsani kwa abwenzi ake. Mumaona zinthu apa ndi apo zomwe zimakukwiyitsani kapena kukuvutitsani. Khalani owona mtima nokha. Mudzapulumutsa nthawi ndikudzipulumutsa ku kupsinjika maganizo.

Mukutsimikiza kuti mutha kusintha

Munaona zizindikiro zochenjeza ndipo munaziganizira. Chofunika ndi momwe mumachitira. Tonsefe timakhulupirira kuti anthu akhoza kusintha chifukwa cha ife. "Ngati ndikutanthauza kanthu kwa iye, asintha." Akhoza kusintha, koma ngati akufuna. Zolinga zanu sizikuthandizani. Nthawi zambiri anthu amabwerera ku zizolowezi zakale. Musadabwe akabwerera kwa yemwe anali. Ganizirani ngati ndinu wokonzeka kuvomereza ndi zolakwika zomwe zimakwiyitsa. Ngati sichoncho, ndi bwino kuchoka.

Mumakonza pa mfundo

Mukuyang'ana mnyamata wochezeka amene amakonda agalu, mwamuna wokhala ndi nyumba yemwe amadziwa kuphika. Mumadziwa kuti mukufuna munthu wotani, zili bwino. Koma nthawi zina timangotengera mikhalidwe yathu ndikuphonya chinthu chachikulu. Makhalidwe abwino omwe amawoneka okongola pamapepala si chitsimikizo cha ubale wachimwemwe.

Mukakumana ndi munthu watsopano, kumbukirani njira zanu, koma musalole kuti akhale osankha. Khalani omasuka ku zinthu zatsopano. Mwina amene angakufananitseni bwino ndi mwamuna yemwe simunamuganizirepo.

Siyani Mumakonda