Onsewa amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro ndi zochita za ena. Amakonda kukhala chete ndipo amafuna kuthandiza anthu ena. Amanyansidwa ndi malo odzaza ndi anthu komanso fungo lamphamvu. Komabe, katswiri wa zamaganizo Judith Orloff akuumirira kuti kumvera chisoni kumakhala ndi mikhalidwe yawoyawo. Tiyeni tiyese kuzilingalira.
Monga katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi wachifundo, nthawi zambiri ndimafunsidwa funso: "Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa chifundo ndi anthu okhudzidwa kwambiri?" Mitundu yamalingaliro awa nthawi zambiri imasokonezeka chifukwa imakhala ndi zofanana.
Onsewa ali ndi gawo locheperako la kukhudzika, kotero kukondoweza kulikonse kumamveka mwamphamvu kwambiri. Chifukwa cha izi, amawona kuwala kowala kwambiri, phokoso lalikulu, fungo lamphamvu. Onse aŵiri amaona kufunika kokhala okha kwa kanthaŵi ndipo sangathe kupirira khamu lalikulu la anthu.
Koma anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la hypersensitive amafunikira nthawi yochulukirapo kuti achire ku tsiku lotopetsa komanso kuzolowera malo abata. Pafupifupi onse a iwo ndi introverts, pamene pakati amamvera chisoni palinso extroverts.
Omvera chisoni amagawana chikondi chachilengedwe ndi malo abata, komanso chidwi chawo chofuna kuthandiza ena. Onse ali ndi moyo wolemera wamkati.
Komabe, omvera chisoni amakhala zonse zomwe zimawachitikira, wina anganene, pamlingo wapamwamba. Amawonetsedwa ndi mphamvu zobisika - mu miyambo ya Kum'mawa amatchedwa shakti kapena prana - ndipo amawatenga kuchokera kwa anthu ena, kuwachotsa ku chilengedwe. Anthu a hypersensitive, monga lamulo, sangathe kuchita izi.
Zomvera zambiri zimakhala ndi kulumikizana kwakukulu kwauzimu ndi chilengedwe ndi nyama zakuthengo.
Anthu omvera chisoni ali ngati chida chokhudzidwa kwambiri, chochunidwa bwino kwambiri pankhani ya kutengeka mtima. Iwo ali ngati chinkhupule chomwe chikunyowetsa nkhawa, zowawa ndi nkhawa za munthu wina. Nthawi zambiri izi zimatsogolera ku mfundo yakuti sikophweka kwa iwo kuzindikira chomwe chinayambitsa kusapeza - zochitika za anthu ena kapena zawo.
Komabe, amaonanso zabwino za anthu omwe ali nawo pafupi. Kuonjezera apo, ambiri omvera chisoni ali ndi chiyanjano chakuya chauzimu ndi chilengedwe, dziko la nyama, lomwe, monga lamulo, silinganene za anthu omwe ali ndi hypersensitivity.
Komabe, mitundu yamalingaliro awa samapatula wina ndi mnzake, ndipo amafanana kwambiri kuposa kusiyana. N'zotheka kuti munthu yemweyo akhale wachifundo komanso wokhudzidwa ndi hypersensitive nthawi imodzi. Koma ngati muyika anthu onse kuti muwonjezere kumvera chisoni, mumapeza chithunzi chotsatirachi:
M'magulu awa, chifundo ndi chosiyana kwambiri ndi anthu omwe amalankhula zamatsenga ndi sociopaths, omwe amadziwika kuti alibe chifundo. Pakatikati mwa sikelo iyi imayikidwa zikhalidwe zomwezo za hypersensitive ndi anthu omwe ali ndi mphamvu zokwanira komanso zokhazikika zosonyeza chifundo.
Kodi ndine womvera chisoni?
Powerenga malongosoledwe, mukuganiza kuti zonsezi zimakukumbutsani inu? Kuti muwone ngati ndinu womvera chisoni, dzifunseni mafunso awa:
Kodi anthu amaganiza kuti ndine "wotengeka kwambiri" kapena kuti ndine wokhudzidwa kwambiri?
Ngati mnzanga wasokonezeka ndi kukhumudwa, kodi inenso ndimayamba kumva chimodzimodzi?
Kodi ndimavulala msanga?
Kodi ndatopa kwambiri kukhala m’gulu la anthu moti zimanditengera nthawi kuti ndibwererenso?
Kodi ndimasokonezedwa ndi phokoso, fungo kapena kukambirana mokweza?
Ndimakonda kubwera kuphwando pagalimoto yanga kuti ndizinyamuka nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndikufuna?
Kodi ndimadya kwambiri kuti ndithane ndi kupsinjika maganizo?
Kodi ndikuwopa kuti ndidzathetsedwa kwathunthu ndi maubwenzi apamtima?
Ngati mwayankha inde ku mafunso opitilira 3, mwapeza mtundu wamalingaliro anu.